The Newmans share: thoughts about the importance of “cherishing” your spouse; homemade ice cream recipes; marriage retreat information, July 4
th celebrations, date night ideas, and more!
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When we get married, we promise to love, honor, and “cherish” one another. We say the word “cherish” on that day and may never say the word again. Some of us didn’t even give it a thought when we said it. I did. My best friend and mentor had given me a lesson on making sure the man I committed to,
cherished me. It’s one of the best lessons she’s ever taught me. The dictionary says the word “cherish” means, 1) to protect and care for someone lovingly, 2) hold dear, 3) keep in your mind, 4)
treat someone as if they are valuable, and 5) wanting to hold on to something or someone, affectionately. I’ve bolded the definition that I prefer. I started thinking about the word cherish when I was watching a Hallmark movie and a man held his girlfriend’s face in his hands and kissed her on the forehead. If you are not into romance movies, where else might you see this displayed? Most of us would have to answer, “no where”. So, I began exploring how you learn and/or teach the concept, and I ran across a wonderful book entitled,
Cherish, by Gary Thomas. Gary believes like I believe, that learning how to cherish will strengthen your marriage and make it more enjoyable. I know you love your spouse, but do you
cherish them? Love and cherish are so very different.
Love is (1 Corinthians 13: 4-7)) patient, kind, and doesn’t boast.
Cherish is (Song of Solomon 5:10-16) boasting boldly, loudly, passionately; it goes out of it’s way to brag, indulge, and nurture and doesn’t care who sees it. Cherishing your spouse is
when you go out of your way to cheer for and encourage them; you purposely think about them in a loving way; you make them a priority by considering their thoughts and needs before anyone else’s; you commit to being a good friend to them by playing, laughing, having fun, and doing adventurous things with them; you are trustworthy and loyal and they never have to worry about where you are or what you are doing; you accept their flaws and limitations and focus on the things you love about them and praise their talents and strengths; you listen to them without judgement; you watch your words and are respectful and don’t say everything you think and feel; you don’t compare them to others. Some of us have learned from our family and friends over the years, to do the opposite. We must commit to changing because we are children of God. Romans 12:2 says, “Do not conform to the pattern of this world; but,
be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve
what God’s will is—his good, pleasing and perfect will”. It is God’s will that we
cherish one another; it’s what we are called to do in marriage and what we’ve promised God and our spouses we will do. Cherishing is something we can and must learn to do to have a marriage that feels more precious, connected, and more satisfying. Remember that all things are possible with God. In the words of Sade, “Cherish the day, don’t go astray, don’t be afraid, don’t run away. And, learn how deep love can be…..this is our prayer”….
In Love,
Sherman and Paula Newman
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Homemade Ice Cream
- 2 cups heavy whipping cream
- 2 cups half and half cream
- 1 cup granulated sugar
- 2 teaspoon vanilla extract
- lots of ice and rock salt for ice cream maker
Fill cylinder of ice cream maker no more than 2/3 full; freeze according to manufacturer’s directions. Serve immediately or store in containers in the freezer. Makes 1 ¼ quarts.
OR
Homemade Ice Cream
(A Creamier Version)
- 4 egg yolks
- ½ cup granulated sugar
- 1 cup whole milk
- 1 cup heavy cream
- 2 teaspoons vanilla extract or vanilla bean paste
- lots of ice and rock salt for the ice cream maker
Add egg yolks and sugar to a medium saucepan and whisk until a light -yellow color and well combined. In another small sauce pan, heat milk over medium-low heat until it just begins to simmer. Do not stir. Gradually add milk to egg and sugar mixture, stirring constantly. Return to heat until it reaches 165 degrees Fahrenheidt, but do not allow it to come to a boil. As soon as it reaches the correct temperature, remove it from the heat. Pour the custard base into an airtight container and store in the refrigerator until it chills to 65 degrees Fahrenheidt. The longer the custard base chills, the creamier the ice cream will be.
Once the custard base is ready, stir in the heavy cream and vanilla extract and pour into the ice cream maker and process according to your ice cream maker’s instructions. The recipe can be doubled for a 2 -quart ice cream maker or multiplied for a gallon container.
