PFLAG Alamance Monthly Meeting 
Welcoming new people and old friends

July 13, 2021
7:00 p.m.

May's Ice Cream Social was so much fun that you asked for
a repeat, so we'll start our meeting next Tuesday with ice cream
and a few favorite toppings.

Community Life Center
Elon Community Church UCC
271 N. Williamson Ave. 
Elon, NC

We will continue to follow Covid protocols and Elon Community Church policies.

  • Vaccinations recommended, but not required.
  • Social distancing will be practiced. Meeting in the CLC will allow for plenty of room to space our chairs
  • Masks are optional in the building now, but if you are more comfortable wearing a mask, please feel free to do so.

Please enter the building through the covered walk behind the sanctuary. 
Plenty of parking there.

Pride Night with the Sock Puppets
(Burlington's newest minor league baseball team)

Burlington Athletic Stadium

Alamance Pride and the Burlington Sock Puppets are hosting the first ever Pride Night! Stormie Daie will be guest emcee and she might even throw out a pitch if we're nice! We promise a sockingly different evening at the ballpark. A portion of the proceeds will benefit the Alamance Pride Scholarship Fund. Use promo password "pride" to buy your tickets.

From the ACLUI . . .


JUNE 28, 2021

WASHINGTON — The Supreme Court declined to hear Grimm v. Gloucester County School Board, allowing lower court decisions in support of transgender students to stand.

The U.S. District Court for the Eastern District of Virginia and the U.S. Court of Appeals for the Fourth Circuit have both ruled that the school board violated Title IX and the Equal Protection Clause by prohibiting Grimm from using the same restrooms as other boys and forcing him to use separate restrooms.

The Supreme Court was scheduled to hear Grimm’s case at an earlier stage of the litigation in 2017, but the case was sent back to the lower courts after the Trump administration withdrew the government’s support for Grimm’s claims. Since that time, three federal appeals courts have ruled that discriminatory restroom policies like the one in Grimm’s high school violate Title IX and the Constitution, and another two appeals courts have rejected claims that policies like the one Grimm seeks here — which would allow transgender students to use the restrooms — infringe on anyone else’s privacy. The Department of Justice and Department of Education have affirmed these court decisions with recent actions in cases involving transgender youth.

Josh Block, senior staff attorney with the American Civil Liberties Union LGBTQ & HIV Project, had the following response: “This is the third time in recent years that the Supreme Court has allowed appeals court decisions in support of transgender students to stand. This is an incredible victory for Gavin and for transgender students around the country. Our work is not yet done, and the ACLU is continuing to fight against anti-trans laws targeting trans youth in states around the country.”

