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Stronger Than The Storm

 August, 2013

Quote of the month


"I know we 

can fix our problems. When there are people 

in the room who care more about doing the job 

they were elected to do than they worry about winning reelection, it is possible to work together, achieve principal compromise, and get results for the people who give 

us these jobs in 

the first place."


by NJ Governor 

Chris Christie 



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since 2008


NJ work experience totaling 5 years


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I hope everyone's summer is off to a good start.  I had the privilege of going back to my home state of New Jersey recently and was able to drive through the area devastated by Hurricane Sandy back in the Fall.  I wanted to see if our old family summer home in Chadwick Beach was still standing and to mourn my first roller coaster that now had residency in the Atlantic Ocean. 


In this newsletter I want to share some of my observations during that trip which may inspire you to look around and be thankful for what you have and who is in your life as well as possibly feel the urge to reach out in some way to satisfy a need in your community.


Read my comments below and as always, please pass this newsletter on to anyone you believe could benefit from its contents.



Maryellen Dabal, MA, LMFT

Southlake Counseling & Neurofeedback Center

420 North Carroll Ave Suite 140

Southlake, TX 76092


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From The Positive Perspective.......


"Stronger Than The Storm" is the slogan you will read as you drive all over the state of New Jersey.  Think about that saying for a minute.  Here comes Mother Nature ready to wreak havoc on the East Coast and how do the residents respond? Well, from my observations and casual interviews, they responded with a determination to rebuild that is full of vigor, diligence and a sense of pride associated with what the Jersey Shore represents. If you have any connection to the "shore," you know what I mean.  The stereotype of "Snooki" and "The Situation" is not even close.

When you are faced with an insurmountable "storm" of your own, how do you respond?  Do you look at the situation as one where you will give up?   Or......can you take the challenge, break it down into the parts that you can and cannot control and then take action?


Even with Hurricane Sandy, the residents built barricades, stocked up on supplies needed for after she went through and were prepared for working together to salvage anything they could when things calmed down. It was not unusual to hear many of my relatives and friends discuss having no power for days or even weeks.  While it was uncomfortable and frustrating I'm sure, there was not much complaining, because they always knew of someone else who had bigger problems and they were thankful for only having the small problems they were faced with.  Neighbors were helping neighbors, no matter their race, religion or political affiliation; everyone was working together to survive as a whole.  It was heart-warming to hear the stories of people coming together to help each other.  Sad that it takes a tragedy to make goodness like that happen.  How can you help the giving and "coming together" happen on a regular basis in your own world?  My readers are extremely intelligent, I know you will find a way.


While the slogan is being used to give strength to the residents of NJ, there is still so much to be done.  Some areas have come back miraculously since last Fall, while other areas remained unchanged since that fateful day.  Many residents still wait for funding to rebuild. Why not reach out to organizations that are assisting with "Sandy" clean up?  If that is not your style, how about reaching out to your own community, finding a need, and filling it with your time, talent or financial resources to make someone else's life better?  


One person can make a difference. What will you do today to prove that you are "Stronger Than The Storm?"


I look forward to hearing from you regarding how you are fighting your storm and the successes you are experiencing.  As always, thank you for looking at this issue .... From The Positive Perspective.



I welcome feedback regarding the newsletter or questions about my practice.  I can be reached at [email protected].  I cannot, however, give advice through email. For more information on my practice please visit my website: www.dabalmft.com

I wish you well...