S/He “is” lazy, arrogant, always late, irresponsible, unreliable, or ________.
S/He “is” a procrastinator, poor writer, a weak communicator, a__________.
Do you see a problem with the above statements?
When we use “is” statements, we look for evidence to show our judgment is correct. For example, everyone knows someone who they think is always late. Let’s imagine the person now arrives on time or even early for every meeting. We are likely to notice (focus or overemphasize) the one time he or she runs late to reinforce our prior conclusion that he or she is always late. Hence, it becomes difficult, and sometimes even impossible for us to see someone differently, once we’ve decided that he or she “is” _______.