ne item to toss to family members. Examples: a pillow, small ball, ball of yarn, or a rolled up sock.
To play the game, make a circle. Someone starts the game by tossing the pillow to another. The person who receives the pillow must choose to “ask” or “tell”.
To “ask”, they must ask the one who tossed the pillow anything about the death in the family, or about the person who died, or about their feelings or thoughts about the death etc.
Some examples of asking questions could be:
"What was your favorite thing to do with your loved one?"
"What bothers you the most when you think about the death?"
To “tell”, they must share some information (of their choice) about the death in their family.
Some examples of “telling” could be:
"I wish I could have told my loved one ____."
"I wish my loved knew ____ about me."
"Sometimes I find it hard to sleep at night because I start thinking about my loved one."
After the person asks or tells, they toss the pillow to someone else and take turns. You can choose other subjects to ask or tell about for variation.