Letter from the Editor
What The Dragonfly Said
Dear Seekers, Trance-Breakers, Wayfinders, Earth Stewards, and Nurturers,

Noting the red swaths moving across the weather map toward Virginia last week, I interrupted the to-do list running in my head to tend this year’s pollinator patch and carefully water the roots of blooming flowers. The news reports of record-breaking heat waves and fires in Europe and Texas stayed in my mind, along with one reporter’s crack that the “Brits are now re-considering their disdain for iced tea.” Joking while the planet burns, this is what our traumatized atypical species does now for elusive, momentary relief.

A light tickling on my hand holding the hose brought me back to my body and to a large, blue dragonfly who rolled his bulbous eyes up toward my face but stayed perched on my hand, enjoying the back spray of the hose. I studied my gardening collaborator and remembered dragonflies spend most of their lives as aquatic creatures, living underwater in a larva stage for years before skipping over a pupa stage, moving to the edge of their watery home, and hugging the shore where they learn to breath air, grow six legs, sprout winged sheaths, and push out of their old bodies skyward. They live as air-borne creatures for only a few months.

What drove the dragonfly’s aquatic form toward the shore? Did the tiny being fight the transformation? Curse its bad luck to be driven out of its only known home by forces outside of its control? Or was there a surrender to the innate intelligence of its beingness to the mystery ahead?

The visit from the blue dragonfly meant it was time to listen. As a lifelong gardener, a moment came decades ago, and then many moments, when I realized my practices of “cultivating the earth” were, from a different worldview, the earth cultivating me, my consciousness, relational capacity, my awareness of being loved deeply. Despite my conceptual brain’s attempts to regulate tyrannical to-do lists with forced breathing practices, from this primal worldview, I had always been breathed into existence effortlessly, graciously, and generously. 

Over decades, my practices became focused on the spaces between thoughts, breaths, stories, the something else, an expansive beyondness. Now, when I crawl to the edge of my latest no-longer-sustainable bog state, admitting this isn’t working anymore, I look around for who else is hugging the muddy embankments of the inbetween spaces. Many of these encounters are chronicled here at Kindred with trance-breakers, new cycle makers, and wayfinders.

What transformative processes could humans ignite if we worked with nature’s intelligence? Followed our evolutionary pathway to wholeness (our Evolved Nest)? Focused on the space between our stories, and surrendered to a worldview that could lift us out of our individual and collective bogs? 

What if we began this process before setting out with our best intentions of saving the world?

Worldviews create worlds. What creates our worldview? In this issue of Kindred we hear from human consciousness field researcher, Marilyn Schlitz, who shares with us her decades of hard science research into worldview literacy, considered the most important skill of our time by many philosophers, scientists, and changemakers. Schlitz shares the known practices for building and shifting our worldview awareness. Worldview literacy can be learned.

There are only two worldviews. We also hear from Four Arrows and Darcia Narvaez, who take us deeper into the territory of worldview with their new book, Restoring the Kinship Worldview. As Four Arrows’ decades of cognitive anthropology scholarship shows, there are only two worldviews for us to experience: the disconnected, Dominant Worldview, and the connected, Kinship or Indigenous worldview.

“To shift from the dominant worldview to the original Indigenous worldview takes some decolonizing of the mind. Our minds have been suckled on the milk of civilization’s domination and coercion of life, with industrialization and capitalism increasing disconnection and alienation from earth consciousness. This book plants the seeds for decolonizing your mind,” writes Four Arrows in the book’s introduction. You can now read the introduction to the new book and listen to the author’s new video presentation on the book here. You can download Four Arrows’ Worldview Chart, illustrating 40 precepts of the Dominant and Indigenous Worldviews here.

Why is worldview literacy a crucial skill to develop before setting out to become a changemaker? Because Traditional Hamster Wheel Activism – running ourselves ragged, kidding ourselves with impact statements and studies based on cultural bias, and stress-relieving, reactionary fist waving – is designed at its core to reproduce trauma and deplete our precious energies. Yes, we feel like we’re really getting somewhere because we’re moving and shaking, but a few trips outside of the Dominant Worldview and its Cycle of Competitive Detachment, will show us the truth of our efforts: we’re going nowhere fast. Without consciously shifting our worldview, we will continually create the same unsustainable world.

