What kind of thoughts are you feeding yourself? Are they

constructive, nourishing, and uplifting?

Dear Suzanne,

December often sweeps us into a whirl of celebrations and “eating events.” January is spent recovering from it! People often make resolutions about eating better. But, how often do we remember to pay attention to what we are feeding our minds and hearts?

The expression “food for thought” is worth considering. What does it really mean?

It’s whatever information, ideas, news, conversations, opinions, and feelings we absorb each day. Just as importantly as what we take in from outside sources, it's also the way we speak to ourselves.

As I was preparing for family gatherings and entertaining over the holidays, I found myself feeling overwhelmed and exhausted and moody. I needed, as the saying goes, “a moment to gather my wits.” I took a few deep breaths, slowed down, and recognized my self-talk. I'd been barking at myself, pushing and rushing to try to make everything "perfect" for others.

Sound familiar?

The turning point to a little serenity came when I listened to my body. I felt the familiar tightness in my chest. It’s my body’s usual way of saying, I am stressed and anxious!! My mind finally caught up, identifying my own unreasonable demands and expectations. I needed to change my thinking (and tone!), replace my harshness with more supportive thoughts (essentially providing myself the mental and emotional equivalent of a healthy meal). I imagined how I’d speak to a friend in the same situation. As I eased up on myself, my mood improved, the pressure I felt lifted, and though not everything on my list got done, the evening turned out quite nicely.

Below, in this month’s Sip of Serenity, I offer a 5-step exercise to help you refocus your thoughts, changing your own mental “menu” to set you on a new course as this new year begins.

I'd love to hear your experiences with the exercise or "food for thought." What's working for you? Feel free to reach out to me.

Wishing you a healthy, joyful, and peaceful 2025!

With love and light,

Suzanne

Sip of Serenity from Oasis in the Overwhelm™

Ask yourself: What are the thoughts, ideas, and information I want to take in as well as encourage in myself so that I can be my best? 

Step 1: Place a hand on your belly and one on your chest. Take three slow, deep breaths.

Step 2: Close your eyes and check in with your body, mind, and spirit.

Step 3: As you breathe, pay attention to the air as it moves in your nose and down into your lungs. Notice how you can feel your belly, back, and sides move with each breath.

Step 4: Imagine someone or something you love. Observe which thoughts create a glow of warmth and the ease of peace in your system.

Step 5: Continue these mindful breaths and follow these thoughts and sensations. When you open your eyes, take a moment to jot down insights and ideas before moving on with the rest of your day.

Nourish yourself well—as you would a loved one.

Since 2009, Suzanne has inspired transformation as a coach, author, and speaker. With over 25 years of research and training, her custom-tailored approach combines science-based strategies, somatic practices, and creative collaboration. This empowers a wide range of clients—from artists and stay-at-home moms to business leaders—to reimagine their stories and achieve freedom, joy, and success on their own terms.

Born to a Dominican mother and a father raised in New England, Suzanne grew up as the youngest of six children, which gave her a deep appreciation for diverse perspectives. As both an academic and an empath, she excels at connecting with others and bridging generational, cultural, and linguistic divides, fostering harmony and understanding in relationships.

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