Possible mix-ins: strawberries, bananas, Oreos, chocolate chunks/chips
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Marriage Retreats/Workshops
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FamilyLife Weekend to Remember, November 30- December 2, 2018 at the Raleigh Convention Center, 500 S. Salisbury Street, Raleigh, NC 27601; host hotel, Raleigh Marriott City Center, 500 Fayetteville Street, Raleigh, NC 27601- $149/night until November 12, 2018,
https://www.familylife.com/weekend-to-remember/
Getaways
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Books to Read This Summer
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- Cherish by Gary Thomas
- The Uncommon Marriage by Tony and Lauren Dungy
- The Conversation by Hill Harper
- Loving Your Spouse When You Feel Like Walking Away by Gary Chapman
- An American Marriage by Tayari Jones
- Our Best Life Together: A Daily Devotional for Couples by Joel Osteen
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Fourth of July Celebrations
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Celebration and Fireworks in Chapel Hill: food trucks, watermelon eating contest, stilt walkers, live music, fireworks, etc. Held in Kenan Stadium on UNC-Chapel Hill campus; see
www.visitchapelhill.org/events/annual-events
The Works! July 4
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on Fayetteville Street in Raleigh- live music, hotdog eating contest, BMX stunt shows, fireworks, etc. at Fayetteville Street and Red Hat Amphitheater, Raleigh, NC. Visit
https://tinyurl.com/ybcd89ex
Independence Day Celebration: Durham- Durham Bulls Athletic Park. Purchase a ticket to the game to ensure a spot inside to watch the fireworks. See
https://tinyurl.com/y9ts3ed3
39th Festival of the Eno- Music, food, crafts, etc. at WestPoint on the Eno in Durham, NC. See
www.enofest.org
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Let's Go Dancing or Let's Take A Class
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Let’s Go Dancing!
Dance Blues Friday, 8:00 – 9:00 p.m. – Lesson; 9:00 p.m.- 12:00 midnight- Social Dancing. Fee: $7.00 or $5.00 for students/military/seniors.
Triangle Dance Studio, 2603 S. Miami Blvd., Durham, NC,
www.rdublues.com/dances/blues
Let's Take A Class Together!
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- Love Machine: The Musical- June 1-29th and Ms. Mary and the Boys- August 2nd, 3rd, and 4th, at The Barn Dinner Theater, Greensboro, NC, http://www.barndinner.com/2018-season
- American Tobacco Music on the Lawn- Thursdays, June 14, 21; August 23, 30 at 6:00 p.m. -9:00 p.m., Durham, NC, https://americantobaccocampus.com/calendar
- American Dance Festival- June 14- July 21st, see http://www.americandancefestival.org/?gclid=Cj0KCQjw6pLZBRCxARIsALaaY9bV0oXfVaGrgWNP5ZSf4BKpl8Wj_GGPWh7hIS-XVT9045SeX5g_H10aAh-eEALw_wcB for venues and times
- Terence Young (R&B/Soul)- June 15th at Beyu Caffe, Durham, NC, http://beyucaffe.com/jazz-club/
- Runaway: Summer 2018 Release Party (Music and Fashion Show)- June 16th at 5:00 p.m. at Unscripted Durham, Durham, NC, https://www.runawayclothes.com/blogs/events/summer-18-release-party
- Dee Lucas (Jazz)- June 16th at 7:00 p.m. at the Beyu Caffe, Durham, NC, http://beyucaffe.com/jazz-club/
- Jazz on the Lawn with the Al Strong Quartet- June 16th at St. Augustine’s University, Raleigh, NC; bring your lawn chairs and picnic baskets, http://spectacularmag.com/event/st-augustines-university-presents-jazz-on-the-lawn/
