OkEq Weekly eNews August 1st, 2018
MISSION: Oklahomans for Equality (OkEq) seeks equal rights for Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender, and Queer (LGBTQ) individuals and families through advocacy, education, programs, alliances and the operation of the Dennis R. Neill Equality Center.
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Volunteer of the Month
Ashley Spaulding
August 2018

Back To School Carnival 
Sunday, August 5, 1:00 - 4:00 p.m.
Dennis R. Neill Equality Center
621 E. 4th St., Tulsa, OK 74120

Join us for the Family Ties Back to School Carnival!
We’ll have refreshments and snacks, plus free school supplies

Bring your swimsuit, towels and flip-flops for the water slides, and come ready to tackle the big obstacle course and have fun in the bouncy houses.
We’ll also have face-painting, arts and crafts, and storytelling with Uncle Toby!
First Thursday Art Opening
Thursday, August 2, 6:00 p.m.
621 E. 4th St., Tulsa, OK 74120
Oklahomans for Equality’s August showcase and exhibit of local artists at the Dennis R. Neill Equality Center will feature works by Malinda Blank in a show titled “PULL,” beginning with a reception on Thursday, Aug. 2, from 6 to 9 p.m. and continuing throughout the month.
Born in Tulsa, Blank received a BA in photography from the University of Southern California in Los Angeles. In 2016, she received a Master of Fine Arts from California State University in Chico. Her work has been exhibited at Contact Space in Los Angeles and was awarded the Juror Prize at Giving Pause, the 60th Annual Juried Exhibition at University Gallery in Chico, CA.

Currently working at FireThief Productions, Blank also teaches art at the Oklahoma School of Science and Mathematics in Oklahoma City. She is an active member of the Camp Fire USA executive board and the Emerging Leaders Society Philanthropy Forum. When not working on her art practice, she enjoys spending time with her cats and discussing the cultural ramifications of relational aesthetics.

The show continues throughout the month.  ww.okeq.org
This year, Mosaic is unveiling a new and improved assessment tool for businesses to gauge their diversity and inclusion efforts. We took feedback from employers who had taken the past survey and looked at best practices around the country to make it more user-friendly and more of a tool that businesses can use to improve their own initiatives.

The Mosaic Inclusive Workplace Index lets companies examine their diversity and inclusion efforts and find out what they do well and what they can improve. After completing the index, businesses will receive a confidential report with benchmark data at a later date that they can use to compare progress year to year. Participants will also receive suggested resources relating to their development opportunities, including lunch and learns and workshops that Mosaic will offer based on index results.

The index is available to take now through August 8 at  mosaicindex.org.

You do not have to complete it in one sitting. Individual results will be returned at a later date after completion. 

Please feel free to share the index with area employers. 
2018 OkEq Board Elections

The annual meeting of Oklahomans for Equality is set for 7 p.m. Thursday, Sept. 6, at the Dennis R. Neill Equality Center. Presently, eight seats on the Board of Directors are up for election.
Nominations to the Board of Directors are made in one of two ways:

1. Recommended by the Board Development and Governance Committee (Deadline has passed)

2. By petition of at least 15 current OkEq members (Petitions due to the board secretary by Aug. 24)

Requirements and expectations of a director:
1. Be a current OkEq member with membership fees current
2. Attend board meetings on the third Thursday of each month
3. Contribute talent, time and energy toward supporting the mission of OkEq
4. Perform additional assignments as required (Assignments are usually made pursuant to the particular knowledge, skills and abilities of a director)
5. Serve a two-year term
Friend for a Friend Annual Fundraising Banquet 
Saturday, August 4, 6:00 p.m.
Dennis R. Neill Equality Center
621 E. 4th St., Tulsa, OK 74120

Seating is limited, so make your Reservations before August 1st. 
Follow link below to purchase tickets.

LGBT Women's Network August Happy Hour
Monday, August 6, 5:00 p.m.
304 S. Elgin Ave., Tulsa, OK 74120

Our August Happy Hour will be at Fassler Hall! Come mix and mingle with ladies you might not meet otherwise, make new business connections, and grow your personal network. We'll have light appetizers and don't forget to bring business cards to be entered into a drawing for a gift from our monthly sponsor!