Where to begin? Our Dominant Worldview's values are responsible for creating baselines for health and wellness in the United States that have resulted in the sickest population of any developed nation. Our Evolved Nest components are our evolutionary baselines for wellbeing and whole human thriving. From a consciously cultivated Kinship Worldview, and through the grounded tenets of Kindred Activism, we are now ready to break cycles, make new cycles, and find imaginative ways to create a Wisdom-based, Wellness-informed Society. This is Kindred's vision and mission and has been for over a quarter century.

What can we see with new eyes? It is easier to see the inspirational changes taking place in our culture through the lens of a worldview that values relationship, divergent thinking, centering childhood in social justice, and creating parallel structures not dependent upon status quo institutions.

The good news is, it's already happening. Integrating and illustrating in real time our themes of worldview, wayfinding, and abandoning the hamster wheel this month is Kindred’s Meet the Wayfinder Oral Hisory Series, launched in celebration of World Breastfeeding Week, National Breastfeeding Month, Indigenous Milk Medicine Week, and Black Breastfeeding Week. In the Meet the Wayfinder series you will hear from nine wayfinders who broke barriers to breastfeeding advocacy in America’s workplaces, hospitals, academia, formula-influenced bio-medical fields, media, and created awareness through the performance arts, establishment of parallel structures that meet BIPOC community needs, and more. These are stories of individuals who followed an innate call through to the end.

What did the dragonfly say? Transformative change is happening all around us, if we have the eyes to see and ears to hear. We are a storytelling species. Not leaving the bog of our Old Story is no longer an option. Our New Story will be wrItten in collaboration with all of our kin, all of life in heartmind. It is time to move toward the shoreline, where many are gathering. Leave the bog. Get ready to fly. We got this.

Happy Trance-breaking, New Cycle Making, and Wayfinding,

editor@kindredmedia.org
Kindred Media, Editor
Kindred World, Co-Founder

Cover: Blue Blaze by Richard Stodart.
Photo of blue dragonfly by Lisa Reagan.
Top Ten Insights from What the Dragonfly Said
  1. Transformative change is happening all around us, if we have the eyes to see and the ears to hear. 
  2. Worldviews create worlds, and worldview literacy (meta-cognition) is a skill we can learn, according to the science and research of cognitive anthropology. We can grow new eyes, ears, and senses with daily practices.
  3. There are only two worldviews for us to experience and operate from: the disconnected Dominant Culture Worldview and the connected, relational, Kinship (Indigenous) Worldview.
  4. Shifting toward the Kinship Worldview, and away from Dominant Cultural values rooted in disconnection, trauma, and ACES, will help us to see and become more effective, rested, trance-breakers, new cycle makers, and wayfinders.
  5. Social change-making visions and energies NOT grounded in the Kinship Worldview can result in Traditional Hamster Wheel Activism: status quo preserving, reactionary, exhausting, advocacy.
  6. Daily practices of worldview shifting (decolonizing, deprogramming, transmutation) include taking time to surrender to nurturing life forces, Nature’s many intelligences, and our own innate instincts and latent capacities. Practice breathing until you realize you are being breathed, for example.
  7. As a storytelling species, the old narratives that informed our Dominant Worldview no longer work. To move into a collaborative relationship with all of life, including our own Evolved Nest/biological imperatives like breastfeeding (Happy Breastfeeding Month), we will need to restore our Kinship Worldview. From the Kinship Worldview – a relational, a New Story is now possible.
  8. Kindred Activism is a form of advocacy that is rooted in worldview literacy and its mindfulness practices, while centering childhood in social (in)justice issues and cultural transformation. Childhood is where we first experience either sovereignty or oppression. As Pam Leo says, “We need to raise children who won’t need to recover from childhood.”
  9. Our Evolved Nest components are our evolutionary baselines for wellbeing and whole human thriving. From a consciously cultivated Kinship Worldview, and through Kindred Activism, we can now turn our attentions and energies to the task of restoring these baselines for human thriving necessary to create a Wisdom-based, Wellness-informed Society.
  10. Kindred has explored the New Story of the Human Family for over a quarter century. We hope you will support our nonprofit work with your generous donation.

Kindred INTERVIEW
Our "Science-Fictiony" Worldview Lens
An Interview with Marilyn Schlitz, PhD
When it appears that everything is wrong with the world, we know we’re dealing with a worldview issue. Both science and wisdom traditions show us our worldview creates our world, but what creates our worldview

In this interview, we will hear from Marilyn Schlitz, the social scientist and field-based researcher of human consciousness who will answer the questions, what is our worldview, how is it formed, and what does science show us about how to shift our worldview.

