Give the gift of a joy-filled visit, tips to creating life-giving visits with your loved one. 

Planning A Visit With Your Loved One Soon?
We Can Help You Prepare
July means warm summer days and high-flying flags, and hopefully  visits with your loved one! This month's newsletter provides helpful tips for visiting a loved one with Alzheimer's or related dementia and how to communicate with them in the most loving and effective ways. In this newsletter, you will learn:
  • Meet our woman of action: Carmen Bandstra, Activity Director
  • How to visit a loved one in memory care
  • Helpful tips to communicate with someone with Alzheimer's 
  • 10 Amazing All American Facts- Yes, they're all true!  
ActivCare is here to assist you with  caring for those with
memory loss. Have a question? Call us at (760)-705-1840.

Read on.
Happy Independence Day! and Other July Events

July is always a fun-filled month at our community. Residents are participating in summer activities, enjoying the beautiful weather, and celebrating our nation's birthday! Check out the July calendar for more information about what's happening day by day. 

July 11 & July 24 are the next  Caregiver Support Meetings  starting  at 10:30 am. 
All are welcome!

Looking to share your ideas with us?Join us in our next Family Council Meeting  on July 26
We meet the fourth Thursday in the family dining room from 11:00 am to 12:30 pm.

Now Accepting Donated Bingo Prizes!

We are looking for fun items that residents can win for BINGO! Items such as  costume jewelry, small puzzles, bobble heads, hats, fun socks, or small items that will not be harmful to residents would be greatly appreciated. Items can be dropped off at the front desk. Thank you! 
She Puts the "Active" in ActivCare: 
Meet Carmen Bandstra, Activity Director 
For three years, Carmen Bandstra, activity director at ActivCare at Bressi Ranch, has put the fun in each day for our residents.
It started as a passion as a teenager. Carmen enjoyed visiting elders in her community. Hearing stories, developing relationships and engaging seniors led to a fulfilling career in activities for the mother of four.
"It's the little moments that I share with residents that make my day," said Carmen. "I truly enjoy the rapport and trust that I have built with our residents. They recognize me and look forward to new adventures together."
Carmen has a passion for learning that she shares through her biography, travelogue and history club activities. She especially enjoys the Resident in the Spotlight feature where she interviews a resident who shares stories with the rest of the community.
Each month, Carmen puts together a customized calendar of creative activities that engage residents and help exercise cognitive abilities, large motor skills, creativity and socializing. The focus is on FUN. She recognizes that if people are experiencing fun, they participate and gain fulfillment.
Music, exercise, cooking, crafts, fieldtrips and special events add to the fun. To spark creativity, Carmen checks out about 50 books from the library every month. Always brimming with new ideas, she also ensures that residents are set up for success. Instructions are simple, taking one step at a time, and groups are small to involve everyone.

"To feel understood is very important, especially for those with dementia. I try to bring an appreciative and welcoming presence to our residents daily," said Carmen. "T he joy I receive from entering into a resident's world, in their particular reality, and being a friend for them there is what motivates me."
Look for Carmen on your next visit to ActivCare at Bressi Ranch and join in on the fun.
From The Kitchen

From Chef Art, below is a link to the weekly menus for July

July Menus
Visiting a Loved One in Memory Care? Remember This...

Visiting a loved one with memory care may come with feelings of anxiety or fear. Questions like "What if they don't remember me?" or "What will we talk about?" may be coming to mind. With thoughtful preparation, a visit with your loved one can be an uplifting and joyous experience.

Before you visit, think about topics that you and your loved one can talk about. Experiences from their distant past are good subjects to discuss. Consider bringing a conversational piece to your visit, such as an iPad/photo album with pictures of family, their favorite treat or artwork from a child.

The greeting. Although social convention suggests asking questions when you first greet someone, it may be challenging for someone with dementia to remember key facts. A harmless question like, "What have you been up to?," may be met with silence. Instead, start your conversation with a statement: "It's so nice to see you" or "You are looking well." Then follow up with a compliment, such as, "That blue shirt really brings out the color in your eyes."

Prepare for quiet times, and do not rush the conversation. Your loved one may take longer to process what you are saying. Give them time and try not to overwhelm them with loads of information or questions about what they have been doing.

Patience is key and graciousness is appreciated. Speak simply and softly to them and always try to make eye contact. If you feel there is nothing to say, hold their hand or offer them a shoulder rub. Physical touch can express so much when words are seemingly absent. Click the link below for more tips:

25 Tips for Visiting a Person with Alzheimer's

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Ways to Communicate With A Loved One with Memory Loss

Communicating with a loved one with Alzheimer's or related dementia may become challenging as the disease progresses; especially if a loved one develops aphasia. Approaching your loved one with compassion and gentleness is a good start in beginning a conversation. Try these tips:
  • Be at the same height as your loved one when communicating with them. Crouch down if they are seated or join them.
  • Make eye contact and smile; it's contagious.
  • Speak slowly to help engage them in what you are saying.
  • If allowed, hold their hand when you talk to them. Comforting gestures can put them at ease if they are unsure about whom you are.
  • Use short sentences and give them time to consider what you have said. Lots of questions or different topics at once can be overwhelming.
For clarity, say your name when you greet them. Remember that the tone of your voice can direct their emotions and reactions as well.

Most importantly, always treat them with dignity and respect. They are older adults and should not be called "Honey," "Sweetie," or "Pops." Find out what they prefer to be called and use that name when conversing with them.

10 Amazing All-American Facts  
  • The current American flag design was created by a 17-year old as a school project, he got a B-. 
  • The US Government is still paying the pension of one civil war veteran. 
  • The state of Montana has 3x the amount of cows as it does people
  • The word Pennsylvania is misspelled on the Liberty Bell 
  • Kansas produces enough wheat each year to feed everyone in the world for 2 weeks
  • Florida is the only place where crocodiles and alligators coexist
  • The Venus Fly Trap is only native in North and South Carolina, nowhere else in the world
  • The state with the most millionaires per capita is Maryland
  • Minnesota has more shoreline than California, Florida, and Hawaii combined. 
  • There is an island off the coast of South Carolina where only monkeys live.

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