OkEq Weekly eNews October 1st, 2019
MISSION: OkEq seeks equal rights for LGBTQ+ individuals and families through intersectional advocacy, education, programs, alliances, and the operation of the Dennis R. Neill Equality Center.
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Art Opening & Exhibit Featuring the Works of LGBTQ+ Youth
Thursday, October 3, 6:00 p.m. - 9:00 p.m.
Dennis R. Neill Equality Center
621 E. 4th St., Pride Street
Tulsa, OK 74120

This October Oklahomans for Equality (OkEq) will showcase and exhibit local LGBTQ+ Youth artists at the Dennis R. Neill Equality Center beginning with a reception on Thursday, October 3rd from 6-9pm and continuing throughout the month. “Youth Invasion” will open October 1 st for a month-long show at the Dennis R. Neill Equality Center,
The artwork will be available for purchase at the show.
The show is a collaborative effort of over fifteen young artists from Tulsa and the surrounding areas. Many of the youth come from Alphabet SOUP, Oklahomans for Equality Center’s Youth Group, Youth Services of Tulsa, and Camp Fire Green Country. The exhibit contains a wide variety of two- and three-dimensional media, including canvas, clay, and assemblage. This exhibit features teens’ unique take on the issues they face today. This show is a visual
exploration of identity and representation. Today’s youth are no stranger to the conscious act of curating the private and public self on a daily basis.
This show allows one to look through the eyes of today’s LGBTQ+ youth. The youth who attend Alphabet SOUP, began imagining a show for the art gallery at The Dennis R. Neill Equality Center early in the year. The young people have a unique and noteworthy view of the world, and wanted to express their view using the language of art. The youth have been working throughout the year to create and refine the pieces they felt best represented them to be included on this exhibit. Their art will both challenge and expire visitors. The show continues through October 31st.
The show begins with a reception where there will be a door prize drawn of the artist’s work. The show continues throughout the month.
Exhibitors include:
Artists include: Atlas Daniel Underhill, Amiri Rolland, Winston Paschal, Mia Liagon, Virgil Coffee, Trinity Kissire, Parker Grubb, Athena Lamontflores, Kai Davidson, Aunalicia Garza, Ash Stambaugh, and others.
OKEQ at the State Fair
September 26 - October 6
Tulsa Fair Grounds
4145 E. 21st St.
Tulsa, OK 74120

OKEQ will be at the Tulsa State Fair again this year! Last year was a huge success, and we hope to reach even more people this year! We can't do it without your help, so we are asking people to volunteer for 3-hour shifts at our booth. The fair runs from September 26th through October 6th.

Pride Days at the Tulsa State Fair
Oklahomans for Equality invites you to turn the Tulsa State Fair Rainbow! Come out and have fun at the Tulsa State Fair as our community celebrates LGBTQ+ Pride all 11 days of awesome!
Oklahomans for Equality will have an indoor booth with the road show pride store, information, and volunteers!
This is a great chance to run into familiar faces and meet new ones. Don't forget to wear your pride attire to spread awareness and visibility of our presence in Tulsa!
Call for Artist - Deadline for submissions Oct. 7th
Monday, October 7, 9:00 a.m. - 9:00 p.m.
Dennis R. Neill Equality Center
621 E. 4th St., Pride Street
Tulsa, OK 74120

The OkEq gallery at the Dennis R Neill Equality Center in Tulsa, Oklahoma is now accepting proposals for the 2020 Exhibition Calendar. Our gallery encourages artists who create fresh, challenging work in all media to apply.
Each chosen exhibit will be on display for approximately 30 days. OkEq will host the opening night reception for the artist(s), on the first Thursday of the month. Each exhibit is installed on the Tuesday prior. No additional work will be accepted after initial delivery. Work must be available for sale. There will be a 30% commission on work sold. Artists will also provide artwork labels (title, price, etc) for each piece. A bio and artist statement is due to the OkEq gallery on the 1st of the month prior to the exhibit, for publicity purposes.
How to Apply :
Proposals should include a paragraph or two about your vision for an exhibit, as well as 5 jpg images which represent your current work. All proposals must be submitted by email. Proposals incorporating the work of two artists or a small group are also acceptable. Artists who have not shown in the gallery before will be given priority consideration.
Please let us know if your idea for an exhibit will require months to prepare or if you have calendar
restrictions. We would also like to know if you could be ready to go quickly, as those early months are sometimes hard to fill.
Deadline for submissions is October 7th, 2019.
Notifications will be sent out by November 1, 2019.
Please submit entry below, with the subject heading “OkEq gallery proposal"
Alphabet Soup: OUT of the Can
October 18 - October 20
Dennis R. Neill Equality Center
621 E. 4th St., Pride Street
Tulsa, OK 74120
Leadership Lock-In 2019 will bring together LGBTQ+ youth in middle school and high school from across the state to socialize, develop leadership skills, and to have a great time! Throughout the lock-In, youth will have the unique opportunity to build partnerships, learn new skills, and develop leadership skills to impact their community.
Who Should Attend?
Youth: Youth in grades 6 through 12 who identify as LGBTQ+ who also have an interest in connecting with, and impacting their community.
What Will We Do?
Youth will participate in interactive workshops focusing on leadership development, community impact, and self-expression. There will be informative and motivating keynote speakers, lots of fun activities, entertainment, and a silent disco!
Some activities will be held at alternate locations such as Youth Services of Tulsa. Staff and volunteers will be responsible for transporting youth to alternate sites.
 For more information about registration, call the Equality Center at 918-743-4297 or email Morgan Allen at  morgan.allen@okeq.org .
The OKEQ History Project Needs your Help