Upcoming EVENTS
Breaking the Cycle LIVE Film Discussions
You're also invited to join the upcoming LIVE DISCUSSIONS with Darcia Narvaez and Lisa Reagan. These discussions are not recorded for the comfort of participants. They are free and open to the public, but you must register to join. PHOTO: Darcia, Lisa, and Chris Agnos from Sustainable Human film company on July 7, working on a new script for a new film!

Save the Dates! Join the LIVE Discussions:


Visit the film's site to view the film and discover resources, or click above to watch.

Join Breaking the Cyce's Mighty Networks Discussion Group here.
Biology of Trauma Summit 2.0
August 8 - 14, 2022

The Biology of Trauma 2.0 could help you:
  • Safely reconnect with your body
  • Be able to use trauma as a gift rather than a setback
  • Move beyond trauma-informed models to growth & wellness
  • Protect your emotional well-being
  • Choose the appropriate trauma therapy tools for you
  • Improve your sleep & lower inflammation
  • Build authentic relationships
  • Go through difficult life events without them overwhelming or crushing you
  • Integrate biology into trauma therapy for faster, better results
  • And so much more!
You can stop your endless searching. This will be your roadmap to your best health and your best self.

Watch Darcia Narvaez's invitation to you to the Biology of Trauma Summit and REGISTER for the event here.
Restoring Our KINSHIP WORLDVIEW
Our Millions Year-Old Embodied Wisdom: Indigenous Worldview, A Video With Darcia Narvaez And Four Arrows
The Indigenous worldview considers the cosmos interconnected, moral and sacred, and is associated with greater biodiversity preservation. The Indigenous worldview and corresponding philosophy represent the longest empirical “experiment” ever done in biodiverse and culturally diverse settings. The San Bushmen have been in existence for at least 150,000 years. This worldview along with Traditional Ecological Knowledge (TEK) of how to live responsibly-in-place is credited for the majority of biodiversity still in existence (according to a recent UN report, 80% of the biodiversity is held on the 20% of land controlled by Indigenous Peoples).
 
The Indigenous worldview of interconnection and circular effects, sentience and cooperation among natural systems, is supported by scientific evidence today, from physics to biology.
 
In the new book, Restoring Our Kinship Worldview, Darcia Narvaez and Four Arrows present 28 of 40 precepts showing the contrasting worldviews and how the Indigenous worldview supports biodiversity and the dominant worldview does not.

Evolved Nest Explained VIDEO Series
Allomothers: We Were Never Meant To Mother Alone
As of July 16, 2022, People experiencing a mental health crisis can now call or text a three-digit number, 988, to reach the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline and connect with mental health professionals trained to respond to such emergencies. Suicide is a leading cause of death in new mothers. See the stats in this post.

Watch Darcia Narvaez and Mary Tarsha present the Allomothers Component in the Evolved Nest Explained Series

Why did our species evolve to expect allomothers? Our infants are born much more immature than any hominid, with only 25% of adult brain volume at full-term birth (40-42 weeks) (Trevathan, 2011). As a result, till about 18 months babies need exterogestation, an external womb experience (kept calm and optimally aroused during rapid brain growth; Montagu, 1968). That’s 24/7 and physical presence and responsive care.

Too many mothers are unable to mother because of the need to work to get food on the table. Allomothers too are busy with other things and discourage from helping mothers. Both mothers and allomothers are discouraged from mothering in societies where promoting “baby independence” and preventing “baby spoiling” are forceful myths, part of the “taboo on tenderness” that has been characteristic of US life for decades (Suttie, 1943). DIY parenting is the new normal.

Blog POSTS
The American's Tale
By Kelly Wendorf

The Handmaid’s Tale is not only a story about one woman’s demise at the hands of a fascist empire, it is a story of what happens to good men in those conditions. When Offred loses everything, Luke—her husband—is not outraged. Instead, he tells her not to worry and promises to take care of her. Later, during marches, he tells her that it would be “futile” to march and that she needs to think about him and their daughter. Although Luke is portrayed as a decent man, he yields to the systemic violence towards and oppression of women. Gilead re-establishes the old patterns and mindsets of patriarchy, and Luke easily slips back into those patterns, promising to “take care” of Offred instead of fighting for her rights. 

The Handmaid’s Tale is The American’s Tale—a story about the downfall of an entire society and the end of enlightenment. I believe our only chance now is for each and every one of us to do what Artemis would do.

