PFLAG Alamance Monthly Meeting 
Welcoming new people and old friends

Tuesday, September 13, 2022
7:00 p.m.

A Very Special Meeting Next Week

We will meet as usual at Elon Community Church
271 N. Williamson Ave.
Park and Enter from the rear. Plenty of parking there


Join Us Next Week for A Short Video Preview


"A compelling new documentary that hopes to humanize the faces and experiences of those within the transgender community"


We have secured copies of this significant documentary video that challenges us to set aside our notions of what it means to be a man or a woman. By taking us on a journey with eyes that see the world differently, JUST GENDER explores the diversity within the transgender community, as well as the depth of transgender experience in day-to-day living.

So that you and others can understand some of what this video does. we will show one section at our meeting on September 13. We are considering showing the full length movie at a future date for a larger audience and we need your feelings about taking this step.

Even if you haven't been in our meetings lately, consider joining us for this short 20 minute viewing as part of our meeting next week.
From NBC News. . . .

Over half of LGBTQ Southerners say their parents tried to change or repress their identity, report finds

Transgender participants and people of color were more likely to say that a caregiver tried to change or repress their LGBTQ identity.

Sept. 2, 2022

Though public support for pro-LGBTQ policies is at an all-time high, many queer people living in the South report that a caregiver tried to change their LGBTQ identity, a new survey found

More than half, or about 58%, of lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender and queer people living in 13 Southern states reported that a parent or caregiver tried to change or repress their sexual orientation or gender identity, according to a survey published this week by the Campaign for Southern Equality, which promotes LGBTQ equality across the South.
Some groups were more likely to report experiencing such efforts: More than two-thirds of transgender participants (68.7%) and participants of color (67.5%) reported experiencing these efforts, compared to 50.8% of cisgender participants and 57.4% of white participants. Younger LGBTQ Southerners, those ages 18-24, were also more likely to report that a caregiver tried to change or repress their identity (64.4%) compared to those 25 and older (51.1%). 

The Campaign for Southern Equality partnered with Campus Pride, which advocates for LGBTQ inclusivity and safety at U.S. colleges and universities, to survey 4,146 LGBTQ Southerners in the fall of 2021. The new survey's questions covered family, faith, education and health.

Austin H. Johnson, the director of the Campaign for Southern Equality’s Research & Policy Center and an assistant professor of sociology at Kenyon College, said in a statement that the dominant narrative emerging from the survey data “is that thousands of individuals throughout the South are not getting the social support they need and deserve at home, in schools, and in their communities.” 

“This lack of support and inclusion is disempowering and may cause detrimental harm to their mental and physical wellbeing, especially when that lack of support gets compounded with clear, state-sponsored discrimination such as the passage of anti-LGBTQ laws,” he stated.

Something to Think About . . .
by Cindy Davis
Labels Are Fables

When I was growing up, I never thought about being gay. I’m not sure that I really knew what it meant, being gay. What I did know was that I thought tons of girls at school were super cute and that I loved talking to them and thinking about them. When I met “Hildie”, in the sixth grade, the stakes got a bit higher. Each day after class, Hildie and I would head to her house, where there was absolutely no supervision, and we would play “boyfriend and girlfriend”. Interesting, that we didn’t play “girlfriend and girlfriend”, but suffice it to say, our “relationship” quickly progressed from handholding to small kisses and hugs. I am certain that I was in love with her, and hoped she felt the same. Shortly after our first year in middle school she announced that she had met “Brian” and that he would be spending afternoons at her house with her. I was heartbroken. And I was confused. What made matters worse was that Hildie’s mother prohibited her from seeing me because she thought I was a source of stress in her daughter’s life. Somewhere, there is irony in that.

Like some of us, I grew up with the general expectation that I would find a nice boy and get married – a nice Jewish boy at that. I guess I swept the idea of meeting a nice girl under the proverbial carpet, not giving it much thought at the time. It “seemed sensible” to marry a boy, so I did. Four of them. And only two were Jewish, but who’s counting? They never lasted long and were fraught with drama. I did, however, make the decision that I’d never get married again. (To a boy, of course)

Fast-forward 20+ years, when I meet the true love of my life. She is everything I had wished for in a boy: warm, generous, loyal, trustworthy, and pretty darn cute. It’s been amazing to have a romantic best friend. Our sexual orientation is a part of who we are. We are both so substantial and multi-textured. We have plenty of interests and enjoy both our gay and our heterosexual friends.