Monthly sponsors of the LGBT Women's Network Happy Hours are LGBT-Owned or LGBT-Friendly businesses. To sponsor, a business simply provides door prizes for our guests and attends to share a minute about their business. Contact hannah@schnake.com for more details or to secure a date.
Guys Dine Too
Tuesday, August 7, 6:30 p.m.
P.F. Chang's
1978 E. 21st St., Tulsa, OK 74114

Please RSVP with Richard Haley at

With roots in Chinese cooking, the culinary landscape at P.F. Chang’s stretches across Asia with diverse, culturally inspired recipes. Your P.F. Chang's Tulsa serves a variety of Asian-inspired dishes, including hand-rolled sushi, Vietnamese-style soups and bowls, traditional Chinese dim sum, wok-fired chicken and beef entrées, and family-style noodles and rice. All made from scratch every day. P.F. Chang’s honors the 2,000-year-old Asian tradition of wok cooking and believes in making food from scratch every day in every restaurant. Visit P.F. Chang's online at pfchangs.com.
The Queens
Saturday, August 11, 7:00 p.m.
Dennis R. Neill Equality Center
621 E. 4th St., Tulsa, OK 74120
EBA Mixer
Wednesday, August 15, 6:00 p.m.
Hosted by Spexton Jewelry
1609 E. 15th St., Tulsa, OK 74120

Spexton Jewelry in Tulsa is Oklahoma's most unique retail jewelry store. Voted among the top ten coolest jewelers in North America, Spexton excels in creating handmade and custom jewelry pieces with classic, modern or vintage flairs

Spexton started in custom men's wedding bands 10 years ago but has grown to include both men's and women's wedding and engagement rings, bridal jewelry and jewelry design services, allowing you to create a one-of-a-kind look just for you.
We are also known for our unique finishes and use of mixed metals to create stunning wedding bands from black zirconium, meteorite, stainless steel, titanium, damascus, white gold, yellow gold, rose gold, palladium, platinum and more.
Our fine jewelry services include the addition of our expert diamond buyer, who can guide the purchase of loose diamonds or gemstones, remounting your existing stones, or jewelry appraisals. We also offer jewelry repair services.
In addition to rings, we offer a unique collection of custom necklaces, bracelets and cuffs, cuff links, earrings and money clips that make the perfect anniversary or birthday gift or push present in our classic Spexton style.

The Equality Business Alliance networking mixers are terrific venues for you to meet prospective clients. Mixers are open to non-members as well as EBA members. Be sure to bring business cards, business information, brochures, etc. Hosting a networking mixer is a great way to showcase your business. You may host at your establishment or use the Equality Center. If you would like to host a mixer: Please send an email to  jose.vega@okeq.org   for more information.
SAGE Summer Pool Parties
Tuesday August 21, September 18,
10:00 a.m.
1938 E. 55th Pl., Tulsa, OK 74105

SAGE Tulsa will have its next pool party on Tuesday, August 21. Members can meet at the Equality Center and carpool to the pool party. Lunch at the pool party will be burgers and hot dogs. Participants are encouraged to bring side dishes, desserts, and drinks. The pool has a shallow end and also has railing with steps to ease getting into the pool. If you plan to attend, please RSVP to  olivia.cotter@okeq.org  or (918) 743-4297. The pool party will be held at  1938 E. 55th Place  in Tulsa. Maps are available at the Dennis R. Neill Equality Center.
The mission of SAGE Tulsa is to address issues related to lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender aging. In partnership with its constituents and allies, SAGE Tulsa works to achieve a high quality of life for LGBT older adults; supports and advocates for their rights; fosters a greater understanding of aging in all communities; and promotes positive images of LGBT life in later years. SAGE Tulsa meets every Tuesday at 10 a.m. at the Dennis R. Neill Equality Center.

