1. The opposite of addiction isn’t sobriety, it’s connection. The same is true for anxiety. Anxiety is being disconnected from the present moment, other people, or yourself. Usually all three. You must reconnect with your life.
2. You must give yourself permission to want what you really want. There is no way around this. Whether it’s a romantic partner, a better job, some more money, recognition for your work, see it and accept it, even if you think society says it means you’re shallow or broken or don’t “love yourself” enough.
3. If you can’t figure out what you really want, look straight at your deepest fears. What’s on the other side of them? That’s what you want.
4. Be grateful for your discomfort. The sad and weird thing is that happy people are complacent. Feeling uncomfortable is the signal that you’re on the precipice of something new, and better, but you must take action.
5. Your new best friends will be structure and productivity. It’s not about checking off a 100-point task list, it’s about knowing that you accomplished something (anything!) that contributes to your well-being each day.