Our History Project team has been working on archiving footage, artifacts, and newspaper clippings from 1980 to the present day. We have pieces of Oklahoma LGBTQ+ history that span forty years, but we need your help! Do you have old newspapers at your house that mention OKEQ? Do you have Pride shirts from 1999? Videos from past galas? 
Consider donating or loaning them to our history project so we can digitize and make our archive searchable to the public! 

Bring any and all artifacts to the center! We are open 7 days a week from 9am-9pm!
Fresh Start Program: Trans-formative Self Care!
Thursday, October 3, 6:00 p.m.
Dennis R. Neill Equality Center
621 E. 4th St., Pride Street
Tulsa, OK 74120

The brain child of Victoria James and co-sponsored by Clary Sage College, Dennis R Neill Equality Center, Unity Tulsa, and Dynamite Conventions.
The Fresh Start Program is designed give a hand-up to those who are going experiencing major life-changes through teaching self-care. No matter what is happening in your
life … gender transition, divorce, or even just a much-needed change … The
Fresh Start Program provides a judgment free and life-affirming environment so
that you can build the best version of yourself through self-care and style.
So, stop hating your mirror and stop waiting on the Fab Five to swoop in to
make your life better. Join us for our free monthly classes, take control and
give yourself the skills to stride into the future with confidence.
October 3rd - Applying Makeup for Your Everyday Style
Clary Sage College's Makeup Artistry instructor and students will show you how to apply
and wear everyday makeup. Bring your makeup kit to class and the Clary Sage students and instructors will show each attendee tips on the best way to apply makeup for your shape and coloring. The first 20 Attendees will receive a free gift and samples (or for as long as supplies last).
McAlester Pride
Saturday, October 12, 12:00 p.m. - 4:00 p.m.
Chadick Park
S. 3rd St. & E. Chadick Ave.
McAlester, OK 74501
Tulsa Native American Day
Monday, October 14, 2019 at 9:00 a.m – 5:00 p.m.
Guthrie Green
111 E. M.B. Brady St.
Tulsa, OK 74103

Come join us for the 3nd Annual Tulsa Native American Day Celebration! Event will begin at 9:00 and is open to the public. Vendors, artists, and food trucks will be available throughout the day! Come listen to local community leaders and guest speakers talk about what this day means to them. Parade will begin at 12:00 pm followed by exhibition dancing.

This years art, titled "Walking in the Spirit", was done by Tim Nevaquaya. Visit Nevaquaya Fine Arts:
LGBT Women's Network October Happy Hour
Monday, October 14, 9:00 a.m – 5:00 p.m.
Vi ntage Wine Bar
324 E. 1st St.
Tulsa, Oklahoma 74120

Vintage Wine Bar has will be hosting us in their beautiful new(ish) space for our October happy hour. Come have a glass of wine or cocktail, meet some new faces, and hopefully it'll be nice enough out to enjoy their perfect patio. **this is on the second Monday of October due to our organizers BOTH being out of town.
As always, our monthly meetups are come & go gatherings for Tulsa women who identify as LGBTQ+ and allies are always welcome!
If you would like to recommend a happy hour location, just send us a message! We’re interested to visit all LGBT-friendly locations!
EBA Mixer
Wednesday, October 16, 6:00 p.m.
Serenity Financial
508 W. Atlanta St.
Broken Arrow, Oklahoma

POC Social at OkEq
Thursday, October 17, 7:00 p.m. – 9:00 p.m.
Dennis R. Neill Equality Center
621 E. 4th St., Pride Street
Tulsa, OK 74120