Heart to Heart: Abortion Conversations
Thursday, August 23, 7:00 p.m.
Dennis R. Neill Equality Center
621 E. 4th St., Tulsa, OK 74120

It’s important now more than ever to build community, organize and resist the stigma and barriers that surround reproductive choice and access. Join us as we hold a brave space for a necessary heart-to-heart abortion conversation. What could liberation look like in Oklahoma, and how do we move toward it together? All ages are welcome.
2018 HIV Wellness Retreat 
August 23 - 26
Camp Christian
275 Camp Christian Lane
Chouteau, OK 74337

This retreat is for people living with HIV. It is designed to help people find the community that can help them network with other people living with HIV.

There is a $20 application fee (scholarships available) and a $5 fee for the kayak trips on Saturday.

Applications are available online at  www.gratefulday.org  and on our Facebook page. Paper applications are available at Tulsa Cares and OSU IMSS.
Red State Resistance: Reproductive Justice in the Red State of Oklahoma
Friday, Sept. 21, 7:00 p.m.
Dennis R. Neill Equality Center
621 E. 4th St., Tulsa, OK 73120

The Reproductive Justice Campus Action Network housed at the University of Central Oklahoma’s Women’s Research Center and BGLTQ+ Student Center has created a documentary that focuses on the reproductive rights of people living in Oklahoma. The goal of this documentary is to put a face to Oklahomans whose bodily autonomy has been affected. The purpose of the Reproductive Justice Campus Action Network is to educate the campus community and the larger community on reproductive justice-related issues. This documentary presents an opportunity for people to engage in an open conversation about issues that are often overlooked and disregarded. This documentary gives viewers the chance to hear the experiences of people who live in the state of Oklahoma. We want to give a voice to the people who are affected by their reproductive rights being violated or who do not know or understand what reproductive justice is.

My team and I have worked countless hours on this documentary and are very proud of it. The stories of these men and women have become cherished and in some part are now part of my life story. I learned a great deal from taking the interviews and editing this documentary, and I can relate to some of the people who are in it. It has been rewarding seeing our documentary take shape and be able to share this experience with others. Every time my team and I discuss the documentary, we always talk about what impacted us most. 

These interviews are powerful, and the world needs to see the struggles of these men and women. If this film can ignite a flame for someone and give them the strength to stand up for themselves and others rights then my team and this film have done their job. From its conception and throughout its development this film has become an important milestone in my educational career and within my personal life. It’s like what Frank LaMere says: “If you’re not marginalized at least once in a day then you ain’t doing nothing.” I want people to see the genuine struggles of the people in our documentary and be moved to make a difference within the world however they can.
Enid Pride 2018 
Saturday, Sept. 22, 12:00 - 5:00 p.m.
Government Springs Park
600 E. Owen K. Garriott Rd.,
Enid, OK 73701

Join us Sept. 22 for Enid Pride! Our theme this year is Roaring Pride! As always, Enid Pride is a free, family-friendly event. Please invite friends and family. Vendor, sponsorship, and volunteer forms are available online at  https://enidlgbtcoalition.org/enid-pride/ .
Photographs From the Gay Rodeo By Blake Little
Runs through November 25, 2018
Gilcrease Museum
1400 N. Gilcrease Museum Rd.,
Tulsa, OK 74127

Experience the grit, determination and community of the national gay rodeo circuit in classic black-and-white photographs in Gilcrease Museum’s new exhibition, Blake Little: Photographs from the Gay Rodeo, which runs through Nov. 25.

Since its founding in 1949, Gilcrease has led the way for artwork showcasing the American West, including depictions of the iconic cowboy. Photographer Blake Little provides an expansive redefinition of what a cowboy can be in his images capturing scenes of camaraderie, identity and sport in one of America’s most time-honored traditions.

The 41 black and white photographs taken by Blake Little between 1988 and 1992 in Photographs from the Gay Rodeo document the gay rodeo circuit and the lives of many of its participants in those years. The collected body of work not only serves as a stunning example of black and white portraiture and of rodeo photography, it also explores the diverse and complex natures of individual and community identity in the West.

