PFLAG Alamance Monthly Meeting 

Tuesday, March 14, 2023

7:00 p.m.

It's a great time to get back in touch with old friends and meet
some new participants in our local chapter meeting. Help us
explore plans for this new year in our work of support and education.
Exciing things are happening in our County.

Elon Community Church
271 N. Williamson Ave.
Park and Enter from the rear. Plenty of parking there

A Serious Appeal from PFLAG Alamance

In our February meeting, PFLAG Alamance spent considerable time discussing ways to involve more Allies in our meetings to explore constructive ways to help families with LGBTQIA+ children. We are happy that many of you receive our newsletter, occasionally attend our meetings and contact us to discuss issues, but we need to hear more of your ideas of ways we can expand our base.

Currently there are efforts for legislation to prevent discussion LGBTQIA issues in our schools (See SB 49), and we feel there is a greater need than ever to offer guidance on potential problems. In instances where students are bullied, teased or harassed because of their, or a parent’s sexual orientation or gender expression, a teacher or guidance counselor’s understanding and support may be all the help they can get. Are you aware that that could be prohibited under this proposal?

Add to that , there are new isues appearing in the news, on social media or neighborhood conversations that leave many puzzled. Do you need help understanding transgender facts, pronoun use, gender fluid, and other realities we never confronted before?

What issues are you struggling with as you seek to help your family navigate the confusing misunderstandings and emerging new awareness in the LGBTQIA experience? PFLAG Alamance, working with Elon University’s Gender and LGBTQIA Center and other community organizations, has some financial resources to secure leaders who can speak to these issues. We are working on some resources already. What issues do you feel need attention?

We need your participation to help us know where help is most needed. We would like to urge your attendance at our next meeting where you can feel free to express your thoughts on where we can go from here. As always, PFLAG meetings are confidential, differing opiniions are welcome and you can help make a difference in our county.

A new monthly feature of our Newsletter . . ..

Book of the Month
From our book cart

PFLAG Alamance maintains a free, lending library of timely books that we are anxious to share. We bring our moveable cart to each meeeting and all you need to do is sign the clipboard so we can keep up with these volumes.

This month we launch our Book of the Month with Gender: Your Guide, a helpful book that speaks to questions we have heard from some of you.

Some reviews of this book

"Lee Airton’s book ‘Gender: Your Guide’ is a vital resource toward understanding and inclusiveness.... A must-have for everyone, and not only those who are trans, gender non-conforming or non-binary—or who have someone trans in their life."

—The Washington Post

"What I like most about how the author writes is how they combine their knowledge about gender, language and identity with a warm and caring tone. I feel like Airton is both my smartest and best friend on this subject matter."


Something to Think About . . .
by Cindy Davis
Unexpected Closure
Prior to opening my private practice providing therapy, I held a position as Clinical Director at a residential treatment facility serving pregnant addicted women. It was a year program where women had an opportunity to live independently in the apartments on the campus and learn life skills in preparation for the birth of their children. It was a difficult program for residents, and we were not always successful.

A few weeks ago, I got a call out of the blue from “Sherry”, mother of “Lily”, who had graduated from the program in 2003. Lily’s family had been quite attentive, and they were excited about the new baby on the way. They visited every Sunday and after Lily earned privileges to visit off-campus, she enjoyed time with her family, dining out, going to the movies, feeling free. She went on to find a part-time job which seemed to boost her morale.

Lily gave birth to a healthy, robust baby boy and our community celebrated, with cake and balloons, and homemade gifts that were made in our art class – a tradition that applauded each resident when her baby was born. Lily identified as gay and wanted no contact with the father of her child, planning to reside with her parents. Her family was supportive.

Six months after she graduated, we heard that she had over-dosed. Her drug of choice was heroin. Sherry came to see me, and we had the chance to talk and weep. All we could do is speculate. On the surface Lily had seemed so happy, she appeared to have quieted her addiction and we had hoped that the arrival of her beautiful baby boy “Eric” had given her focus. Sherry and her husband would raise their grandson.

It has been close to twenty years since I had contact with Sherry. So, as you might imagine, I was surprised to hear from her. She reported that Eric, now a young man, identifies as gay and that the family attends PFLAG in Guilford County, and that her family is doing well. So, I feel the need to somehow pay tribute to them. They have worked hard to embrace obstacles and face challenges, and they have loved one another during times when it was not easy to love. Taking relapse as an opportunity rather than a failure.

It's not often that I am witness to this depth of miraculous healing. It provides a dimension of closure that words cannot begin to describe.

 Cindy Davis is a retired Licensed Professional Counselor. 
She was an advice columnist for the Times-News, and is also a PFLAG Board Member.

Cindy can be contacted at

Watch for Cindy's column each month on our Newsletter

In 1972, Jeanne Manford marched alongside her gay son Morty in the Christopher Street Liberation Day March (the precursor to all Pride parades) for no other reason than she loved her son. So many parents reached out to her for support that a year later PFLAG Naional was formed, now celebrating 50 years of offering resources for 400 chapters across the United States, with more than 200,000 members and supporters.

She was a pioneer whose brave actions inspired many more to do the same. Every time a parent comes out in loud public support of their child they encourage many more to do the same. That's what prompted two Elon couples to form our local chapter 30 or so years ago, PFLAG Alamance. We're here for you and would love to welcome you to our next meeting.

A New Service of PFLAG Alamance
Free Resouce Material . . .


Through the generosity of PFLAG Alamance suporters, we can now send you these excellent publications from PFLAG National without charge:

Our Sons and Daughters
Questions and Answers for Paremts amd families of LGBTQ+ people

Our Trans Loved Ones
Questions and Answers related to Transgender and Gender Expansive persons

Supporting Your LGBTQ+ Grandchild
Your relationship can grow even closer as your work to embrace your grandchid's identity

Just contact us and we will secure the material and send it as soon as possible (allow two weeks):

Phone: (336) 584-8722
Mail: PFLAG Alamane
PO Box 623 Elon, NC 27244

A word to some of you we haven't seen in a while . . .
If you dont feel you need PFLAG any longer, PFLAG needs you! Your experience can make a difference.

P.O. Box 623,
Elon, NC 27244
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