The People of Color Social Mixer focuses on celebrating, preserving and connecting POCs in the Tulsa LGBT+ community. Join us for drinks, food and fun! The POC events are scheduled the third Thursday of each month.
Third Thursdays in the Rainbow Room
Thursday, October 17, 8:00 p.m. – 10:00 p.m.
Dennis R. Neill Equality Center
621 E. 4th St., Pride Street
Tulsa, OK 74120

Best of Broadway…and Other Exaggerations is a delightful compilation of some of the most beloved tunes every performed on the great white way. The talented cast takes the audience on a sometimes hilarious and sometimes sentimental journey, offering important moments from more than a dozen Tony Award winning Broadway musicals. This cabaret-styled performance features members of Tulsa’s theater and entertainment scene, Sam Briggs, Kara Staiger, Denise Hoey, and Mike DeMarco, while Christy Stalcup lights up the keys. With music from "A Chorus Line" to "Hello Dolly," with moments from "Cabaret," "Man of La Mancha," and many more, this show has something for everyone who loves Broadway music.
Visibly Imperfectly Perfect Tulsa Support Group Meeting
Thursday, October 24, 6:30 p.m. - 8:30 p.m.
Dennis R. Neill Equality Center
621 E. 4th St., Pride Street
Tulsa, OK 74120

This is Visibly Imperfectly Perfect Tulsa very first meeting invite!!! We are so excited to bring people together to help each other LOVE the SKIN they are in!!
LOVE the SKIN they are in!!!! Encouraging others keeps her encouraged as well!
Our first meeting was so much fun!!!! We hope to see you there :)
Active Shooter - How to Respond and Survive
Sunday, October 27, 2:00 p.m. - 4:00 p.m.
Dennis R. Neill Equality Center
621 E. 4th St., Pride Street
Tulsa, OK 74120

Learn strategies on how to survive an active shooter situation. 
Profile of an Active Shooter 

Per the Department of Homeland Security:
An Active Shooter is an individual actively engaged in killing or attempting to kill people in a confined and populated area; in most cases, active shooters use firearms(s) and there is no pattern or method to their selection of victims
This course will teach you how to prepare mentally and physically to deal with an active shooter situation at school, work or other public places.  
Transgender Day of Remembrance - TDoR
Wednesday, November 20, 7:00 p.m
Dennis R. Neill Equality Center
621 E. 4th St., Pride Street
Tulsa, OK 74120

Transgender Day of Remembrance (TDOR) is an annual observance on November 20 that honors the memory of those whose lives were lost in acts of anti-transgender violence.
Additionally, during the week of November 12-19, people and organizations around the country participate in  Transgender Awareness Week  to help raise the visibility of transgender people and address the issues trans people face.
This year we will be honoring those lost and celebrating their lives.
AIDS Quilt Narratives Wanted

The Dennis R. Neill Equality Center and Jeremy Stevens, program director of the Orbit Initiative for the Tulsa PAC, are asking anyone who knew and/or loved someone who died of AIDS to record their narratives for archival and future use. This project is for anyone affected by the AIDS crisis whose stories are connected to Tulsa. All of these stories deserve to be told.
Those who are interested in having a story recorded are asked to contact Stevens at the Tulsa PAC at (918) 596-7119 or  jeremystevens@cityoftulsa.org  or Oklahomans for Equality Program Director Jose Vega at (918) 743-4297 or   jose.vega@okeq.org .
The Gender Diversity Health and
Social Experiences Survey (GHSE)

Do you identify as transgender or any gender that is different from the sex you were assigned at birth? If so, we encourage you to participate in The Gender Diversity Health and Social Experiences Survey! This research will help support our understanding of the social,
institutional, and healthcare needs of trans and gender nonbinary people.

Participants will have the opportunity to vote for a trans-related non-profit organization. $300.00 will be donated to each of the two organizations with the most votes. We will not collect any identifying information from you.
ICAO: E & E BALL - Halftime Event
Sunday, October 12, 7:00 p.m. - 11:00 p.m.
Tulsa Eagle
1338 E. 3rd St.
Tulsa, OK 74120

Please join us at the Tulsa Eagle to celebrate the halfway point of Reign 12 of The Imperial Court All Oklahoma, Inc . This is a special show as Their Majesties invite their Half-Emperors, Half Empresses, and ICS Family to come and help support Reign 12. Dress code for the evening is Semi-Formal.
907 S. Detroit Ave., Suite 210
Tulsa, OK 74120
(918) 442-2900

NextUp is a Tulsa-area initiative to support 18-to 24-year olds in determining, "What’s your next?" That can mean getting your GED, enrolling in technical training, or finding a job. NextUp wants to help you forge your own path and achieve your goals. With our program, you will have access to free technical training and job placement assistance, as well as a variety of individual skill-building workshops, college advancement, career coaching, and other steps to better their lives. and . Whatever your goal is, NextUp is here to help and support you.