“Blake Little’s photographs demonstrate that cowboy traditions in the United States include diverse individuals and communities, broadening notions of identity in the American West,” said Laura Fry, senior curator and curator of art at Gilcrease Museum. “These photos show many LGBT men and women from rural areas, and the gay rodeo circuit provided a place where they could celebrate their full identities. The International Gay Rodeo Association is still going strong today and includes annual events in Oklahoma.”
You're not alone

Support group for partners with HIV/AIDS
Do you have a partner who was recently diagnosed with HIV/AIDS? Have you found a community to process this life change with? Are you looking for support? 
As every airplane attendant says, “Put on your own oxygen mask before assisting others.”

Having a partner with a life-threatening illness can take a toll on your well being. This group may help you to recognize and change your reactions to the new challenges that having a partner with HIV/AIDS might pose. We will meet weekly for 6 weeks to cover information on HIV/AIDS, process difficulties you may be having with your partner, learn new ways to cope with this change, foster healthier communication, prepare for the future, and better manage stress. 

If interested please email  jose.vega@okeq.org  to join the group. You are not alone.
Provider Bias Survey
Sara Griffey is a clinical counseling intern with Bellevue University. She facilitates OkEq's Coming Out Workshop and the Challenging Beliefs in Non-Traditional Relationships group.
This survey has been crafted to better understand provider bias in the LGBTQ+ and nontraditional relationship communities. The information will be used to provide information about ways to better train and educate providers.
All responses are confidential. To take the survey, please go here:
Cub Scout Pack 226
The Parish Church of St. Jerome
205 W. King St., Tulsa, OK 74106

Making a Difference TulsaPack226@gmail.com
Pack 226 is a inclusive scouting program open to membership to boys and girls between Kindergarten and 5th grade and welcomes ALL parents/guardians who wish to participate.
Our Pack is chartered by The Parish Church of St Jerome, our Pack membership represents the wide diversity of beliefs and cultures from the community we serve. Most of our scouts are students from Emerson Elementary but other kids from different schools and organizations are welcome to join!
Interested in learning more about Cub Scout Pack 226? We invite you to keep exploring our website, and get in touch with questions about our values, academics, community and more. Join us today!

More information available at www.tulsapack226.org
Questions can be sent to TulsaPack226@gmail.com
Joe & Nancy McDonald Rainbow Library
Find this selection and more by visiting the Nancy and Joe McDonald Rainbow Library.
"The Inexplicable Logic of my Life" by Author Benjamin Alire S áenz
A “mesmerizing, poetic exploration of family, friendship, love and loss” from the acclaimed author of  Aristotle and Dante Discover the Secrets of the Universe . ( New York Times Book Review )

Sal used to know his place with his adoptive gay father, their loving Mexican American family, and his best friend, Samantha. But it’s senior year, and suddenly Sal is throwing punches, questioning everything, and realizing he no longer knows himself. If Sal’s not who he thought he was, who is he? 
      This humor-infused, warmly humane look at universal questions of belonging is a triumph.
Equality Center Pride Store
Transgender enamel pins are for sale at the OkEq Pride Store for $5.

Be sure to "Like" the  OkEq Pride Store Facebook  page to keep up with the new items and new sale items
Counseling Services 
OSU - Tulsa Counseling Services
The Oklahoma State Tulsa Counseling Center is an LGBTQ+ affirming center located in Main Hall of OSU Tulsa. You do not have to be affiliated with OSU to benefit from these services! Our center offers clients from OKEQ 5 sessions  free  and each session following that is only 5 dollars. Each member of our counseling team receives additional training and supervision in LGBTQ+ issues and is excited to work with clients from OKEQ. Please contact us at 918-594-8568 for more information or to schedule an appointment. 
Allison Ikley-Freeman
Allison Ikley-Freeman, LPC Candidate is passionate about assisting individuals who are a part of the LGBTQQIA+ community who experience a range of concerns and issues. Individual, youth, and adolescent counseling is available on a sliding fee scale based on income. 
Appointments are available Mon-Thurs 12:30-6:00 p.m. and w alk in appointments are available. Appointments can be made by emailing  AIkleyFreeman@gmail.com  
Sara Griffey
Sara Griffey is a Clinical Counseling intern with Bellevue University. She has experience working with LGBT+ clients, homeless youth, individuals struggling with mood disorders, anxiety, and trauma. She currently works with survivors of domestic violence, sexual assault, and human trafficking. She welcomes the opportunity to work with persons with concerns related to nontraditional relationships (polyamory, kink, etc.), as well as the other areas listed above. She is passionate about advocacy and public policy in order to ensure that proper treatment is available for any individual seeking services.
For appointments call or email Sara
918-928-2809 or   sara@unitytulsa.com
Regularly Scheduled Programming
OkEq Board Meeting
Monthly Meeting 
7:00 p.m. Thursday, August 16

