From The Positive Perspective.......
Change is always occurring, whether it is our body aging, our family growing, our environment being altered or our financial goals needing adjustment. Some people handle change seamlessly and are equipped with the ability to "go with the flow" and transition very smoothly. Others are not so lucky. Change for them requires hard work and dedication to making that transition take place. Let's take a look at some factors that influence the differences in how we look at change.
Our family-of-origin can have a prominent effect on how we handle change. Think of how change was dealt with when you were growing up. Reflect on the guidance you received from adults involved in the change. When you had to go to a new school were you given confidence to be who you were naturally and you would make friends easily or were you given stress about acting the right way so that you could find at least one good friend? Kids observe how adults approach change and believe me they understand more than we think they do. They take those experiences and further develop them into their own lives. So if you are a parent today, be mindful of how you approach change and the example you are showing your children. They are watching.
Our perspective on life can also influence how we handle change. Do you look at the glass as half empty or half full? I have said many times in my articles and in session with my clients that I am a firm believer in the fact that we cannot always choose what happens to us, but we always have the ability to choose how we respond to what happens to us. This philosophy came from Viktor E. Frankl, a psychotherapist whose ideas I admire very much. His most popular books, Man's Search for Meaning and Man's Search for Ultimate Meaning are truly inspiring. How he survived being in a concentration camp and watching his family and friends die yet still being able to look at life positively is impressive.
Who we choose to surround ourselves with can also influence the way we look at change. Having friends that possess qualities of being positive and relaxed about change can either reinforce your being able to feel the same way or even alter your negativity into something more positive. Take a look at who are your best friends and who are around you the most. Do they look at life positively? Do they support you and your ideas or are they negative and always looking at the "bummer" of every situation? Does something need to change there?
Of course, you're being able to accept change better cannot be possible without your awareness of how you currently handle change and your desire to want to alter that if it is not as positive as you want it to be.
May you have a positive experience with life today and may you appreciate and share the gifts and talents that you possess.
It helps to look at this from The Positive Perspective.....