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          April, 2018

Quote of the month  

"Live a good honorable life. Then when you 
get older, and think back, 
you'll be able 
to enjoy it a
 second time." 

by the Dalai Lama
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Masters Degree - Applied Psychology from Seton Hall University


Post-Masters Degree-Marriage and Family Therapy from Seton Hall University


Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist


Private Practice 

since 2008


Married 29 years


Mother of 2 young adult daughters 


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Welcome to my 100th newsletter!! As I think back over what has occurred since Newsletter #1, which was written in September, 2010, so much has happened in my life - I thought I would take this opportunity to explore how therapeutic it can be to take time out once in a while to reflect on the progress made in your life and how to make the most of doing so. Enjoy!!

Please pass along to family and friends who may be interested in the monthly content of this newsletter. Creating a web of knowledge helps those in need.
Maryellen Dabal, MA, LMFT
305 Miron Drive 
Southlake, TX 76092
Missed previous newsletters??
Go to www.dabalmft.com.  Click on the newsletters link at the bottom of the home page. Enjoy.....
From The Positive Perspective......
Reflection - what is it and how can it benefit you? If you are at the edge of a still pond or a smooth lake- when you look down into the water, what do you see? You should see yourself looking back at you. That reflection can show you the results of the life you have lived so far. Are you happy with what you see? Do you see more joyful, pleasant experiences reflected or do you see more pain and suffering? Maybe a little of both perhaps. What do you see reflected that was within your control and what was out of your control?
Once you have taken the appropriate time to reflect on your past, the next step is to decide your goals for the future. Work to understand the moments of your past that were enjoyable and fulfilling so you can continue to celebrate those things. If you enjoy volunteering, continue that for sure. If your job is satisfying, then continue to make a difference.
What are the things you do not want to repeat?   Do you have knowledge now that may prevent some of the past situations from recurring? Do you need some new knowledge to change some things from the past?   Be aware of your resources and use them. Using resources like family, friends, the church, appropriate internet use, etc can make a tremendous difference in what your future looks like.
As you reflect, realize that you can determine a large part of your future by doing an accurate and fair reflection of your past.
In my experience, I have witnessed others reflecting on their past and able to make miraculous changes. I have seen people overcome addiction and abuse and be successful in their future. If they can do it, I believe that you can do it too. Believe in yourself and your capacity to create change.
As I reflect on my life, I realize that sometime life's path changes - whether we want it to or not. I have had the habit of staying focused on that original goal I had, and I was not always willing to adjust. I absolutely need to get better at that.  I also see in my reflection that for most of my life I have been a genuine person - even if that means being short-tempered or impatient. I do feel that I am being the best version of myself. Tomorrow is another day with another challenge. What can you challenge yourself to do to be the best version of YOU? Perhaps, with a little adjustment, the next time you reflect on your life, you can be pleased with those experiences shining through and you will see peace much clearer than you do today.
Looking forward to the next 200 newsletters. I hope you come with me on that journey. I also hope that life takes you to an amazing future because of the choices you make today.
Until next time.....look at life and your inspirations  From The Positive Perspective.

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I wish you well...