Dennis R. Neill Equality Center
 All Oklahomans for Equality board meetings are open to all OkEq members
August OkEq Art Exhibition
The August Oklahomans for Equality showcase and exhibit of local artists at the Dennis R. Neill Equality Center will feature an exhibit of the works of Malinda Blank.
The show continues throughout the month.
Family Ties
Family Ties is an official program of Oklahomans for Equality and is a support network for LGBTQ parents and families in Oklahoma. For more information about Family Ties, email  jose.vega@okeq.org .
Lawyer in the Library
August 8
5:30 p.m. - 6:30 p.m.

Lawyer in the Library is an opportunity to meet with a lawyer about topics such as family law (divorce, paternity, custody and child support), landlord/tenant disputes, estate planning, and bankruptcy. No appointment is necessary.
Free Yoga Class at OkEq
5:45 - 6:45 p.m.   

Enjoy a free class! These 60-minute, free Community Yoga classes are open to everyone of all levels. Each class is mindfully crafted to prepare the body for a peak pose in the arm balance, inversion, backbend or twist family. This class will connect the mind, body, and spirit through movement and breath.
Asexual Meeting
2nd & 4th
Tuesday of every month
7:30 - 9:00 p.m.

It's the A in LGBTQA. Come join us for an affirming, open discussion at this peer-led group for individuals 18 and over who identify as asexual or are interested in discussing asexual issues.

This a place for asexuals to form community. Be a part of the first Tulsa asexual group.
SAGE Tulsa 
Every Tuesday
10:00 am to 1:00 pm

"drop in for coffee" 
Facilitated by
John Madigan
Gender Support Program
7:00 - 8:30 p.m. 
(First time interview required before attending)
The program is providing support, education and social opportunities for transgender and intersex individuals.
Game Night
7:00 - 9:00 pm
 Join old friends and make new friends as you play some great board and card games at the Center!
All are welcome!
Facilitated by
Saturday Volunteers Richard Haley and
Teresa Reno 
Children/Siblings of Trans*/Non-Binary Individuals Support Group
This program is for youth ages 8-18 that have trans* parents or siblings. This group will provide support, education and social opportunities for those living with trans* family members. Attendees must have approval from the facilitator to participate. Please contact Amanda at 918-902-4625.
Challenging Beliefs in Nontraditional Relationships
1st & 3rd Monday
of each month
6:30 - 7:30 p.m.

This therapeutic discussion group provides a haven for individuals who engage in nontraditional relationship structures, with a focus on internal and social stigmas, personal belief systems, and the struggles surrounding this population. This group is open to individuals who take part in ethically nonmonogamous relationships (polyamory, swinging) and kink relationships. The Oklahoma Poly Network is a proud supporter of this group.
Non-Binary Support Group
3rd Tuesday of each month
 7:00 - 9:00 p.m.
A new support group for folks who identify with non-binary genders, including but not limited to, genderqueer, genderfluid, agender, bigender, neutrois, genderflux, and more. This group will be a safe space to discuss our identities, receive support, and build a strong non-binary community in Tulsa. For information contact Vic Wiener at 
SOS Group
Mondays 7:00 pm 

This open Secular Organizations for Sobriety (SOS) Recovery and Sobriety Group meets every Monday at the Dennis R. Neill Equality Center. For more information, visit  www.SOSTulsa.org
No Shade for Plus
Every Thursday
7:00 - 8:00 p.m.

A new support group to bring together people who have found they are HIV positive and those who have been living with HIV for many years. 
The group will provide support, Education, Social activities and so much more. 
The group will be here at the Dennis R. Neill Equality Center to provide a safe place to discuss issues and meet other people who are navigating their lives being PLUS. 
Tulsa Writers, Ink.
1st & 3rd Saturday of each month
1:00 - 3:00 p.m.