Something to Think About . . .
by Cindy Davis
What is a Gay Lifestyle, Anyway?
I had forgotten how much fun it is to be outdoors, in a crowd, and listen to other people’s conversations. Not intentionally, of course. One cannot tell what others are thinking when you wait for a concert to begin unless they speak in perceptible voices. One Saturday night in June, my partner and I had terrific seats to see Jim Curry, a gifted vocalist who does “A Tribute to John Denver” concerts nationally. He was performing with the Greensboro Symphony Orchestra, the weather was delightful and cool, and we know all the words to most John Denver songs, and planned on singing them (it’s actually expected!) We were excited and anticipated having an awesome time and were not disappointed.
Prior to the performance, about a row behind us, I overheard the word “pride” and thought, hmmm, this month is Pride month, perhaps there’s some “family” behind us? So, yes, I do confess leaning back in my chair just slightly, hoping to overhear additional thoughts. And then I heard “I’m worried about her going to that Pride March thing. You know how those gay lifestyles can be so dangerous.” OK, so definitely NOT family. I wanted to turn around and educate these folks but decided against it. I didn’t see the point. But, here’s the thing. What is a gay lifestyle, anyway? Honestly, I didn’t need to do a bunch of research, because I’m gay and I have gay friends, some of whom are students, professionals (doctors, lawyers, therapists, interior decorators, to name a very few), and some of us are retired. We enjoy good restaurants, theatre, John Denver tributes, travel and baseball games. We play tennis, go jogging, we go bowling. Some of us workout at the gym or use silks. We read, we write, we sing. Our concerns vary, as do our priorities, and religious beliefs. Does this sound dangerous to you? Are you thinking what I’m thinking? Guess what? This describes my heterosexual friends too! 
Inspired by this ignorant misconception, I did read a study done by Case Western Reserve University in 2021 on “Sexual Orientation Myths & Facts” and here’s a sample of their data:
Myth: Lesbian, gay and bisexual people “flaunt” their sexuality when they talk about their partner, hold hands or kiss one another in public.
These are activities that heterosexual couples do all of the time. Due to homophobic reactions, some lesbian, gay and bisexual people are actually forced to hide their sexuality in public, not flaunt it.
Myth: People who are lesbian, gay and bisexual work and live in only certain types of situations.
Lesbian, gay and bisexual people belong to all ethnic and racial groups, are members of all religious communities, exhibit a range of mental and physical capabilities, and are of all ages.
Fact: The majority of child molesters are heterosexual men, not lesbian, gay or bisexual people.
Almost all studies show that over 90% of child molestation is committed by heterosexual men.
Fact: There is no definable gay “lifestyle”.
Similarly, there is no standard heterosexual lifestyle . . . the most accurate generalization might be this: lesbian, gay and bisexual people are different from one another in the same ways that heterosexual people are different from one another.
“Riding on the tapestry of all there is to see, so many ways and oh, so many things. Rejoicing in the differences, there’s no one just like me. Yet as different as we are, we’re still the same.” 
---John Denver, “Season Suite: Summer, Fall, Winter, Late Winter, Early Spring”
 Cindy Davis is a retired Licensed Professional Counselor. 
She was an advice columnist for the Times-News, and is also a PFLAG Board Member.

Cindy can be contacted at

Watch for Cindy's column each month on our Newsletter

Rural LGBTQ Youth need your help!

At Equality North Carolina, we're committed to plugging into the lives and communities of rural LGBTQ youth all across our state. With less than 10% of our state living in areas with local nondiscrimination protections, rural LGBTQ youth are among the most vulnerable North Carolinians when it comes to facing discrimination in their daily lives.

One of these rural youth speaking out about the need for nondiscrimination protections is Devin Green, a transmasculine student at UNC-Pembroke and one of our Rural Youth Empowerment Fellows.

"Let us continue to fight for legal protections for our community," Devin told ENC. "But let us not forget that the work starts with ourselves, recognizing our biases and blindspots. Let us not forget to hold ourselves accountable in the same ways that we hold our oppressors accountable. Our lives and the lives of our siblings depend on it."

Youth like Devin are why we’re leading a campaign called #NCIsReady to help municipalities pass nondiscrimination ordinances at the local level. We've successfully passed nine of them in places like Durham, Orange County, and Asheville -- but we need your help to keep going and truly create a North Carolina where our families, friends, and loved ones are truly safe.

An important messaage from ENC

Equality NC joins our communities in honoring the legacy of the Stonewall Riots. 

On June 28, 1969, a group of trans and BIPOC patrons at the Stonewall Inn in New York City led a righteous rebellion against police violence. This night, in many ways, was a catalyst for the modern-day LGBTQ rights movement, with Black, Brown, and trans community members continuing to bear the brunt of violence and discrimination.

Over 50 years later, we’re still fighting for these protections on a very basic level. In North Carolina, there are currently no comprehensive state or federal protections against discrimination along the lines of sexual orientation or gender identity. 

That’s why we’re leading a campaign called #NCIsReady to help municipalities pass nondiscrimination ordinances at the local level. We've successfully passed nine of them in places like Durham, Orange County, and Asheville -- but we need your help to keep going and truly create a North Carolina where our families, friends, and loved ones are truly safe.
For Pride month, Equality NC & Campaign for Southern Equality have launched a limited run of NCisReady swag for you to support our work and add your voice to the fight for nondiscrimination protections! 

P.O. Box 623,
Elon, NC 27244
Phone Number:
+1 336-584-8722