Volume 2, Issue 9 | October 2018
How Disciplined Are You In Keeping To Your Plans?

You can only be your best if you want it. Nothing can get done in life, leadership, or coaching without us being disciplined enough to do what we need to do.

Without self-discipline, each of us can read as much as we want, study as much as we want, and plan as much as we want, but nothing will get done. We need to be strict enough with ourselves to get the ball rolling toward what we want to achieve.

Self-discipline applies to leadership development because we need the commitment to -- and respect for -- ourselves enough to follow through on what we say we're going to do for ourselves. In these situations we need to be selfish, creating greater value for ourselves -- without taking from others. Just in this case, the selfishness leads to building and developing ourselves.

We can't be our best without buckling down, carrying out the hard work, and taking the difficult steps of improving.

The Coach It Out Podcasts this month cover Self-Discipline from different angles. Quickshots covers the blog post To Reach Your Goals, How Do You Make Sure To Discipline Yourself?   In The Books covers the book No Excuses!: The Power of Self-Discipline . The Self 60 speaks to the item Pick & Choose Your Battles .

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Nothing can happen without you making the final decision(s) that you're going to commit yourself fully. Desiring something is not the same as deciding you're ready to put in the work. You're the one who has to keep yourself accountable, first and foremost, before anyone else.
Your Monthly Check-In
Topic: Self-Discipline

How strong is your discipline or willpower when it comes to the things you want?

From where or from whom did you learn your self-discipline?

If your self-discipline has evolved, what did it look like when there was less, and what were the results then?

Who are the go-to people around you who help keep you on your right path?
Great Reads for Self-Discipline

How You Talk To Yourself

Sharpening Your Self-Discipline

Don't Sabotage Yourself
Coach It Out's podcasts seek to provide insight, share ideas, and start discussions across four different series.

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Episode 16
by Brian Tracy

No Excuses! outlines how self-discipline applies to our personal, business, and work lives. It focuses on how we each may desire to improve in those various areas to reach our own successes but oftentimes lack the focus and planning to do so.

The book supplements leadership, asking us to consider how disciplined we are in all aspects of our life. It calls on us to focus on the power of our internal attributes and external practices, as they impact both us and others around us. It demonstrates that the more we practice it in one area, the easier it is to transfer self-discipline mindset to others. The lessons are transferable.

This book would benefit those finding themselves lacking the self-discipline it takes to achieve and see things through. Too often, what holds us back is not the lack of resources or tools in the environment but the lack of self-discipline that would help us see our commitments -- to both ourselves and others -- through.
Provides a deeper breakdown of issues, ideas, and concepts covered in the Coach It Out Blog

Episode 19

You need to figure out what it is you really want -- and why? Desiring something is not the same as being committed to it. Be honest with yourself. That self-reflection and honesty allow you to build a strong and stable base off of which to work. Coming through for yourself leads to improvement.
Provides a deeper breakdown of each of
the items on  The Self 60  list. 

Episode 18

Be careful where you place your energy, effort, and attention. Whether it's a goal or a problem, make sure you're committing those resources to the right areas, not using more energy than needed. Wasted effort is wasted time, money, and value. Self-discipline helps us realize when we are not utilizing resources effectively or when we're wasting them in some way.
How Coaching Covers:
Self-Discipline

Self-Discipline is the need to get it together. We may want certain things in life, but too often we oversimplify our approach to those desired outcomes. Coaching works toward the client's self-realization and self-accountability, to produce the best chances of goal attainment and success.

General Steps Forward

Work to determine what is desired and why. The end result that we want -- what does it really mean to us?

Outline resources available to achieve that outcome. What are some little tricks and hacks to keep you on task? What can you use around you to help reach what it is you want? .

Maintain a list of steps that need to be taken to harness the correct resources to achieve the desired outcome. In what order should you do things to make them more achievable?

Maintain ongoing, consistent accountability to ensure steps outlined are achieved. How will you make sure you're not slipping back on your word -- to yourself?
Always Move Forward
Look back, but don't move back.


"Negative self-talk gets in our way, gets into our heads, and distracts us from our goals. It convinces us that there’s no point in trying, because we’ll probably just fail anyway."

Although we always want to keep working toward the positive, there may be negative forces and feelings that creep in to derail us. We need to become aware of them -- not ignore them -- and push forward. So, when it comes to self-discipline, it's not always as easy as finding the energy to build. There are moments when negative self-talk creeps in which we need to stop in its tracks. So it's not only about the discipline and energy to push forward into the positive, but also about the discipline and energy to push back on and neutralize the negative.

The perceptions and beliefs we build oftentimes are more detrimental and toxic than what truly is.

How much might you be your own worst enemy?
End Quote
"Too often, we might keep our true feelings hidden so that no one knows how much we’re affected by the situation at hand. But, in that case, everyone loses."  
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As mentioned above, self-discipline is about staying the course and following through with who we are and what we want. It's about not letting things slip. And that ability also comes into play when we notice things aren't right or working out.

Self-Discipline isn't only about controlling oneself, whether in tasks or responsibilities. It's also about speaking up for what we believe in or what we know. We can't stay completely quiet because it's comfortable. Self-discipline is about doing things in spite of that discomfort and staying the course.

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