After spending the summer leading backpacking trips through Seattle’s BOLD & GOLD program, Jessie Dirks helped lead three overnight climbing trips for Seattle-area schools this fall. On one of these trips, Dirks noticed as soon as they sat down on the bus that their group was struggling with respecting one another. This seventh grade class was full of tight knit social groups, some of which were showing exclusive behavior to a few young people who were new to the school or returning from a year away.
Dirks knew they needed to address this dynamic right away. On the first night, they led an activity called “Spikers and Soothers.” Dirks asked participants to imagine how animals react instinctively when they are feeling scared, like a rattlesnake that shifts its rattle when someone gets too close. They then invited students to share something that makes them feel on edge and how the group might help them soothe that feeling.
This gave students the space to share openly with one another, and one of the students who had been experiencing exclusion said “I don’t feel good when people are mean to me.” A powerful statement coming from a peer, the group was then able to brainstorm ways to do a better job treating one another with respect. Students directly apologized to one another for hurtful behavior, and they began to understand that they had a lot of room for growth.
During the days that followed, the students tried rock climbing and learned how to belay one another. Dirks says this is unique to their experience at the Y; other programs often require adults to be the belayers, which is an essential role that acts as the “brake” in a climbing system if the climber slips. BOLD & GOLD instructors take the time to help students practice enough to gain confidence with that skill. “That empowers them to be responsible for each other’s safety,” says Dirks, “and I think that is a really big driver for them to bond really quickly and build trust.”
Students learn to take in slack, so the rope is tight while another student is climbing. They cheer on other climbers as they make their way up the routes. Then at night, instructors take the activities they did during the day and discuss how students will transfer the lessons they learned to the next nine months. “Having those reflection activities at the end of the day is the “golden, sweet sauce,” where we have them talk through things - that’s where the learning happens,” says Dirks
By the end of the three day trip, Dirks says they watched their group run through a field together, singing with arms linked. They were still learning how to adjust their behaviors, but they knew they had to treat one another better. Dirks felt that this group really needed this trip. “If they had just been plopped in a classroom, these dynamics would have festered for months instead of addressing what they needed to grow.” Instead they returned to school with the tools to empathize and treat one another with respect.
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