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"Productive insight; clear (often sudden) understanding of a complex situation."  Free Dictionary

Pop the bubble of conditioned thinking and emerge into the creative realm of "no absolutes," continuous change, uncertainty and unlimited possibilities.

Then, there can be innovation, adaptation and optimal performance.
Performance and Open-minded Mindfulness
Open-minded: questioning everything, accepting diversity and uncertainty.  

Mindful:  consciously aware; concentrated. 

Foundation for blending process, project, engagement and knowledge management into a cohesive approach to optimize performance.

Accepting Things as They Are - Foundation for Proactive Change
By George Pitagorsky

In a recent Mindfulness at Work session we explored the idea that accepting things as they are is liberating and that not accepting them is the primary cause of unnecessary pain and suffering.
I was asked, "If things are terrible, why would we want to accept them? For example, why would someone want to stay in an abusive relationship?" To answer this, we defined acceptance and how it reconciles with overcoming barriers, achieving goals and being socially and politically active. 

In the Moment
In mindfulness practice the instruction is to accept things as they are in the moment; not clinging, grasping or pushing away; not judging. The in-the-moment part is critically important. It points to the reality that whatever is happening in the present moment, is happening. Whatever has happened in the past, has happened. You cannot change the past or the present moment. Though, you can act and influence the future.

The Serenity Prayer puts this in perspective - accept the things you cannot change, change the things you can and be wise enough to know the difference between them.

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How to be Happy Even When You Are Sad, Mad or Scared: 
A story about a boy who wanted everything to be the way that he thought it should be

By George Pitagorsky;   Illustrated by Tracy Pitagorsky 

This book tells the story of a child who learns how to use imagery to manage his anger.

It helps children to use the power of their mind to experience their emotions and frustrations while avoiding being driven to reactions like temper tantrums and meltdowns.
The book is for children of all ages ( even if they are in adult bodies) who are learning to manage   their emotions so they can be in touch with the light within  and around them - the calm, clear spaciousness that is   always present behind thoughts and feelings. 

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Accepting Things as They Are - Continued

When doing formal mindfulness practice, one chooses to simply be aware of what is coming and going, without getting caught up in thinking about it or doing anything to push away or hold onto it. Physical sensations and thoughts, including thoughts about other thoughts and feelings, are part of what is coming and going.
Formal practice trains the mind to rest in mindful awareness - unconditioned, spacious, clarity - and accepting everything as it is, while the world is spinning all around and you are playing your role. It is learning to be objectively aware.

You can Act and Influence the Future. 
Mindful awareness provides the clarity that enables choice. Choice before doing or saying anything includes contemplating, evaluating, and judging one's experience. 
Sometimes choice is conscious, sometimes not. When it is conscious and observed from awareness, action flows easily and is likely to have positive results. When contemplation is bypassed and judgments are influenced by unconscious biases, action is more likely to be reactive and lead to negative results.

A key point is, accepting things as they are does not mean perpetuating them. You do not have to accept that some horrible reality will continue into the future as it is. In fact, nothing will stay the same. Everything changes.

Responsively Influence the Future
Acceptance sets the stage for responsiveness.

Unless you are a time traveler, you cannot change the past or the present moment. But you can influence the future. You can act to influence the future and achieve your goals, if you have the courage and power. If you do act, do it mindfully aware of your motivations, the risks and rewards, the probability of success, impact on others, and all the other considerations that will make what you do wise and worthwhile. If you do act, realize that you will be faced with the need to accept the outcome, which may or may not be to your liking.

Mindful awareness becomes a platform for responsiveness as opposed to reactivity. It is more likely that what you do will be successful if you act responsively. Reactive behavior is a sign that there are unconscious decisions being made at the speed of thought. It is a sign that you are caught in habitual patterns and beliefs. Frustration and other forms of feeling miserable are reactions. Acceptance, including the acceptance of these feelings, is a healthier alternative.

Break out. Bring the thoughts, feelings and considerations driving feelings and decisions to conscious mind. Cultivate mindful awareness. Step back to objectively observe whatever is occurring in and around you. 

Avoid analysis paralysis, but take the time (sometimes seconds, sometimes longer) to decide if what you are about to do is wise. Get quiet enough to allow intuition and wisdom to arise and guide the decision. Use frustration and anger at unpleasant situations as a signal to transform the energy of these feelings to fuel your actions.
Accept what you cannot change, change what you can and do your best to know the difference between them. Over time, as mindful awareness matures into the normal way of experiencing life, informed intuition and wisdom will enable responsive action to flow effortlessly.

© 2019 George Pitagorsky
Performance and Open-minded Mindfulness


questioning everything, accepting diversity and uncertainty.  
 consciously aware; concentrated. 

Foundation for blending process, project, engagement and knowledge management into a cohesive approach to optimize performance.

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Managing Expectations: A Mindful Approach to Achieving Success   provides a compassionate, practical process for satisfying expectations in any situation. Essential reading for leaders seeking to ensure expectations are rational, mutually understood, and accepted by all those with a stake in the project. 

Managing Conflict in Projects
By George Pitagorsky
Managing Conflict in Projects: Applying Mindfulness and Analysis for Optimal Results by George Pitagorsky charts a course for identifying and dealing with conflict in a project context.

Pitagorsky states up front that conflict management is not a cookbook solution to disagreement-a set of prescribed actions to be applied in all situations. His overall approach seeks to balance two aspects of conflict management: analysis based on a codified process and people-centered behavioral skills.

The book differentiates conflict resolution and conflict management. Management goes beyond resolution to include relationship building that may serve to avoid conflict or facilitate resolution if it occurs.


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The Zen Approach to Project Management 
By George Pitagorsky

Projects are often more complex and stressful than they need to be. Far too many of them fail to meet expectations. There are far too many conflicts. There are too few moments of joy and too much anxiety. But there is hope. It is possible to remove the unnecessary stress and complexity. This book is about how to do just that. It links the essential principles and techniques of managing projects to a "wisdom" approach for working with complex, people-based activities.

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