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I think humans have a genetic defect that might do us in. Our brains are too big. Not only do our heavy heads cause innumerable muscular/skeletal challenges, we think too much. I have this defect.
Recall my recent article where I said that job of the heart is to pump blood, the job of the lungs is to suck air, and the job of the brain is to make thoughts. Our brains make thoughts ALL the time, some of them not helpful.
We’re genetically wired to try to understand stuff. Good to a point, yet too much of that ingredient has a dark side. I have that dark side. Why did that person say that? Or do that? Why did this happen to me? Or that? Why are they mad at me? Are they mad at me? Who else is mad at me? What did I do wrong?
I get that exploring conflicts can help craft solutions, but mostly when I explore conflicts IN MY BIG HEAD I find myself ruminating over my own actions and words, making sure I’m not guilty, reinforcing to myself how right I am, and how others are wrong.
Why don’t we just say “I don’t why,” and move on? “I don’t know why that happened. And that’s okay. Next topic please.”
Here’s the problem. Such is our insatiable thirst for understanding that when there aren’t enough facts to understand something, we make stuff up. We have a crazy high need for “sense-making,” so much so that we make things up IN OUR BIG HEADS even if they are lies, to give us peace of understanding. We can’t stand not understanding. At least that’s how I’m wired.
Keep reading for two strategies, and comments
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