Text "NextUp" to 31996 for more information.
Joe and Nancy McDonald Library
Find this selection and more by visiting the Nancy and Joe McDonald Rainbow Library.
" The Full Spectrum "
"Teens are more aware of sexuality and identity than ever, and they’re looking for answers and insights, as well as a community of others. In order to help create that community, YA authors David Levithan and Billy Merrell have collected original poems, essays, and stories by young adults in their teens and early 20s.  The Full Spectrum  includes a variety of writers—gay, lesbian, bisexual, straight, transitioning, and questioning—on a variety of subjects: coming out, family, friendship, religion/faith, first kisses, break-ups, and many others.

This one of a kind collection will, perhaps, help all readers see themselves and the world around them in ways they might never have imagined. We have partnered with the Gay, Lesbian and Straight Education Network (GLSEN) and a portion of the proceeds from this book will be donated to them."
Equality Pride Store

New in the OkEq Pride Store: Fanny Packs or Sport Utility Belts

Be sure to "Like" the  OkEq Pride Store Facebook  page to keep up with the new items and new sale items
Counseling Services
Allison Ikley-Freeman
Allison Ikley-Freeman, LPC Candidate is passionate about assisting individuals who are a part of the LGBTQIA+ community who experience a range of concerns and issues. Individual, youth, and adolescent counseling is available on a sliding fee scale based on income. 

You can make an appointment with Allison by calling  918-280-9645
OSU - Tulsa Counseling Services
The Oklahoma State Tulsa Counseling Center is an LGBTQ+ affirming center located in Main Hall of OSU Tulsa. You do not have to be affiliated with OSU to benefit from these services! Our center offers clients from OKEQ 5 sessions  free  and each session following that is only 5 dollars. Each member of our counseling team receives additional training and supervision in LGBTQ+ issues and is excited to work with clients from OKEQ. Please contact us at 918-594-8568 for more information or to schedule an appointment. 
Sara Griffey
S ara Griffey is an LPC candidate under supervision. Sara specializes in LGBT+ and non-traditional relationships (i.e. kink, polyamory, etc.). She has experience working with homeless youth and individuals struggling with anxiety & trauma.
She previously worked with survivors of domestic violence, sexual assault, and human trafficking.
She is passionate about advocacy and public policy in order to ensure that proper treatment is available for any individual seeking services.
 Sara’s office is located at the Dennis R. Neill Equality Center, 621 E 4th St, Tulsa, OK 74120
 Sara operates on a sliding scale fee structure and can be reached at
918-928-2809 or Sara@UnityTulsa.com
Regularly Scheduled Programming
Lawyer in the Library
2nd Wednesday of each month
5:30 p.m. - 6:30 p.m.

Lawyer in the Library is an opportunity to meet with a lawyer about topics such as family law (divorce, paternity, custody and child support), landlord/tenant disputes, estate planning, and bankruptcy. No appointment is necessary.
Coming Out Workshop

1st and 3rd Monday of every month
6:30 p.m. – 7:30 p.m.

Are you planning to come out? Maybe you have just recently come out?
Join us for a coming out discussion group meeting
Meeting the History Project Room
Free to participate, this course is designed for individuals coming to terms with their sexuality with presentations on how to come out to family, friends, and coworkers. Question and answer session in a supportive and informed environment.

It is a safe space to share experiences about coming out and discuss topics as it relates to doing so. By sharing struggles and victories the group allows those newly coming out and who have been out for a while to learn from others. All are welcome to join in the discussion whether Lesbian, Gay, Bi, or Trans.
Please contact ComingOut@OkEq.org or call 918-743-4297 .
Free Yoga Class at OkEq
5:45 - 6:45 p.m.   

Enjoy a free class! These 60-minute, free Community Yoga classes are open to everyone of all levels. Each class is mindfully crafted to prepare the body for a peak pose in the arm balance, inversion, backbend or twist family. This class will connect the mind, body, and spirit through movement and breath.
SAGE Tulsa 
Every Tuesday
10:00 am to 1:00 pm

"drop in for coffee" 
Facilitated by
John Madigan
OkEq Board Meeting
Monthly Meeting 
Thursday, October 10, 6:00 p.m.
Dennis R. Neill Equality Center.
All Oklahomans for Equality board meetings are open to all OkEq members.
It's Complicated
1st & 3rd Monday
of each month
6:30 - 7:30 p.m.

