Assertive Engagement Newsletter 

August 2023

This month’s newsletter topic is strengths-based practices, which felt a bit too aligned with my personal journey as of late. Recent life and world events have felt heavy and have not left me feeling very strong. Internally, I started asking myself, 


“How can I support other people in strengths-based practices when I myself am feeling weak, vulnerable, and disempowered?”


I noticed forgetting all of my strengths when I gave in to the negative self talk circling my thoughts. I recall complicated feelings of vulnerability after reflecting on the transition to Multnomah County after 18 years of being a teacher. Due to the recent job transition, I’ve been feeling a bit disempowered not knowing the ins and outs of the new systems that impact my team’s work.


Disempowerment is a familiar yet challenging feeling for me, having emigrated from a place that systematically denies my existence under military occupation. All this made me realize that instead of jumping in and trying to teach, I needed to stop, do a self-assessment, and go through the practice myself. I committed to really taking the time to engage in mindfulness practices and re-centering my thoughts around my strengths, so that I might support my fellow trainers and training participants in doing the same. As a facilitator and believer in the magic of Assertive Engagement, being able to hold up a mirror for someone to better see their own brilliance and strength is one of the ways I find fulfillment in my role. As Assertive Engagement trainers, we learn early on: we can’t begin to help others until we work on ourselves. 


This self-reflection led me to the following revelations: The time in my life when I am feeling most weak, most vulnerable and most disempowered - this is the moment to lean into strengths-based practices. The amount of self work (often dismissed by ourselves and the society at large) that it requires to fully embrace the concepts of strength based practices can feel daunting! Sometimes it helps to break it down into more manageable chunks. 


  • Strength: you need to feel strong enough to say that you have strength. Sometimes when we’re feeling broken, it’s hard to conjure the words "I have strength."
  • Saying the words “I have strength” requires a sturdy Base to anchor it and allow it to nurture true belief in these words and yourself.
  • Lastly, (but certainly not least) Practice – oof! To practice being strong (even when you don't feel it) is to be firmly rooted in the knowledge that regardless of the hardship or crisis you might encounter, you can lean on your inherent strengths to make it through.


So on your hard days, if all you do is to find the strength to exist unapologetically as yourself - then you are using strengths-based practices. If during times you don’t feel very “strong” and you open up your AE toolkit to find one strength-based practice inside, then you are more strong and more resilient than you dare to think you are. 



The Assertive Engagement Team,


- Helen, Rhea, Gabe & Ruba

“You alone are enough. You have nothing to prove to anybody.”

— Maya Angelou


Strength Based Approach

So just what is the Strength-Based Approach?

The strength-based approach is a “work practice theory” founded in social work that focuses on an individual’s self-determination and strength (McCashen, 2005). This type of approach builds on clients’ strengths, seeing them as resourceful in adverse conditions (McCashen, 2005). It is also client led and centered on outcomes, helping people to recognize their strengths to be able to affect change in themselves. 


Too often, people are judged for the qualities they lack, instead of valued for the qualities they possess. The deficit model; a lens through which people are perceived for their shortcomings or failings, has been used broadly across public and private sectors for decades. While it has allowed providers to see where clients need support, this model too often neglects to acknowledge, and make use of, the strengths that clients have cultivated. 


In contrast, a strengths-based approach to working with others highlights “the capacity, skills, knowledge, connections and potential in individuals and communities” (Pattoni, 2012:1). Relying on a strengths-based approach does not require practitioners to avoid real issues or to pretend that someone’s struggle is actually a strength. Instead, the strengths-based approach focuses on process: collaboration between provider and client helps the client develop their own capacities. Evidence shows that clients engaged in a strengths-based approach increase resilience, improve well-being, and strengthen community networks (Foot & Hopkins, 2010; Gilchrist, 2009; Mclean, 2011; Pattoni, 2012). 

So what does a strengths-based approach look like in practice? This collaborative process between provider and client enables 

them to work together to determine an outcome that draws on the person’s strengths and assets. As such, it concerns itself principally with the quality of the relationship that develops between those providing and being supported (Pattoni, 2012:4). 


Rapp et al. (2008) suggested six standards for identifying a strengths-based approach (below). You can use this list when considering if the strength-based approach might be a good fit for your practice.


  1. Goal orientation: It is crucial and vital for the client to set goals.
  2. Strengths assessment: The client finds and assesses their strengths and inherent resources.
  3. Resources from the environment: Connect resources in the client’s environment that can be useful or enable them to create links to these resources. The resources could be individuals, associations, institutions, or groups. See Power Map Activity
  4. Different methods are used first for different situations: In solution-focused therapy, clients will determine goals first and then strengths. In strengths-based case management, individuals first determine their strengths using an assessment.
  5. The relationship is hope inducing: Hope is encouraged through finding strengths and linking to connections (with other people, communities, or culture).
  6. Meaningful choice: Each person is an expert on their own strengths, resources, and hopes. It is the practitioner’s duty to support the choices and goals that the client makes.

