What are we giving up when we give up our guilt and fear? Jesus says that we give up suffering, sadness, a sense of loss, anxiety, and doubt. Is that a sacrifice? Would we not willingly want to release the pain we experience in our lives? Yes, we certainly would if we could recognize that guilt and fear are at the core of all our dreams. Until we do, we are deceived. We think we are giving up something valuable. We are giving up being right about who we are and what the world is. We want to be in control. We like to be in charge of our lives, even at the cost of our peace and happiness.
We have not understood what makes us free ". . . nor where to look to find it." (W.321.1.1) We think we know what we need to make us feel safe and to be happy. Jesus tells us that fear is at the core of all our dreams in this world. When we start to recognize this is the case, we realize it is all a mistake, but to get to this point, we must look at the thought system that has given rise to the separation. We must look at all the beliefs and values we hold and the self-concepts we cling to. We must start to realize we have bought into a story that is not true. This process of undoing is not readily achieved because it means letting go of our attachment to everything in this world, including our own identity as we have circumscribed it. It is just an image that contains a name with which we identify and a body we think is ourselves, separate from others, limited, needy, constantly seeking, constantly afraid, and thus highly defended.
Do we recognize that holding onto our judgments, our opinions, our values, our specialness, our defenses, and even our anger, brings us pain? Perhaps to some extent we do. We judge some of our thoughts as "bad" and hurtful to us, but we also believe we have a lot of "good" thoughts that we value highly. We think we are right about our opinions, and we defend what we think. We justify our perspectives and give evidence for our positions, but anything based on a desire for separateness, specialness, exclusion, or aloneness, is not of God. Jesus recognizes it can be fearful for us to learn that all we base our lives on does not exist. This thought alone brings up fear. That is why there is so much resistance to this teaching, but we are in charge of our own journey and do not have to fear we will be hurled into Heaven. Our progress in awakening is under our own control. We will go as quickly or slowly as our fear will allow. Jesus is simply helping us to see the cost to us of holding onto our fear. He reminds us, "It takes great learning both to realize and to accept the fact that the world has nothing to give. What can the sacrifice of nothing mean?" (M.13.2.1-2)
In our identification with our bodies and personalities, our lives are ruled by fear. Until we become aware of who we really are and remember that we have been given everything, there will be fear. Fear obscures the love that is there all the time. Why would we be so frightened of our abundance, of our success, of the joy of our greatness, or of intimacy? We are afraid because we feel unworthy of love. We judge ourselves as not deserving. Our belief in guilt and punishment takes precedence, and our biggest fear is the loss of the self we have accepted as what we are. We have come to accept our lives of loss, failure, suffering, scarcity, and finally death. "How lovely do the laws of fear make death appear." (T.23.II.15.7) (ACIM OE T.23.III.33) For all of us, there is an attraction to death lurking behind our fears that makes death seem like a lovely option because we associate it with peace.
Fear keeps us from being playful, intimate, joyful, open, and loving. We hide behind the images we have made, which we think keep us safe. We keep our secrets hidden lest we be judged. We hide "shameful" thoughts, believing they are the truth about us. We keep ourselves small and afraid of moving to a new level. With each step that we take to bring the darkness into the light, our confidence is renewed that there truly is nothing to fear. As the internal conflict in our minds is brought to healing, we get external evidence in our lives of less conflict. It is not because things change in the world, but we change our minds about them. We no longer engage in that conflict. We look out from a place of greater peace, and the world witnesses that peace back to us. That is what forgiveness is all about. That is what brings more flow and greater giftedness into our lives.
This Lesson can really make us wonder at the insanity of the ego. How can we want to hold onto suffering? And yet we do. We choose to hold onto our sense of loss, sadness, anxieties, worries, and any number of forms of fear. Why? For one thing, we think it is thrust upon us, and there is nothing we can do about it. We believe we are the victim of what others have done to us. For another, we believe we deserve to suffer for what we perceive we have done. And finally, we find something of value in it. Otherwise, we would let it go because we have the power to do so. "Look upon it, open-eyed, and you will nevermore believe that you are at the mercy of things beyond you, forces you cannot control, and thoughts that come to you against your will." (T.19.IV.D.7.4) (ACIM OE T.19.V.d.96) Everything we hold onto is in our own minds.
A dear friend recently wrote to me about the beliefs he was holding. He said he felt he was beyond forgiveness, beyond redemption, and deserved eternal damnation. He got in touch with his belief that he had taken from God and had murdered Him. Then the belief showed up that the fall from grace and the separation was totally on him, and with that came great shame and unworthiness, which awakened the self-hatred and compounded the guilt tenfold and thus brought, even more, self-hatred.