 A few weeks ago, my partner and I were having dinner at a friend’s house. We were a small party, 4 couples, one of whom we were meeting for the first time. “Sally”, began going around the room, asking each of us how many years we had been with our partners. There were the usual “oh’s” and “aah’s” until she landed on us, and she seemed incredulous when I reported - 23 years. This was followed by a honey-coated, “Really? Now, that’s amazing”. Oh, how I wish Sally hadn’t said that! It was clear that she had a different expectation, a label, about the sustainability of a gay marriage versus a heterosexual one. My brain quickly calculated my next move: Am I going to challenge Sally with my heated reply or let it go? Yes, it bothered me, that once again, my tribe was being stereotyped. Digging deep, my wise self reminded me that Sally’s limited perceptions are not a reflection on me, or on any LGBTQ folks. Labels don’t define us, rather they are a reflection of the possessor. Knowing who we are allows us to discard what’s not important. It allows us to pick our battles and feel at peace.
 
 Cindy Davis is a retired Licensed Professional Counselor. 
She was an advice columnist for the Times-News, and is also a PFLAG Board Member.

Cindy can be contacted at cbdpflag@gmail.com

Watch for Cindy's column each month on our Newsletter
From NBC OUT. . .

U.S. sees progress on LGBTQ rights, but equality is lacking, U.N. expert says

The official said he is “extremely concerned” about state and local actions based “on prejudice and stigma, to attack and to roll back the rights of LGBT persons.”

By Associated Press

UNITED NATIONS — Enormous progress has been achieved in the last 50 years for lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender and queer people in the United States but unfortunately “equality is not yet within reach and in many cases not within sight” for LGBTQ communities, the independent U.N. expert on sexual orientation and gender identity said Tuesday.

Victor Madrigal-Borloz said at a U.N. news conference after a 10-day visit to the United States that he applauds President Joe Biden for “very powerful” executive actions during his first days in office seeking to eradicate discrimination and violence against the LGBTQ community. But he said he is “extremely concerned” about a concerted series of actions at the state and local level based “on prejudice and stigma, to attack and to roll back the rights of LGBT persons.”

Madrigal-Borloz said that in access to health, employment, education and housing, the LGBTQ community suffers.

Among young adults aged 18 to 25, for example, LGBTQ people have a 2.2 times greater risk of homelessness, 23% of LGBTQ adults of color have no health coverage, and in a recent study 43% of lesbian, gay and bisexual participants reported having suffered at least one act of discrimination or harassment, he said.


A New Service of PFLAG Alamance
Free Resouce Material . . .

PFLAG ALAMANCE HAS A NUMBER OF RESOURCE BOOKLETS THAT WE ARE ABLE TO OFFER FOR THOSE OF YOU WHO ARE SEEKING EDUCATIONAL MATERIAL
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Through the generosity of PFLAG Alamance suporters, we can now send you these excellent publications from PFLAG National without charge:

Our Sons and Daughters
Questions and Answers for Paremts amd families of LGBTQ+ people

Our Trans Loved Ones
Questions and Answers related to Transgender and Gender Expansive persons

Supporting Your LGBTQ+ Grandchild
Your relationship can grow even closer as your work to embrace your grandchid's identity

Just contact us and we will secure the material and send it as soon as possible (allow two weeks):

Email: info@pflagalamance.org
Phone: (336) 584-8722
Mail: PFLAG Alamane
PO Box 623 Elon, NC 27244



Another Effort by PFLAG National
to Spread the Word of Love and Accepance
All Across the Nation

We are excited to share that we will be partnering on a billboard campaign, aimed at spreading awareness and love for our LGBTQ+ loved ones, friends and their families, on digital billboards across the country. Have a Gay Day launched this program several weeks ago, and it’s been getting a ton of love from community members, in the press, and on social media. You might even have seen one of these billboards already in your own state, as yours is one of the states where this program launched!

A word to some of you we haven't seen in a while . . .
If you dont feel you need PFLAG any longer, PFLAG needs you! Your experience can make a difference.

P.O. Box 623,
Elon, NC 27244
Phone Number:
336-584-8722