Supreme Court Justices And Originalism: A Legacy Of ACEs

By Jane Stevens

I’ve always said that it’s not a person (with ACEs and few positive childhood experiences) with a gun or knife who does the most damage; it’s the people (with ACEs and few PCEs) who have great power who can do the most damage. And I believe that, as in the case of Trump and Putin, the originalist justices on this Supreme Court not only have great power, but are using it unwisely in a way that is causing great harm. It’s possible that by their actions they don’t mean to do great harm, but that’s a consequence of ACEs and not enough PCEs, too.
How Attachment-Aware Scotland Happily Became ACEs-Aware, A Video

By Suzanne Zeedyk

Suzanne Zeedyk, PhD, joined the Kindred Fellowship Program on June 28, 2022, to share her story of bringing ACEs Awareness and Trauma-Informed Movements to Scotland. The presentation is fascinating because Scotland was oriented in attachment science before ACEs and the Trauma-Informed Movements began and, as Zeedyk shares, this meant Scotland’s context for understanding ACEs was vastly different than America's, a country ranked at the bottom of all developed nations' indicators for mother, infant, and family wellness. In fact, America’s hostility toward babies, children, mothers, and nurturing in general, became mainstream media fodder during the pandemic. 
The Ukraine Horror And The Worldview Problematic

By Four Arrows

I believe the realization that we are operating according to a largely inaccurate perception of humanity’s relationship to nature and super-nature (the definition of worldview) is the only way to re-balance our life systems. It ultimately offers preventive and healing solutions to the Ukrainian problems and the many other problems facing our world with other wars, inequalities, climate change, pollution, pandemics, etc... More likely, worldview change might be used to rebuild in ways that look very different from the typical post-apocalyptic movies that Hollywood has produced.
How Infant Formula Companies “Captured” The Biomedical Field And “Colonized” Populations Worldwide

By Cecilia Tomori, MD

In Kindred's Meet the Wayfinders’ Series interview, you will hear the history of how formula companies “captured” biomedical field and “colonized” populations worldwide from Cecilia Tomori, PhD, Director of Global Health and Community Health, Johns Hopkins University. The series was created at the invitation of La Leche League International in celebration of their 65th Anniversary Conference held October 15-18, 2021. The full oral history series is now available here.
Evolved Nest PODCASTS
What Is Downshifting? And The Scope of Healing
With Darcia Narvaez and Mary Tarsha

This is part one of a two part podcast: 

1. What Is Downshifting? (this page) We can all become self-protective when we feel threatened and downshift to our survival systems which affect our perceptions and actions. 

2. The Scope of Healing: Stress or adverse experiences can negatively impact our brains, bodies and emotions.  To help restore our brains, bodies and emotions, we discuss different ways and methods that foster healing.  We discuss intrapersonal, interpersonal, imaginative healing, interpersonal co-regulation and structural healing.
Our Evolved Nest is our Evolutionary Pathway to Wellbeing and Thriving

MEET THE WAYFINDERS
Meet the Wayfinders: Full Series Now Available
Kindred's Meet the Wayfinders oral history collection of empowering, personal stories features video interviews with nine professionals, parents, and scientists who found ways around breastfeeding advocacy barriers, or just broke them! The series was created at the invitation of La Leche League International in celebration of their 65th Anniversary Conference held October 15-18, 2021. While the series was presented live in October, the public viewed the collection on LLLI’s website until April 2022. The oral history collection is open to the public in celebration of breastfeeding month in August.

Celebrate World Breastfeeding Week, August 1-7
National Breastfeeding Month, August 1-31
Indigenous Milk Medicine Week, 8-14
and Black Breastfeeding Week, 25-31