While this is painful to experience, with this recognition came great healing because he realized he was trying to handle his own ego all these years. He was trying to handle the torturer in his own mind, and that will never bring any resolution. In that recognition, he turned over his beliefs in scarcity, loss, and death. As Jesus reminds us, in Chapter 4, "Leave the 'sins' of the ego to me. That is what Atonement is for. But until you change your mind about those whom your ego has hurt, the Atonement cannot release you. While you feel guilty your ego is in command, because only the ego can experience guilt." (T.4.IV.5.2-5) (ACIM OE T.4.V.61) Then he says, "This need not be." (T.4.IV.5.2-6) (ACIM OE T.4.V.61) Our thoughts torture us, and in giving over these thoughts, we find the peace within. In accepting the healing into our minds, we can know our own innocence. There is nothing outside our minds. In his case, he was grieving a perceived loss, a shattered dream, and lived in the trap of those thoughts. In that process, he could not accept his innocence, but instead, he was projecting his beliefs in loss, grief, scarcity, and death onto the character in his dream, who seemed to be the cause of how he was feeling.
All that is called for is a willingness to claim our innocence. When we hold onto our story, our agendas, and our indulgences, we are not deciding for Heaven. With willingness, we take the hand of Jesus, and together, we go into the darkness and bring our dark and self-condemning thoughts to the light of truth. We need help. "You can never control the effects of fear yourself, because you made fear, and you believe in what you made." (T.1.VI.4.2) (ACIM OE T.1.I.93) Thus, our part is not to do the healing ourselves because the ego will never undo itself. Our part is simply to be willing to look at our fear thoughts and bring them to the truth. The rest is in the hands of the Holy Spirit.
It seems like a no-brainer to ". . . gladly make the 'sacrifice' of fear," (W.323) which allows God's Love to ". . . come streaming in to his awareness." (W.323.1) However, resistance is strong. We think God is asking a sacrifice of us. We think we must pay off our debt to Him. We are told in the Bible that God asked His only Son, Jesus, to be sacrificed and die a horrible death. The image in our minds is that we too must pay off a debt to him. We do that all the time in our relationships, don't we? We think when we have done something hurtful, we must somehow atone to the one we hurt. We need to find a way to make up for what we did. In the same way, we think we must do something to atone with God to restore the relationship, but here Jesus says this is not the case. We have been dreaming, and nothing real has happened. We can simply awaken to the truth of who we are, and to do that, he is only asking one thing of us. He is only asking that we give up our fear, and in doing so, we sacrifice nothing we would want to keep.
Do you notice how you hold onto your suffering, sadness, anxiety, worries, doubt thoughts, and any number of fear thoughts? We made these thoughts, and only we can choose to release them. Holding onto them blocks the love that God wants to have come streaming into our awareness; although, holding onto these painful, distressing thoughts maintains that we are right about the way we see a situation. To maintain our individuality and specialness, we have been willing to pay the price of suffering. It truly makes no sense to keep our fear thoughts when all we are doing is keeping love out. All God is asking of us is to give up our suffering. Is that a sacrifice? We can only benefit ourselves and thus benefit the world.
Our entire journey in this world is about the undoing of fear, which is an essential part of the Atonement. Where does this fear come from? The Course tells us, "All fear is ultimately reducible to the basic misperception that you have the ability to usurp the power of God." (T.2.I.4.1) (ACIM OE T.2.I.15) That is the foundation of it all. Of course, it is not something of which we are consciously aware. We have chosen to forget and instead, we have a fundamental fear. We fear we have changed our very nature, disrupted Heaven, and made a self in opposition to God. This is only a fearful dream, and now, we have a choice to make as to how quickly we want to awaken from it. In other words, how motivated are we? "If a light is suddenly turned on while someone is dreaming a fearful dream, he may initially interpret the light itself as part of his dream and be afraid of it." (T.22.214.171.124) (ACIM OE T.2.I.15) The truth about ourselves is that we are only love and nothing else. Anything else that we think is only the dream and an illusion about ourselves. "The fear of God is fear of life, and not of death." (T. 23.IV.1.2) (ACIM OE T.23.V.47) It is fear of love.
This Lesson is powerful and can be applied to any thoughts taking precedence in your mind today
. Look at the thoughts you are obsessing about. What is at the core of those thoughts? In other words, what is the content behind them? Is it fear, unworthiness, hate, or frustration? Bring this content to light so that it can be dissolved. It takes great willingness and lots of discipline and practice to do this work, but the only "cost" to you is the "sacrifice" of fear. Notice any resistance to giving up these thoughts and recognize that the resistance is about justifying why you should feel the way you do; it is the story running in your mind. This need not be. We can make a choice today, with every fear thought that crosses our minds, to accept the Atonement (Correction), and thus, the love, peace, and joy within can return to our awareness.
Love and blessings, Sarah