Have you ever noticed how much words can have an impact on your outlook on life, your results
AND the people around you? I certainly have lately and it was pointed out to me by a dear friend who just happens to be a fabulous coach! She shared with me, that I have been saying the same "words" about my ex-husband for many years, and asked when I was going to be ready to drop them and move forward. I smiled, laughed out loud and said "NOW" and thanked her for being so honest with me!
A kind word can lift you up or save a bad day. They can describe who we are/once were, who we are not, who we want to be. They can evoke emotion and inspiration.
Words can also be Villains and weapon-like. Words can hurt and break.
When used irresponsibility or without thinking, they can do unthinkable damage...to you and to those around you.
Your words truly impact others.
Words can help as much as they can hurt, hinder or scar. The words you choose can lift others up or knock them down.
Your words impact you.
- "I'm a loser"
- "I'm not good at ..."
- "I never get a break."
- "I can't."
- "I never succeed at ___"
- "I'd like to, but I could never do that."
Owie! Those words hurt! Perhaps someone else has told you that??:
- "you can't do that"
- "you aren't good at ___"
OUCH!! Those hurt too!!
When we hear something often enough, we start to believe it, whether it is coming from someone else or from ourselves. True story...as I shared with you about me saying the "words" about my ex. The words we use when speaking to ourselves can do terrible damage and hold us back from succeeding (or even trying for that matter), the things we want in our lives and being the person we want to be.
Those statements or beliefs only hold us back, IF and only if we choose to let them.
What if we were to turn the statements above around?
- "I love me, and I've got this and I'm successful."
"I am strong, smart and can learn new things."
"Life may be challenging and feel hard at times, and I'm strong and appreciate all that I am learning and all the good that is coming my way.
"I can do the things that I desire, when I put my mind to it and take action to make it happen."
"That interests me, so I'm going to give it a try."
Curious? How does it feel reading those statements?
What if you were to choose to surround yourself with words that lift you rather than squash
you? What impact do you feel it would have on you and everyone around you?
I'm going to choose to hold myself accountable and would be happy to hold you accountable if you would like...
I am choosing to be responsible for the words that come out of my mouth and that I use with myself.
How about you? Are you ready to start choosing your words wisely. Are you ready to be the friend to yourself, that you would like someone else to be to you? A friend that will unconditionally love and support you and help you grow, excel and heal, if needed.
If you are ready...here is your challenge...(and mine too!!!)
Choose our words carefully; adjust our words so they uplift, encourage and support us. Choose to use words and phrases that align with the end result that we are aiming for. And choose to not allow any other person on this earth to define what we are and what we are not. That is our job!!
- Think about one thing you or someone else has told you, that you feel is holding you back in life? Write it down.
- How can you flip that statement around to serve you-to support, inspire and encourage you? Write that down. How does that feel?
You/We/I have a choice.
Starting today, I am going to be more conscious of what "words" I will be choosing, when my
ex-husband should happen to come into a conversation.
Curious?? How about you??
What will you choose to do with your "words" today, tomorrow and in the future?
I am here for you, if you choose this challenge...and would like to be held accountable.
Sending you much Love! Joanie
Finding Help in Essential Oils
Make a cup of hot tea with honey.
Begin with a few slow, deep breaths of
essential oil and diffuse it during the above challenge. Take an hour (or less if need be) to relax and remember-as this is the way to consider change. As you become more quiet, prepared and open, Vetiver's positive properties will help you become grounded, centered, and present. Then, in a favorite journal or on notepaper, jot down emotions that arise, thoughts that surface, ideas that surprise you, and anything that feels true.
Next, ask yourself if there's anything else - anything more - you might like to work on.
, the Oil of Centering & Descent, will help you to "deeply connect with what you think and feel. In this way,
is incredibly supportive in all kinds of self-awareness work." ("
Emotions & Essential Oils
") It sustains you against apathy or despondency, or a feeling of being scattered or disconnected. If you feel that you need to let go of "something" and move toward "something," but you don't know what-give yourself some time in peaceful contemplation with
. It will ground you in the present as it helps you to be open to intuitions from your inner spirit and promptings from the Divine.
* One of the most vital things you must know about essential oils is not all essential oils are created equally. In fact, most of them are worthless to your health and often synthetic. When buying essential oils make s
ure they are certified pure therapeutic grade. If you want to order the brand I trust and personally use feel free to email me @ firstname.lastname@example.org
**THE ADVICE ON THIS PAGE IS NOT INTENDED TO REPLACE PROFESSIONAL MEDICAL HELP. THESE STATEMENTS ARE FOR EDUCATIONAL PURPOSES ONLY, THEY ARE NOT MEANT TO DIAGNOSE, TREAT, CURE OR PREVENT ANY ILLNESS OR DISEASE. THIS INFORMATION IS OFFERED AS A WAY TO USE ESSENTIAL OILS TO ASSIST THE BODY IN ITS OWN NATURAL PROCESSES OF REACHING BALANCE AND HOMEOSTASIS.
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