An LGBT inclusive group of writers providing support and resources to authors and writers regardless of where they are in their writing career.
Survivors of Incest Anonymous
Every Saturday
12:00 - 2:30 p.m.

SIA strives to empower those who have survived childhood sexual abuse (who are not abusing any child), who want to become survivors and thrivers. For more information, visit  siawso.org
Partners of Trans*/Non-Binary Individuals Support Group
The program is providing support, education and social opportunities for partners of transgender and non-binary individuals. Ages 18+. A first time interview is required before attending your first meeting. Please contact Amanda at 918-902-4625.
Live Free!
Coming Out
2nd & 4th Monday
of each month 
6:30-7:30 p.m. 

Are you planning to come out? Maybe you have just recently come out? Join us for a coming out discussion group meeting in the History Project Room. It's free! This course is designed for individuals coming to terms with their sexuality with presentations on how to come out to family, friends, and co-workers. Question and answer session in a supportive and informed environment. 
Please contact 
ComingOut@OkEq.org  or call 918-743-4297
Brought to You Bi 
the Letter B 
2nd & 4th Monday
of each month 
7:00 - 8:00 p.m.
Bisexual support group at the Dennis R. Neill Equality Center. Tell all your friends. The group is open to all bi/pan/queer/fluid+ folks and their allies. Facilitators
Daniel & Haley
Tulsa Area
Prime Timers
2nd Tuesday of every month
7:00 - 9:00 p.m.

A social organization for mature minded Gay and Bisexual men age 21 and over. The purpose is to establish friendship and support through social interaction. Visit
the website  for
more information.
Lambda Al-Anon Group
Every Friday
7:00 - 8:00 p.m.

This open Al-Anon group meets at the Dennis R. Neill Equality Center every Friday at 7:00 pm. Contact 918.743.2754 for more information.
  Intimate Partner Violence & Sexual Assault Survivor Support Group
4th Thursday of each month
6:30 - 8:30 p.m.

This support and educational group is for individuals who have survived domestic violence and are ready to explore their personal healing process and find hope and to discuss their experiences, share ideas, and provide emotional support for one another. 

Community Partners
The Equality
Business Alliance fosters a sharing of information, ideas, contacts, products and services, and also strengthens and expands our businesses, careers and community.
Workforce OK
Workforce Oklahoma
Access Point
Open every day
Workforce Oklahoma maintains a resource area at the Equality Center that includes computers, a printer and fax machine, as well as step-by-step instructions on how to register with
Oklahoma JobLink.
HIV Testing Schedule

Tuesday  4 - 8 pm
Wednesday  4 - 8 pm
Saturday 4 - 7 pm
Testing provided by H.O.P.E. Testing
Check  www.okeq.org  for testing dates.
OkEq Staff
Toby Jenkins
CEO / Executive Director
Jose Vega
Program Director
Olivia Cotter
Office Manager
Alex Wade
Volunteer & Pride Store Coordinator
Tracy Allen
Special Projects
OkEq Board and Trustees
Executive Committee
Stuart Ashworth, Esq., President
Sharon Bishop-Baldwin, Vice President
Jan Baldwin, Secretary
Paul Allen, Treasurer
Robin VanMeter, At Large

Board of Directors
Christopher Brecht-Smith, Esq.
Rev. Geoffrey Brewster
Sheena Grewal
Darci Hazelwood, D.O.
Marcia Keesee
Ben Matthews
Mike Redman, Esq.
Chris Shoaf
Al Triggs
John Williams
Board of Advisors
Laura Arrowsmith, D.O.
Peter Brennan
Alyssa Bryant, Esq.
Jamie Catlett
Michael Farr
Joann Frizell
Andrew Gordon
Amanda Lowe
Jim Scholl
Mikeal Vaughn
William Vaughn
Shawna Baker, Esq.
Dan Burnstein
Kirk Holt
David Nelson
Kris Wilmes 
Oklahomans for Equality
Hours:  Mon - Sat Noon-9 p.m. | Sun Noon-6 p.m.
621 East Fourth Street, Tulsa, OK 74120