I picked up this memoir by accident while on a retreat, and from the moment I opened up the book, it did not disappoint. As a memoir teacher and spiritual individual, I am very discerning. This book was a pleasure to read, as Pastiloff's story is about the power of healing oneself by caring for others.
Her message and voice resonated with me to the point that I said a few times to myself, "I could have written this book." She discusses the art of writing , emotional and physical pain, lessons learned, fear, the art of knowing and embracing change, and the value of listening—fierce listening. Being heard is so very important, especially now.
According to Pastiloff, here's the gist, which resonated with me as I approach the final chapter of my own life: "You think as you get older, the weight gets lighter? It doesn't. It gets heavier and heavier until you are buried in a pile of it and you can't even reach the front door. I did get a bunch of woks, though. But what I got more was: the power of community. I saw how I was able to bring people together, not just at my retreat, but at my wedding, and on the internet. I wanted more of it" (p. 170).
Pastiloff shared so much wisdom that it's impossible to share it all here. Do yourself a favor: read this book, and buy a copy for a friend!