Strength at Every Age

Senior Citizen's Day is August 21, 2023. The holiday was established in 1991 to increase awareness around the issues that impact older adults. Like all people on the age spectrum, seniors face a host of life related issues, but some of those issues increase or change with age. Most people claim they want to live a long life which means if they attain that goal, they will eventually experience ageism. Becoming an older adult is often treated like a disability even when the person doesn't have one. 


Ageism is discrimination based on a person's age and most often happens when a person is considered too young or too old to fully participate in some activity or event. When it comes to seniors, the discrimination comes from stereotypes held about what it means to reach a particular time of life. Ageism is one of the most socially acceptable forms of global prejudice. When discussing diversity, equity, and inclusion (DEI) issues, ageism is often overlooked and ignored as part of the conversation. According to the World Health Organization, 1 in 2 people are ageist toward older adults. What makes ageism particularly powerful is it is an "ism" that is rarely challenged. Why is it that a prejudice that will likely impact everyone so often ignored? According to author and advocate Ashton Applewhite, "Discrimination is the problem, not aging." Since "ageism will oppress us all" it provides a universal opportunity for all of us to advocate to change it. 


There is not an official moment or date when a person is considered old. Society makes that decision, which means ageism is a social construct associated with growing older. There are negative social and health outcomes that are a direct result of the messaging a culture sends out about aging. Anti-aging products are a billion dollar industry. Images in the media show most older people as incompetent, out of touch with modern life and disconnected from what is happening around them. Companies selling anti-aging products and services treat aging like something that can be defeated if one tries hard enough. If one spends enough on products and supplements and a variety of treatments, then aging can be pushed away indefinitely. 

Why are people so afraid of aging? In part it is because of how aging is portrayed. Frailty, incapability, memory loss, depression, loneliness, no longer having anything to contribute to society. These stereotypes hurt people's health outcomes. Stereotypes about aging get internalized, impact self perception and have measurable negative health outcomes. People who develop a negative view on aging experience worse physical and mental health, greater financial insecurity, greater isolation, a decreased quality of life and premature death. 

Psychologist and epidemiologist Dr. Becca Levy has found that ageism "Affects physical and cognitive health and well-being in measurable ways and can take years off one’s life" In her longevity study, the median survival was 7.5 years longer for those with positive beliefs about aging. How people view the aging process has a significant impact on their health. When people have a strengths-based view on aging, they are less likely to experience a cardiovascular event, more likely to have a better physical strength and balance, walk with a better gait, and are more likely to fully recover from a disabling event. They are more likely to perform better on hearing and memory tests and less likely to develop a psychiatric illness. 






"Ageism is prejudice against our own future selves."



-Ashton Applewhite

Instead of focusing on anti-aging, we have the option to focus on aging well which serves us better. What does aging well look like? Making it so more people can live longer in their own homes, recognizing that older adults are capable individuals who have a lot to offer their communities. Encouraging healthy and meaningful intergenerational relationships, and providing older workers the opportunity to learn new skills that interest them. A strengths based approach recognizes those capabilities. All people have hopes, dreams, and aspirations throughout their lifespan. As people go through different phases of life, what matters most may shift, but there are still a lot of things that are very important to them. 


How we communicate with and label each other has an impact. It can empower or disempower those in our community. Elderspeak is a type of speech used towards older adults that employs patronizing language. The younger person will speak slowly and loudly in an infantilizing and condescending tone which can make people start to question their own capabilities. It has the power to disengage and discourage older adults from sharing their thoughts and ideas. Instead, empower others to recognize their strengths and define themselves in ways that encourage them to flourish. Recognize ageist language and assumptions. Approach older adults with a strength based viewpoint. 


Click on the images below for Elder LGBTQIA2S+ services.

Strengths Around Us

More than a decade ago, Gallup unveiled the results of a landmark 30-year research project that sparked a global conversation on the topic of strengths.


Since then, more than 30 million people have taken Clifton Strengths from Gallup assessment, which is the first of several research backed books on this topic, including the #1 international bestseller pictured above.

In recent years, while continuing to learn more about strengths, Gallup scientists have examined data on the topic of leadership. They studied more than 1 million work teams, conducted more than 20,000 in-depth interviews with leaders, while interviewing more than 10,000 followers around the world to ask exactly why they followed the most important leader in their life.


The results of this research is in Strengths Based Leadership, and the book identifies three keys to being a more effective leader:

  1. Knowing your strengths and investing in others’ strengths
  2. Getting people with the right strengths on your team
  3. Understanding and meeting the four basic needs of those who look to you for leadership

Are you interested in taking the Clifton Strengths from Gallup assessment?


Learn more about it in the brief video below and access your free copy at the AE Library opening on 9/31. Details to come in a further newsletter!

Strengths Video 

Strength In Community

We are deeply saddened by the fires on Maui, that destroyed historic Lāhainā town, which is the original capital and seat of the Hawaiian Kingdom.