"It's Complicated" is an ongoing group for individuals in nontraditional relationships (kink, polyamory, swinging, etc.) This group meets every 1st and 3rd Monday of the month from 6:30-8pm at the Dennis R. Neill Equality Center. Each session will have a new topic. For topic information, please like Unity Tulsa’s Facebook page at www.facebook.com/UnityTulsa or check the OkEq event calendar at http://www.okeq.org/event-calendar.html
SOS Group
Mondays 7:00 p.m 

This open Secular Organizations for Sobriety (SOS) Recovery and Sobriety Group meets every Monday at the Dennis R. Neill Equality Center. For more information, visit  www.SOSTulsa.org
Survivors of Incest Anonymous
Every Saturday
12:00 - 2:30 p.m.

SIA strives to empower those who have survived childhood sexual abuse (who are not abusing any child), who want to become survivors and thrivers. For more information, visit  siawso.org
Partners of Trans*/Non-Binary Individuals Support Group
The program is providing support, education and social opportunities for partners of transgender and non-binary individuals. Ages 18+. A first time interview is required before attending your first meeting. Please contact Amanda at 918-902-4625.
Gender Support Program
7:00 - 8:30 p.m. 
(First time interview required before attending)
The program is providing support, education and social opportunities for transgender and intersex individuals.
Brought to You Bi 
the Letter B 
2nd & 4th Monday
of each month 
7:00 - 8:00 p.m.
Bisexual support group at the Dennis R. Neill Equality Center. Tell all your friends. The group is open to all bi/pan/queer/fluid+ folks and their allies. Facilitators
Daniel & Haley
Tulsa Area
Prime Timers
2nd Tuesday of every month
7:00 - 9:00 p.m.

A social organization for mature minded Gay and Bisexual men age 21 and over. The purpose is to establish friendship and support through social interaction. Visit
the website  for
more information.
  Intimate Partner Violence & Sexual Assault Survivor Support Group
2nd & 4th Thursday of each month
6:30 - 8:30 p.m.

This support and educational group is for individuals who have survived domestic violence and are ready to explore their personal healing process and find hope and to discuss their experiences, share ideas, and provide emotional support for one another. 

Children/Siblings of Trans*/Non-Binary Individuals Support Group
This program is for youth ages 8-18 that have trans* parents or siblings. This group will provide support, education and social opportunities for those living with trans* family members. Attendees must have approval from the facilitator to participate. Please contact Amanda at 918-902-4625.
Game Night
7:00 - 9:00 pm
 Join old friends and make new friends as you play some great board and card games at the Center!
All are welcome!
Facilitated by
Saturday Volunteers Richard Haley and
Teresa Reno 
Community Partners
The Equality
Business Alliance fosters a sharing of information, ideas, contacts, products and services, and also strengthens and expands our businesses, careers and community.
Workforce OK
Workforce Oklahoma
Access Point
Open every day
Workforce Oklahoma maintains a resource area at the Equality Center that includes computers, a printer and fax machine, as well as step-by-step instructions on how to register with
Oklahoma JobLink.
HIV Testing Schedule

Tuesday  4:00 - 8:00 p.m.
Wednesday   4:00 - 8:00 p.m.
Saturday 4:00 - 8:00 p.m.
Testing provided by H.O.P.E. Testing
Check  www.okeq.org  for testing dates.
OkEq Staff
Jose Vega
Deputy Director
Morgan Allen
Center Coordinator
Alex Wade
Medical Services Coordinator
Tracy Allen
Special Projects/Library
Kao Morris 
Facilities Manager
Krissy Dudley
Administrative Manager
Toby Jenkins
CEO/Executive Director
OkEq Board and Trustees
Executive Committee
Sheena Grewal - President
Chris Brecht-Smith - Vice President
Will Vaughn - Secretary
Paul Allen - Treasurer
Darci Hazelwood, D.O. - Member at Large

Board of Directors
Laura Arrosmith, D.O.
Angelyn L. Dale
Allison Ikley-Freeman
Bob Hanson
Jeremy Stevens
Corey Thompson
Al Triggs
Stacy Turner
Robin VanMeter
  Board of Advisors
Joann Frizell
Andrew Gordon
Jack Graham
Dale Hogan
Denise Reid
Justin Ross

Shawna Baker, Esq.
Dan Burnstein
Kirk Holt
David Nelson
Kris Wilmes 
Oklahomans for Equality
Hours:  Mon - Sat 9 a.m. - 9 p.m. | Sun 9 a.m.- 6 p.m.
621 E. 4th St., Tulsa, OK 74120