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5 Essential Steps for Making Your Divorce Less Painful
When your “I do” becomes an “I don’t,” you will be facing a number of decisions that can have a profound effect on your life -- and the lives of your children if you have them -- for years to come. Use this 5-step roadmap to help you navigate your way through your divorce so you can end your journey with a better life:

1. Know what you want, need, and don’t want.

If life is a river, a divorce can feel like going over rocky rapids in a beer cooler. Some people just want to float along the top like a leaf, letting the current take them wherever it wants. This is not a good way to handle a divorce. You need to be clear about what you want, what you need, and what you don’t want. If it helps, make a list with those three columns and then make yourself honestly assess what you should put in each column.  It also helps to know what your spouse’s wants/needs/don’t wants list looks like, to get important insight into how to negotiate better.

2. Know that now it’s business.

When you got married, you entered into a contract and when you get divorced, it’s about dissolving that contract. There are laws that govern the dissolution of marriage, including the division of debts and assets, and assigning responsibility for child custody and support, spousal support, etc. Even though there may be a lot of emotions attached to the dissolution of your marriage contract, it is important for you to navigate the business aspects of this process with your understandable emotions in check.

3. Know your financials.

Even before you file for divorce, it's best to know your entire financial picture very well. Having this knowledge enables you to make good financial decisions during your divorce negotiations. It is not uncommon for one spouse to do most of the financial work in a marriage. If it’s that way in your marriage and you are not the one holding the purse strings, educate yourself quickly about your assets, debts, income, and budget. Seek out a financial consultant if you need help.

4. Create your support team.

Your friends and family can be a source of emotional support, but when it comes to getting what you want and need from your divorce negotiations, you need a professional team to help you. You will need an attorney that specializes in family law. You will probably need a financial consultant. You may even need a therapist. These three can help you navigate the most important aspects of divorce: legal, financial, and emotional. They can help you keep on track so you don’t waste time, money, and unnecessary emotion on fighting for something that is unattainable.

5. Keep your future in mind.

While it is always better to remain on good terms with your ex during a divorce, it is vitally important that you not sign a bad deal that puts your future in jeopardy. Make it a goal to keep looking forward, not back, as you negotiate your settlement terms.  
“Although the world is full of suffering, it is full also of the overcoming of it.” 

~ Hellen Keller
Birthday Bygones
I woke up with a jump-start. I showered, shaved, and slathered on my favorite smelling lotion. Despite day 41 of sheltering in place, I was determined. It was my birthday. I LOVE birthdays! I was going to make this day feel as pre-pandemic as possible – and the next day. My newly minted sixteen-year-old and I share back-to-back birthdays. For her milestone day with no driving to be done – I was on a magic making mission.

The day started with a sweet delivery from my dear friend – literally a box full of treats from the best bakery in town. When I picked up my girls from their dad’s house they were infused with the enthusiasm that birthdays were about to bring. My mom, my sister and my best friend all individually called to serenade me with the birthday song.

Coach's Corner
with Susan Ann Koenig
State of the World
“Just the state of the world,” she said, tears falling one by one. She brushed her long brown hair—that had grown considerably longer this year—off of her downcast face. She hardly knew where to begin.

This day, like all since the start of the pandemic, she gave every ounce of dwindling energy to her job. Her couch joined her little dog in becoming a constant companion. Even with a shortened workday, she was exhausted.

The number of Covid-19 deaths everywhere continued to climb by the day.

Who is Koenig|Dunne?
For over 35 years, the Koenig|Dunne team has been helping people pick up the pieces of their life to make a new start. Bringing a family business back from the brink of financial ruin. Sheltering a child from the conflict of a custody battle. We do this work because its work we know matters.

Whether an amicable collaboration or lengthy litigation lies ahead, we’re the team who will empower you on your path to a better future, from start to finish. That’s a promise. We promise you – we will see you, hear you, and stand by you. Learn More
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