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From the New York Times . . .


The Stories of Those Who Lost Decades in the Closet

A new photography exhibit invites viewers to contemplate the emotional toll of discrimination.


The exhibit, “Not Another Second,” shot in 2019 by a German photographer, Karsten Thormaehlen, profiles 12 older adults who identify as L.G.B.T.+ (the “Q” is deliberately missing because the word “queer” was often used as a pejorative term against the people profiled), through a series of portraits and video interviews.
Almost all of them spent several years of their lives hiding from prejudiced eyes, even to do the most normal of things — to walk with heads held high, to live without being considered crazy, to serve in the military, to marry their lovers, to hold down jobs.

Something to Think About
by Cindy Davis
Valentine's Day
As I put my pen to paper, or more precisely, my fingers to my keyboard, I find myself thinking about Valentine’s Day. Among its other well-known meanings, Merriam Webster’s Collegiate Dictionary defines it as a time to “express uncritical praise or affection”. What a wonderful life skill! Apart from the traditional card and gift giving ritual that my partner and I participated in each year, I wondered what it would look like if I attempted to become more uncritical, with praise and affection. In other words, could I love more unconditionally? When I am at my very best, it seems easier to be generous and loving to another human being. When I am feeling deflated and dispirited, it is unlikely that my heart will be that big.

 There is no denying that 2020 was wrought with stress and unspeakable madness. At times I have found the depth of my sadness and angst to be overwhelming, as in emotionally breathless. Often I’d feel fatigued by the energy required to cope. During this time, how could I possibly love myself enough to be kind to, and uncritical of others? Forgive me if I take a bit of a textbook approach here: Typically, my thoughts determine how I feel, so I decided to take a look at what buzzes around in my head despite the fact that it does not serve me. I can be a culprit of black & white thinking, a mindset that instantly proves that I am “right”, with unflappable certainty, and doesn’t allow for compromise or flexibility. This generally leaves me feeling argumentative, defensive, and dismissive. If I jump to conclusions, I am using limited (and often flawed) information to assess a situation, due to a lack of evidence. It’s no fun to feel “wrong” when presented with factual data. Yet another common pitfall is the practice of mind reading, which involves my deciding what someone else is thinking and feeling. I hope I’m making my point (no assumptions this time!) When I fall prey to skewed thinking styles, I am not truly communicating with anybody. I feel isolated. I feel put upon. I am unlikely to feel generous, or uncritical because I am too busy being really hard on myself. It’s pretty evident that I am a better person while I am being kind to myself. Maybe Valentine’s Day begins with me. 


Cindy Davis is a retired Licensed Professional Counselor. 
She was an advice columnist for the Times-News, and is also a PFLAG Board Member.

Watch for Cindy's column each month on our Newsletter
In The News
A Couple of movies for your isolation . . .

‘Uncle Frank’ Review: Coming of Age, Coming to TermsI

"In Uncle Frank the writer-director Alan Ball (“True Blood”) combines several overworked genres — the coming-of-age picture, the road-trip odyssey, the angst-filled family-reunion movie — and mostly steers clear of the obvious pitfalls."

Still, in our opinion this streaming video is worth taking a look as its message is all to often repeated in our culture. Check it out on Amazon Prime . . .

This from PFLAG National . . .
Join us for a special Q&A with the cast and creative team of COWBOYS

In this beautiful film by writer/director Anna Kerrigan, Steve Zahn stars as Troy, a troubled but well-intentioned father who has recently separated from his wife Sally (Jillian Bell). Aghast at Sally’s refusal to let their trans son Joe (Sasha Knight) live as his authentic self, Troy runs off with Joe into the Montana wilderness. Meanwhile, police detective (Ann Dowd) pursues them, but her resolve about the case is tested the more she learns about Joe’s family.

Check out the trailer and see where to watch the full film (beginning February 12th) at samuelgoldwynfilms.com/cowboys, then join us for a conversation with the cast and creative team. We'll be broadcasting live on PFLAG

National's Facebook and YouTube channels at 8pm ET/5pm PT on Sunday, February 21st. 


Kick Off Black History Month With Ibram X. Kendi and Keisha N. Blain and a Host of Other Events

Smithsonian will celebrate Black History Month this year with a twist—virtual programming.

The Smithsonian’s National Museum of African American History and Culture is offering a wide range of digital programs for all ages this February. The month kicks off February 2 with a book discussion with authors and scholars Ibram X. Kendi and Keisha N. Blain on their newly released book Four Hundred Souls: A Community History of African America, 1619–2019, a 10-part book spanning 400 years of African American history. In this discussion moderated by Mary Elliott, the museum’s curator of American slavery, Kendi and Blain will focus on slavery, reconstruction and segregation and their continuing impact on the United States. They will be joined by several contributors to the book, including Herb Boyd, City University of New York; Kali Nicole Gross, Emory University; Peniel Joseph, University of Texas; and Annette Gordon Reed, Harvard University.


On Dec. 1, a key prong of North Carolina's House Bill 142 expired, clearing the way for cities and towns to pass LGBTQ-inclusive nondiscrimination ordinances and finally protect our communities. We've launched a digital portal alongside Campaign for Southern Equality called #NCIsReady to make it easy for you to contact your local elected officials and voice support for nondiscrimination ordinances. Head to www.ncisready.org to learn more! 
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