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As I sat in a pedi chair, Jason, the owner of the nail salon, walked past just as the nail tech, John, was massaging my big feet.
"Suzanna, feel the massage," Jason said matter-of-factly.
He had noticed I was focused on my phone, looking down while playing a game (my favorite - Triple 3D Match).
OMGosh, right he was! I actually was not feeling anything happening south of my knees. Why not?
I tossed the phone in my purse, settled back, closed my green eyes, and focused instead on the splendid foot and leg massage happening - one I would have actually missed had Jason not pointed out that I was not living in the moment.
Feeling the marvelous massage was way better than clearing the next level of the game ... I was winning points in real life instead.
What lately are you not feeling / getting / winning / focusing on because you are multi-tasking and preoccupied?
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Pushing away a spouse/partner who passes by you in the kitchen with a frisky feel?
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Stopping our tears because we "shouldn't" or are "embarrassed" to cry in front of others?
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Being more interested in the magazine, television, or DIY project than the toddler or pup who approaches you to play?
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Pulling away early from someone's good long hug?
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Feeling too self-conscious in a nail salon to relax, close your eyes and enjoy the attention?
Snippeteers, we say and we think we can multitask effectively - and that we are good at it (especially as females), but can we? Are we? (Seems the more I try it these days, the more A.D.D. it feels.)
How can we focus on one task (or person) fully and 100% while doing another task? I do not think we actually can.
Why do sometimes we have so much trouble living in the moment? The moment is all that matters.
Fast forward 2.5 weeks to my next pedi ... and you can bet your bippy when it came time for that foot & leg massage, I was gonna FEEL IT ... focus on it. I did not pull out my phone. I turned on the pulsating pedi chair, closed my eyes, and accepted the warm foot bath, gentle pedicure, lotion-rubbing, pink nail polishing, and a splendid muscle massage from the talented John. (All for which I was paying good money + tip.)
And it was marvelous.
Get in the moment ... 100%.
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SNIPPETS HOMEWORK
Attempt to finish one task before moving on to the next, instead of starting five things and completing none. (Sound familiar?)
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"I'm the total opposite. Every time I get an Amazon delivery, I love telling them they did a great job. UPS is also great and we let them know. I love telling people when they do a good job, I think it's fun, especially for the hard delivery workers at Amazon."
~ Karan A, Middle River, Maryland
"ALWAYS rate my deliveries with Amazon. It takes 2 seconds and why not give positive feedback? I always think it is a GOOD thing to compliment someone, so if I can do that for my Amazon driver - why not? It isn't a job I would want to do, and I appreciate them!"
~ Rose M in Maryland
"I think that 'thumbs up' reaction should occur when you are calling to complain about an issue, too. After all, the person you are speaking with undoubtedly had nothing to do with the issue you are having. That old line about not killing the messenger."
~ joanne in new york
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FOR the soul of Miss Loretta
FOR Carolyn, snippeteer Kelly, Lou, Faith, and Kevin on the loss of their husband / dad / father-in-law / grandpa; for the soul of Dale A.
FOR Andy moved to a support home
FOR Carmella healing from 2 broken wrists and surgery after a fall
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it's possible that
each perceived disruption in your life
is actually the creation of an opening
for new things to manifest
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If you have not yet seen the movie, Barbie, I would highly encourage it - any gender, any age! The movie is well done, quite entertaining (especially the colorful set), extremely funny, and very very PINK - and pretty! It will bring back childhood memories of playing with dolls, and it sounds off a handful of excellent messages: about the power of women, about mother/daughter, about that we women can be and do whatever we want to be and do, and about not bending naturally to society to need a man just because it's expected. And it has a great talented cast.
I absolutely loved it - saw it twice! Now, this dialogue below from the movie is not a SPOILER ALERT - the words are just so great, I had to share it. This was delivered flawlessly and brava-Academy-Award-winner-style by actress, America Ferrara (who played in the series, Ugly Betty - also excellent and funny!) Here it is ...
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"It is literally impossible to be a woman," Gloria says to Barbie. "You are so beautiful and so smart, and it kills me you don’t think you’re good enough. Like, we have to always be extraordinary, but somehow we’re always doing it wrong.
You have to be thin, but not too thin. And you can never say you want to be thin. You have to say you want to be healthy, but also you have to be thin. You have to have money, but you can’t ask for money because that’s crass. You have to be a boss, but you can’t be mean. You have to lead, but you can’t squash other people’s ideas.
You’re supposed to love being a mother, but don’t talk about your kids all the damn time. You have to be a career woman, but also, always looking out for other people. You have to answer for men’s bad behavior, which is insane, but if you point that out, you’re accused of complaining.
You’re supposed to stay pretty for men, but not so pretty that you tempt them too much or that you threaten other women, because you’re supposed to be a part of the sisterhood. But always stand out and always be grateful. And never forget that the system is rigged. So find a way to acknowledge that, while still being grateful.
You have to never get old, never be rude, never show off, never be selfish, never fall down, never fail, never show fear, never get out of line. It’s too hard! It’s too contradictory and nobody gives you a medal or says thank you.
And it turns out, in fact, that not only are you doing everything wrong, but also everything is your fault.
I’m just so tired of watching myself and every other woman tie herself into knots so that people will like us.
And if all of that is also true for a doll just representing women ... then I don’t even know."
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SNIPPETS of inspiration
since February 2006 ...
celebrating 17 years!
Ciao until you snippet again,
suzanna rosa molino singleton
SNIPPETS creator
/writer /editor /author
/graphic designer
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