Volume 2, Issue 7 | August 2018
How Much Grit Do You Have For Your Obstacles?

Most of our goals can only happen if we push through what life puts in our way. We must harness our energy, drive, and motivation to keep pushing and never settle. We have to find our grit.

Grit is key to development because it shows us what we really want. How -- and how much -- we fight for something demonstrates our grittiness. How often might we have said we wanted something, but then, for whatever reason, never followed through? We might have had the desire for something but not the commitment. How bad did we really want it, then? Consider your own experiences: Who are the grittiest people you know? They are usually the ones who write the story of their life; they don't just read it or have it read to them. They get their hands dirty with hard work and new challenges.
Grit applies to leadership development because it sets the example for others, both to go after what they really want and how hard they should go after it. There's a good chance that when you consider the best examples of grit, the leaders you admire most demonstrate that sense of drive, passion, and persistence. And, although this ability doesn't come as naturally to some as it does to others, grit can be taught, learned, and built. We just have to be made aware of it and that it's something that should be worked at.

The Coach It Out Podcasts this month cover grit from different angles. Quickshots covers the blog post What Do You Mean When You Say "It's Too Much Work" To Reach What You Want? In The Books covers the book Grit: The Power of Passion and Perseverance. The Self 60 speaks to the item Show Your Grit.

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One of the best ways to develop forward in life, work, and leadership is to stop and ask yourself these questions. The answers should outline what got you to where you are today, what is important to you now, and what you want to keep pushing forward for.
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Topic: Grit

How much fight do you have in you?

What drives you to fight and push for what you want the way you do?

How supportive is your environment to let you work toward what it is you want?

Where do you think you learned your ability to push forward?
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Episode 13
by Angela Lee Duckworth

As the title implies, the book covers grit and what it means. It breaks grit down, building a solid understanding of it by citing examples, studies, and experiments. Grit is enveloped in a question that isn't asked as often as it should be: How bad do you really want something, to the point you'll keep working for it? The book can help you gain insight into who you are and how you see the work you put in toward what you want.

The book supplements leadership development in that it helps us put a mirror up to who we think we are, who we really are, and who we want to be. In considering grit when it comes to leadership, we learn how much work we actually put in to achieve the things we want and how much more we're willing to put in going forward.

This book is specifically recommended for those who seek to develop themselves further and improving. Most often, reading and learning about what's possible is enough to trigger development and drive. This book can open your eyes to what's possible -- in yourself.
Provides a deeper breakdown of issues, ideas, and concepts covered in the Coach It Out Blog

Episode 17

The same way we try to work on ourselves, we can also fool ourselves. How many times might we have wanted something, and then given up, saying it's too much work? If that's the case, how bad did we really want that goal in the first place?
Provides a deeper breakdown of each of
the items on  The Self 60  list. 

Episode 16

Show that you can roll your sleeves up and get things done. Demonstrate that you will take ownership of your path and what you need to get done. Your value is not only who you are today, but what you want for yourself for tomorrow. How focused are you to push forward? Keep your eyes on the target and just...keep...going.
You Be The Judge
Here's the flip-side. What do you think?

On Angela Lee Duckworth's work in Grit:
"Which suggests that Duckworth’s basic admonition, 'Embrace challenge,' needs a qualifier: Do it in private. Grit may be essential. But it is not attractive."

Do we really love watching people that seem like naturals in their success that much, that seeing the hard work going into the skill would take away from admiration of the end result?

Duckworth and many other authors point out how much goes into the careers and successes of those we consider naturals. We tend to want to believe they're naturals and that it comes easy to them, because if it didn't, it would mean we ourselves could have possibly worked toward that end result, and have instead not achieved our best potential or performance. So, what do hard work and grit mean to you?
How Coaching
Covers Grit

Too often, clients are stuck in the present. They only see what is in front of them. They forget to monitor why it is they are doing what they're doing. Some support and questions about options and motivators can be a call to action for someone to push forward to get what they need and want.

General Steps Forward for Grit
  Step back and analyze the situation to determine what it is that's desired and what needs to go into its achievement. Do you understand what your goals entail?

Take note of the experiences you've had to date, the kind of effort you've put in, and what you've achieved to date. How committed have you been up until now?

Consider how easily you might have given up in your path and journey to date. How will you tweak those kinds of decisions going forward?

Look around and seek out or recognize the resources you can utilize to assist in your drive. This includes considering the right people to have around you. Do you have the right tools around you?
End Quote

"Do not judge me by my success,
judge me by how many times I fell down and got back up again."
-- Nelson Mandela

Too often, we look at people's successes without considering what went into them -- the fear, the sacrifice, the disappointment, the trial-and-errors, the frustration, etc. Because we tend not to think about those things when looking at someone we consider a success, we forget what the path might possibly look like to get to those points of success. We see the beauty of the success, without the ugliness of the pitfalls.

It's on each of us to both look deeper into each other's stories and, at the same time, share the story of our own struggles, tests, and obstacles with others. The majority of the time people give up it's because they might not have an example, a story, or the support to show them that struggling is a part of the journey. Look for that hard work in others, while sharing the story of your challenges with others.
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