  • Breaking through the formula company “captured” biomedical field and colonization of populations worldwide: Cecilia Tomori, PhDDirector of Global Health and Community Health, Johns Hopkins University
  • Breaking through the siloed-science of academia and research which doesn’t (can’t) support a whole child wellness model:Darcia Narvaez, PhD, Professor of Psychology Emerita, University of Notre Dame; Founder, The Evolved Nest
  • Breaking through hospital and medical professional culture’s systemic racismKimarie Bugg, DNP, FNP-BC, MPH, FAAN, IBCLC, Founder, Reaching Our Sisters Everywhere
  • Breaking through BIPOC colonization created anti-breastfeeding bias, Kimarie Bugg, DNP, Founder, Reaching Our Sisters Everywhere; Wesley Bugg, JD, Reaching Our Brothers Everywhere; and Jasha Lyons Echo-Hawk, Indigenous Milk Medicine Week and Indigenous Milk Medicine Collective, Co-Founder
  • Breaking through mainstream media cultural bias, Jamie Grumet, TIME cover breastfeeding mother from May 2012
  • Breaking through gender bias to create workplace and gender equity lawsJoan C. Williams, JD, Founder, Center for Worklife Law, University of California at Hastings
  • Breaking through gender bias to inclusion of fathers in breastfeeding and birth advocacy, Wesley Bugg, JD, Reaching Our Brothers Everywhere
  • Breaking through America's social and public policy policy abandonment of families to creating support networks, Patty Kornwolf, RN-C, Kindred World Founding Director
  • Breaking barriers in Theater, Using Performance Arts for internal and external barrier-breaking, Cathleen O’Malley, playwright, MilkDrunk

All of our presenters address the opportunities awaiting us in our post-pandemic world and how, with an understanding of the hallmarks of successful barrier-breaking, we too, can answer the call to become a wayfinder, to introduce and integrate a new way forward right where we stand as individuals, and to joyfully gather to build a breastfeeding-friendly culture.

See the full conference series on the website www.MeetTheWayfinders.org.
Kindred NEWS
Kindred Interview Featured In Virginia Museum of History and Culture Exhibit
Revitalizing, Reclaiming, and Decolonizing Indigenous Traditions in America’s Cradle of Colonization

The Virginia Museum of History and Culture will be featuring the Kindred cover from November 2021 as well as excerpts from the interview with Raven Brightwater Custalow. Raven Brightwater Custalow talks with Lisa Reagan about her nonprofit work and expansive vision for revitalizing Indigenous traditions in collaboration with Virginia’s eleven Native American tribes. Raven shares her inspiration for her work, growing up on one of the oldest reservation in the country, and being surrounded by family members who practiced and taught Indigenous traditions in crafts and drumming. Raven’s work today includes a documentary series of the eleven tribes’ elders, ongoing presentations and educational programs, and collaborations with many tribal members. She speaks frankly in the interview about her frustration with some of the tribes exclusion of women in their leadership, a colonial remnant necessary for communicating with the patriarchal settlers 400 years ago. Raven talks of her hope of returning to the matriarchal roots of her tribal heritage, and preparing her young children to carry their Indigenous traditions into the future.

Our Growing Kindred FAMILY
Welcome Irishia Hubbard Romaine!
Kindred is delighted to introduce you to Irishia Hubbard, our new social media maven and magic maker whose work can be seen in our Instagram and Facebook accounts, as well as our independent media platform KindredCommunity.org at Mighty Networks, below.

Irishia is a Lancaster, South Carolina native that began her dance training at the age of three. She has worked with renowned choreographers, including Donald McKayle, Ephrat Asherie, Dr. Ama S. Wray, Tong Wang, Idan Cohen, and Greg Chapkis. Also notably, she has appeared on TV shows such as Paula Abdul’s Live to Dance. While completing her undergraduate studies she was awarded the first scholarship by modern dance legend Donald McKayle, for her choreography and dance performance. Irishia is currently represented by Go 2 Talent Agency. Her other roles include artistic director of The Hubbard Collectiveand professional stager for the Donald McKayle Legacy

Thank you, Allison and Grace!
Thank you to our social media strategy team, Allison Nida and Grace, who are behind this month's breastfeeding celebration posts! When you watch the Kindred Twitter and Facebook turn into a firestorm, that's Allison sharing the new story at lightning speed!

Allison Nida resides in Virginia with her daughter and husband. A graduate from Christopher Newport University with a bachelor's degree in Communication Studies, she has a love for marketing and social media. In her free time, she enjoys spending time with her family, visiting the local farmer's market for seasonal goods, or enjoying time outside.
Our Art & Production House Team
Richard and Nancy Stodart have played a crucial part in Kindred's development over many years as designers, copyeditors, conceptual partners, and good friends. They are currently working with Kindred World Publishing House to bring forward authors, books, and e-books in alignment with Kindred World's vision of a Wisdom-based, Wellness-informed Society.

You can view Richard's artwork at www.RichardStodart.com. The cover of this month's Kindred e-zine is Richard's new work, Blue Blaze (top of this issue).
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