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Being Yourself

 August, 2012

Quote of the month


"Always be a first rate version of yourself and not a second rate version of someone else."

by Judy Garland, actress.


My Services
Pre-Marital Counseling
Certified Prepare/Enrich Program Facilitator
Marital Counseling
Infidelity Issues
Self-Esteem Support
Problem-Solving Support
Renew Marital Excitement
Family counseling

Divorce Support
Collaborative Law Communications Facilitator
Redefining Life Purpose
Grief/Loss Support


I welcome the opportunity to help you work through current issues and to look at your future with a sense of hope and purpose.


Masters Degree - Applied Psychology from Seton Hall University


Post-Masters Degree-Marriage and Family Therapy from Seton Hall University


Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist


Private Practice 

since 2008


NJ work experience totaling 5 years


Married 23 years


Mother of 2 teenage daughters 


Lived in Indiana, 

New Jersey and Texas


Passionate about 

what I do




There are those of us who live life the way we want to live and there are those of us who live life the way others think we should live.  Which one are you? Who knows you better? Are you a combination of the two?


With the Fall Season rapidly approaching, many of us will change our routines to accommodate going back to school, sending our kids off to school, or just the change in season may cause us to do things differently. This is a great time to examine this topic and decide for ourselves who's life we are living.



Maryellen Dabal, MA, LMFT

Southlake Counseling & Neurofeedback Center

420 North Carroll Ave Suite 140

Southlake, TX 76092




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Go to www.dabalmft.com.  Click on the newsletters link at the bottom of the home page. Enjoy.....


From The Positive Perspective.......


In last month's newsletter I talked about having confidence and how long-term confidence comes from believing in ourselves.  That confidence also assists us in being and acting in ways that make us feel comfortable because we are taking every day and making decisions based on what we feel.....not someone else.  It is beneficial for us to approach situations from our own perspective and not from the perspective of someone else but it is equally important to always be able to understand someone else's perspective, especially if it is a parent or a spouse or someone who has some authority over us, but we don't always have to agree with it.


There is so much pressure in this world to behave, act and live based on what society places out there as being acceptable.  Now, as long as we are not hurting someone or causing someone else to act against their will, I believe in helping my clients learn who they are, decide how they would like to act and live life, and take steps to make that life happen in a way that feels comfortable for them.  Because everyone is unique, and that is truly what I enjoy about my profession in getting to know so many wonderful and different types of people, explore your inner self and ask yourself what the ideal "you" looks like.  How does the ideal you dress?  Where does the ideal you live?  What does the ideal you do every day for fun and for a career? Develop who you want to be on the inside and outside.


Once you have some of that information, investigate how to make that happen.  Seek out people who are in the profession you want to learn about.  Take a short trip to an area of the city or country that interests you and experience that lifestyle.  When you look through the Sunday newspaper ads, what kinds of clothes do you like?  Go try them on if you can.  If they make you feel good, buy them and be proud of your style.  It is never too late to let the real you shine.  Whether you are 15, 55 or 85 you can begin this transformation.  Being yourself can be a lot less stressful, time consuming and can even be more fun than being someone else. Love yourself the way you are, quirks and all.....and I'll bet there are many people out there that will love you too.


I can confidently say that after years of practice I wake up every day being thankful for the life I lead, for the direction my life has taken and for the choices I have made.  Now, it has not all been easy, not by a long shot. I have had challenges with children, married life and my own issues that have made me think twice about who I am and where I want to go but I have developed that inner confidence to allow myself to make the best decisions I can every day to stay true to who I am.  I wish you all the same and look forward to hearing about your journeys. If I can assist you on that journey, I am here to help.


Remember to look at the topic of being yourself 

From The Positive Perspective........



I welcome feedback regarding the newsletter or questions about my practice.  I can be reached at maryellen@dabalmft.com.  I cannot, however, give advice through email. For more information on my practice please visit my website: www.dabalmft.com

I wish you well...