We can show strength by showing up for each other, especially in times of crisis and injustice.



Maui Fire Help and Resources 

Photo: Arab American Cultural Center of Oregon.


One way we build strength is creating spaces for building connections in community.


Check out the FREE 12th Annual Arab Mahrajan Festival at Oaks Park on September 3rd 11:00 a.m. - 7:00 p.m. 

Event Details Here

Show your Strength

When you've been strong, tell people about it!


That's what the PDX Recovery Film Festival is all about, telling stories about addiction and recovery, and giving voice to people's experiences. This year's fest will be held on October 1st at 3:00 p.m. at Revolution Hall.

PDX Recovery Film Fest Information

Upcoming Virtual Training Opportunities

Next Virtual Training in October



  • Day 1 Tuesday, October 24th, 9am - 3pm
  • Day 2 Thursday, October 26th, 9am - 3pm
  • Day 3 Tuesday, October 31st, 9am - 3pm 
  • Day 4 Thursday, November 2nd, 9am - 3pm



Register Here

November Virtual Training Dates



  • Day 1 Tuesday, November 7th, 9am - 3pm
  • Day 2 Thursday, November 9th, 9am - 3pm
  • Day 3 Tuesday, November 14th, 9am - 3pm 
  • Day 4 Thursday, November 16th, 9am - 3pm



November Registration Opens Next Month via This Newsletter!

Our video modules are now in the editing process and we are developing the skills practice sessions.


Stay tuned to this newsletter for video release information!

An illustration with three people. The person on the left has brown skin, short dark hair in a bob cut, yellow overalls and orange shirt and is looking off in the distance holding a magnifying lens. The person in the center has tan skin, a dark green dress, white bun and is looking straight ahead through binoculars. The erson on the right has light skin, yellow shirt and orange pants and short brown hair and is looking off into the distance with a hand to their brow.

Have a story or thoughts to share? Email us: aeinfo@multco.us!

Question of the Month


When was the last time you said or thought something negative about yourself?


How can you reframe that statement to highlight one of your strengths?

We love to hear from you! Here is one reader's response to last month's question about judging others:


I feel like I have judged people when they hate their job and stay there. It is because I think that if you dislike your job, you should make the change, plus it is one of the ways that we can execute our free will.


I am unlearning this because being able to change jobs is a privilege; there are so many barriers that can stop people from changing jobs. I think about how health insurance is often what ties people to their jobs, especially if they have dependents who need to stay covered. If a person has children and their current employer gives them the schedule to not need childcare. There is also the possibility that the current job is the best paying job due to education and seniority in the organization/company. I also think about how documentation status can keep a person from leaving their job.


Putting myself in their perspective and realizing that changing jobs isn't an easy choice or even much of a possibility for people and that they just want and need the space to vent. At my last job there were many people who did not like it and the environment was very difficult, but stayed because they were the one carrying the insurance for their family for a very low cost and no other company would cover them as needed. Seeing that people wanted to leave but could not really made me realize how people would stay in their jobs due to necessity. 


Send us your thoughts on this month's question at aeinfo@multco.us

August Poll

NAME YOUR STRENGTHS!!!

One thing we know for sure about the AE community is that we are as strong as we are unique! Though it may be tough to pick just one, choose the word below that best describes you.


Choose one:
Kind
Brave
Reliable
Honest
Resourceful
Compassionate
Fair
Wise
Persistent
Curious

July Poll Results!


Thank you to everyone who responded with how you show empathy to others!


Most of you (28%) validate people by acknowledging their challenges and difficulties.


Some of you (19%) do that by actively reflecting and paraphrasing. Great job using your Motivational Interviewing skills!



Folks also use open-ended questions to encourage them to share more and then take the time to listen and not interrupt or rush their story (16% each).


You don't just show empathy by what you say, but also by you do and what you don't say.


We heard you say you maintain eye contact and use non-verbal cues (12%), you don't make assumptions (6%), and you tame the Righting Reflex by avoiding unsolicited advice and solutions (3%).



The very best way to show empathy is to just show up! Being present for someone while they struggle, listening to them, and letting them know you understand is a great start to a kinder world.



July COOP Highlights




July marked our first in-person AE Community of Ongoing Practice (COOP) event since the pandemic!


It was a beautiful day in Creston Park with food, community building activities, thoughts on how we resist the need to always do more, and a mindfulness meditation session. Sign up for the COOP mailing list below to receive invitations to future events!


Upcoming Community of Ongoing Practice Sessions



August 24

Judgment

2:30 p.m. - 4:00 p.m.

Virtual via Zoom


September 28

Coded Bias Screening

In-Person at the

Judy Center!

2:30 p.m. - 5:30 p.m.



Sign up to join our community of practice email list and get updates on future programming and events.

What is a Community of Ongoing Practice?


A group of people who share a common interest and interact often to learn from each other and advance their work. 

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