Weekly Newsletter:

September 24, 2025

Aging Alone and Together — Intimacy,

Loneliness, and Caregiving

Long title for a complicated and important subject. With many causes and significant implications for quality of life.


Here’s some of the facts…  

  • 28% of older adults in the U.S. live alone.
  • 1 in 3 adults report feeling lonely.


1. The consequences of this isolation … extend far beyond mere loneliness. In fact, lacking meaningful social connection increases the risk of premature death by more than 60%. Social isolation and loneliness in elderly individuals are distinct but related issues—one being an objective lack of contact, the other a subjective feeling of being alone. Both conditions can trigger devastating health outcomes, including a 29% increased risk of heart disease, a 32% higher chance of stroke, and a 50% greater likelihood of developing dementia. Perhaps most shocking, chronic loneliness can damage health as severely as smoking 15 cigarettes daily.


2. The difference between loneliness and social isolation:

This distinction matters because the two don’t always coincide. An older adult can live alone without feeling lonely, while another might feel profoundly lonely despite being surrounded by others. Furthermore, one person may choose solitude and find it fulfilling, while another experiences the same situation as distressing isolation.


3.  Why older adults are more vulnerable

Older individuals face unique risk factors that accumulate with age. As we grow older, we’re more likely to experience:

  • Loss of significant relationships through death of spouses, friends, and family members
  • Chronic health conditions that limit mobility and independence
  • Sensory impairments like hearing and vision loss that hinder communication
  • Major life transitions such as retirement or relocation
  • Transportation challenges, especially after stopping driving


4. How modern life contributes to disconnection

Contemporary society has inadvertently created conditions that increase elderly isolation. Family sizes have shrunk, with younger generations often moving away for work opportunities. Moreover, retirement can suddenly eliminate workplace relationships, with studies showing that for every social group lost after retirement, quality of life decreases by 10% six years later.


Our increasingly digital world can also exclude seniors unfamiliar with technology. Meanwhile, community designs prioritizing cars over walkability can trap older adults without transportation. Above all, social connections remain fundamentally important throughout life – research indicates they’re even stronger influences on longevity than physical exercise, smoking, or alcohol consumption.


Read more on why isolation is a silent crisis →

Solutions: Aging Alone and Together

Those may be facts of real and difficult challenges that face us in modern society — and especially more so as we age…  


But here are some of the solutions for living well, with quality, comfort, and meaning.

 

1. Solitude versus isolation: Being comfortable alone something to cultivate.

Denzel Washington shares on the value of solitude: Watch Video

  •  Finding peacefulness in being alone without distractions  and the noise of modern life.
  • Being able to “hear yourself think…”
  • Find room “to breathe” and remember your own goals and aspirations.


2. How and why to remain social as you age.

Strategies for socializing as an older adult:

  • Get a pet: Animals can be a source of comfort and offer a way to meet other people. Taking your dog to the park or your cat to the vet gets you out of the house and gives you a chance to socialize with others.
  • Schedule time to stay in touch: Setting up a specific time to chat with family and friends — either in person, through a phone call or using video chat — makes it more likely to happen. Even just short check-ins may help you feel connected.
  • Join a community group or class: Engaging in a new topic or revisiting an old hobby can be fun and offers a great way to meet like-minded people.
  • Volunteer: Contact your municipal department or faith-based organization to find opportunities to give back. You’ll meet other volunteers and help others in the process.

Caregiver Isolation and Loneliness:

The Impact on Caregiver Health and Strategies for Staying Well

https://www.caregiver.org/news/caregiver-isolation-and-loneliness/


There are special challenges of caregiving on top of  the modern epidemic of isolation, and loneliness… Here are some suggestions (check out link above):



Respite Care: Periods of respite care can allow a caregiver to focus on their own personal needs without worrying about the safety of their care recipient. Respite services are typically available from home care agencies, or via local programs, such as your local Area Agency on Aging. However, you may also find that friends and family are able to assist you in caregiving duties from time to time, allowing you the time to focus on your own well-being.


Finding Support: While your friends, or even your spouse, may not seem to understand what you’re going through, there are people in similar situations feeling the same way. Local support groups or online support forums may help you find common ground with caregivers in similar situations and offer a feeling of community in the midst of your isolation.


Maintaining Your Sense of Self: Use the time that you do have for yourself to participate in activities that make you feel renewed. Whether you enjoy yoga, walks on a local trail, or even a movie and dinner at home with your family, involvement in your own interests may help you feel connected to your sense of self and help keep you in touch with your friends and loved ones. Even if they don’t completely understand what you’re going through, you may find that these individuals offer support in a different way.


Feeling alone is an issue that most caregivers will face to some degree during their journey as a caregiver. However, caregivers need not feel ashamed in their journey to find more support.


Here is a link to DayBreak's caregiver support groups — free and online or in person…

Something to Ponder…

A Study in Loneliness by Jason McBride

A poetry comics reflection


"In a world of more than eight billion people, loneliness is the most universal human experience.


You can be in a crowded house and still suffer from pangs of loneliness. You can be alone on a mountaintop, and only feel lonely when you are joined by other people. You can be lonely and in love as well as lonely and alone.

Loneliness is currently seen as an epidemic. Perhaps loneliness is a natural state for social creatures that live in a world optimized for consumerism and productivity.


One of the most corrosive parts of loneliness is the false sense that you are the only one suffering. Everyone else is happy and connected — and you alone are lonely. At some point, we all stare at the ceiling and wonder where we went wrong, what is wrong with us, and when will the overwhelming sense of loneliness pass.


I don’t have a cure for loneliness. But I’m also not sure it’s a disease in need of a cure as much as it is a natural state, made more intense by the world of solo-screen-time we have concocted to distract us from the suffering of others and ourselves.


Instead of telling you how to get over your loneliness in three easy steps, all I can offer you is a reflection that you are not alone in your loneliness.

As you will see below in the 59 poetry comics that tell 59 tiny stories about loneliness (mostly in haiku), I’m far from the first poet to ponder the existential bummer of loneliness.


May you find solace in the fact that you are not alone, and that one day you will find your way out of the valley of loneliness."

Thank you for taking the time to read this. Please let us know if you have feedback for us on this or other subjects related to caregiving and aging.


— Susan Musicant, Geriatric Physical Therapist, DPT

Injury Prevention Specialist for DayBreak

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