#158, April 25, 2018

Let's talk about the FEELINGS in your next celebration

Especially for planning your wedding or party music.  

Want  to do it well?  Need help?  Let me give you a handy Tip.  

But First, Let Me Tell You a Little Story:

Last week I was chatting with a friend about
the benefits of being a parent.   

I'm not a parent, but I can think of several benefits. 
You too?  

Are YOU a parent?  What would you say is the  
MAIN benefit we get from raising children?  

High on my list is the idea that raising children 
teaches us  deep person-to-person skills.

For example, I've noticed that most people who've 
raised children  tend to treat  others kindly and 
develop satisfying  personal  relationships.

They've learned valuable lessons of kindness,  
generosity, compassion, patience, humility, 
gratitude, and the capacity for loving.  

You know, all those good commandments from 
all the world's holy books.  Those universal 
person-to-person skills that make us civilized.

THESE SKILLS we learn as parents are the key
to living successfully  anytime, everywhere.

But why do I talk about raising children?

Because I think one side benefit is that raising 
children can help us plan wedding  and party music.

How?  The heart of the answer is this: all these 
skills for success are about our FEELINGS.

About relying on our emotions to get through 
life's challenges.  

It's not, as I once suspected, about relying on our  
great intellect to navigate life's up and downs.

Most experts agree that people usually make 
decisions based on emotions.  And afterward 
we use our logic to justify these decisions.  

You'll find examples everywhere you turn.
And you do it yourself all the time, too:  
  • What should I plan for dinner tonight?  
  • What shoes should I wear today?  
  • Why should you believe what I'm saying?
Examine each choice we make.  Nearly every time, 
you'll find we make a decision based on our feelings.  

And then we come up with an explanation that seems 
logical enough to justify it.

It's not our fault.  Like it or not, this is how we work:  
Heart first, then brains.

So here's that Tip I promised you: 
The secret for planning music at any celebration 
is to target the FEELINGS behind the celebration.

And raising children can give us the skills
to target  those feelings effectively.

Well, of course it's NOT the complete story.

For important decisions, I still believe we need 
to guide our choices with some expert advice
as well as with our emotions.

Let's say you're organizing a special project.  
You want to work with some capable people, 
eager to make your dreams come true, right?  

Inevitably, you'll make your plans based on your 
feelings.  We all know to expect that by now.  

But don't jump in with your feelings alone.  
Be smart and gather some expert opinions 
to back up your feelings.  Ask a pro.

Wherever you can, get advice from experienced 
professionals, who've "been there, done that".

So t he next time  you're planning music -- for a 
wedding  or a party --  you can call me.  

And now that we're talking about 
planning wedding & party music...
Mothers Day and Memorial Day are just ahead, 
and you might be involved with planning an 
exciting holiday celebration.

And if you or a friend are engaged to get 
married, you might also be involved with 
planning the wedding.

Perhaps both. 

So the next time you or a friend  are looking  for 
upbeat, elegant music,  played the way you want, 
think of us.

Where can you can preview us?  Here: (see details below)

Tuesday, June 12, 5:30-7:00pm
Elegant Cocktail Party  (for people who support SF YMCA)
Julia Morgan Ballroom, 465 California St, San Francisco

Caterer?  Wedding or Event Planner?  Bride?  Groom? 
Enjoy the festive mood we'll create.  You'll hear the 
popular standards, jazz classics, and Latin favorites. 
Please stop by and say Hi.

In the meantime, watch us play "I'm Old Fashioned", 
livening up a recent cocktail party in San Jose.

Let's chat soon.

Robbie Schlosser | Magnolia Jazz Band
"Elegant, Upbeat Music for Weddings and Parties"  

P.S. Want wedding or party music?  See our reviews on  Yelp.  
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