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December 2015 

Why shouldn't we care so much?


"Care about what other people think and you will always be their prisoner. "- Lao Tzu, Philosopher

"The eyes of others our prisons; the thoughts of others our cages." - Virginia Woolf, Author

"Be who you are and say what you feel, because those that mind don't matter and those that matter don't mind." 
Dr. Seuss, needs no title!

When we spend our time focusing on what others MIGHT be thinking about us, we are devaluing our own thoughts and actions.  Instead of losing ourselves to what someone else thinks, work at finding ourselves and living OUR lives to the fullest.

"Will he/she like me, do I look silly with this hairstyle, wearing these workout clothes, walking on the treadmill, shopping for organic food, sitting in this chair, with these glasses, do they think I'm fat?"  

Do any of those questions sound familiar?  Have you asked them yourself?  
 
We all consider what others think of us and to a small extent we should, at least so we aren't doing something stupid or dangerous, but mostly it just plain gets in our own way of achieving all we want to achieve.  

I have also been guilty of placing too much importance on what others might think of me and it held me back from my dreams.  The best thing I ever did was to not care so much; once I began practicing this I grew by leaps and bounds.   
 
How will caring less benefit you more?

The most important way it will benefit you is by allowing you to lose the stress of always trying to do what you think others want.  This is a huge burden and sucks the joy out of life.
 
Reap the benefits!
  • You will feel love and respect for yourself.
  • You will receive respect from others.
  • You will achieve your desires without the boundaries imposed by others.
  • You will be real and authentic, not fake.
  • You will be true to yourself and your goals.
  • You will be liked for who you are not what you have or don't have, do or don't do.
  • You will have meaningful relationships with those who appreciate you, warts and all.
  • You will stop being a people pleaser, a yes man.
  • You will learn to say no.
  • You will realize what you want in life is yours and no one else's business.
So how do you stop caring 
what others think?

It takes practice to stop caring what others think of you, just like a meditation or yoga practice.  Changing your habits takes consistent effort and they will not happen overnight.
   
You might feel awkward or silly at first, you may even feel some humiliation.  But that's OK, it won't kill you.  Most people will only give you a passing moment of attention and then quickly forget about you and what you did or said.
  • First: Start doing what you want, taking the steps you must in order to achieve your dreams and goals.
  • Second: Ask yourself if the decision you are making or action you are taking is truly what you want or because you think someone else expects it of you or it will impress them.
  • Third: Don't be affected by social pressure, only do what feels right to you.
  • Fourth:  Stop looking to others for guidance, look within yourself to find the best decisions for you and go with your gut.
Remember to practice everyday and to go through your everyday with your desires at the forefront, value yourself.

Some words of caution: Not caring what others think does not give license to be thoughtless or hurtful toward others via words and actions.  If what you think or want to do is something that will cause pain, then it's best kept to yourself.

Dance with abandon!

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Are you curious about how to start doing the things you want to do and how to stop worrying about what others think of you?  Do you want to learn how this is getting in your way of achieving your health goals? I promise there will be no judgement from me.  Let's talk!  

 

I love my work as a health coach!!!  I'm passionate about helping my clients to achieve the lives they have always dreamed of.

 

I offer coaching programs that are individualized specifically to your needs and goals. With step-by-step changes that are easily integrated into your lifestyle so that you can stay on track and reach your goals permanently.  

 

My goal is to give you confidence and tools that you can pass on to your family and friends, thereby creating a ripple effect of health in your community.


Are you curious about how health coaching can help you to have a healthy life?  

 

Schedule an initial complimentary health strategy consultation with me today--or pass this offer on to someone you care about!

 

In Health, Happiness and Gratitude,

 

Kim Jones

 

Integrative Nutrition and Health Coach

 

 

 

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