- Keith Sweat- June 16th at 8:00 p.m. at the Florence Center in Florence, SC, http://florence.ticketoffices.com/venues/florence-civic-center-tickets/Keith+Sweat?kclid=fe667aeb-d795-47cf-9f3d-9e569fb8e271&gclid=CjwKCAjwpIjZBRBsEiwA0TN1ry-5RX-j4kLcmgJVTcJUzyNrgk0Ui1qiqnhQaplz9n9Bgk5ilXe7FhoCjGcQAvD_BwE
- 2nd Annual Real Ques Cook Competition- June 16th at 1:00 p.m.- 6:00 p.m. at Wilders Grove Youth Center, Raleigh, NC, https://www.eventbrite.com/e/2nd-annual-real-ques-cook-competition-tickets-45064752889
- The Love Movement: Hip-Hop and R&B Dance Party- June 16th at 9:30 p.m. at Motorco. See https://www.ticketfly.com/purchase/event/1696946/tfly?utm_medium=destination&utm_source=eventbrite
- Food Truck Rodeo Band featuring Project 919 Band, Sunday, June 17th at 12:00 p.m. at Durham Central Park, 501 Foster Street, Durham, NC, https://durhamcentralpark.org/event/durham-central-park-food-truck-rodeo-3/
- CBDC Latin Vibe featuring Vibe Crew Ensemble- June 21st at 9:30 p.m. at the Beyu Caffe, Durham, NC, http://beyucaffe.com/jazz-club/
- Pilobolus- June 21-23, 2018 at the Durham Performing Arts Center, Durham, NC, https://www.dpacnc.com/events/detail/pilobolus-5
- Preacher Lawson- June 21-23 at 8:00 p.m. at Charlie Goodnights, Raleigh, NC, http://www.goodnightscomedy.com/
- Tim McGraw & Faith Hill- June 22nd at 7:30 p.m. at PNC Arena, Raleigh, NC, https://www.thepncarena.com/events
- The Comedy Get Down World Tour: Cedric The Entertainer, Eddie Griffin, D. L. Hughley, George Lopez- June 22nd at 8:00 p.m. at the Greensboro Coliseum, Greensboro, NC, http://www.greensborocoliseum.com/events
- Mark G. Meadows- Jazz Vocals- June 22nd at 7:00 p.m. at the Beyu Caffe, Durham, NC, http://beyucaffe.com/jazz-club/
- NC Hip Hop Festival, June 22-24th at CCB Plaza, 201 Corcoran Street, Durham, NC, https://www.eventbrite.com/e/north-carolina-hiphop-festival-tickets-41665082383
- The Day Party/Cookout Part 2 Spring & Summer Heat- June 23rd at 3:00 p.m.- 8:30 p.m. at Patio 9.2.4, Winston-Salem, NC, https://www.eventbrite.com/e/the-day-partycookout-part-2-spring-summer-heat-series-tickets-46697234686
- Southern Soul Food Truck Rodeo- June 24th at 12:00 p.m.- 8:00 p.m. at Durham County Memorial Stadium, Durham, NC, http://raleigh.carpediem.cd/events/6991435-southern-soul-food-truck-rodeo-at-durham-county-memorial-stadium/
- Mini Food Truck Rodeo & Family Funday- June 24th at Coastal Credit Union Midtown Park at North Hills, Raleigh, NC, http://visitnorthhills.com/event/mini-food-truck-rodeo-family-funday/
- Carolina Cobras vs. Columbus Lions (Arena Football)- June 23rd at 7:00 p.m. at the Greensboro Coliseum, Greensboro, NC, http://www.greensborocoliseum.com/events
- Ernie Barnes Opening Celebration- June 28th at 6:00 p.m. at the North Carolina Museum of History Associates, www.ncmoha.com
- Tre King Band (R&B/Soul)- June 29th at the Beyu Caffe, Durham, NC, http://beyucaffe.com/jazz-club/
- Elijah Bland (R&B Vocals)- June 30th at 7:00 p.m. at the Beyu Caffe, Durham, NC, http://beyucaffe.com/jazz-club/
- Summer 2018 Throwback Party featuring Zapp, Silk, and Big Daddy Kane- June 30th at 7:00 p.m. at White Oak Amphitheater, Greensboro, NC, https://www.eventticketscenter.com/white-oak-amphitheatre-greensboro-tickets/45245/e?gclid=CjwKCAjwpIjZBRBsEiwA0TN1r1l7uYg8-cE8ZsemtCeOZOe0Wc5g1Z0a0r_z3jiw7QfR8Vhhizud9RoCGIYQAvD_BwE
- Strange Rootz- Reggae- July 6th at 7:00 p.m. at the Beyu Caffe, Durham, NC, http://beyucaffe.com/jazz-club/
- Tony Rock- July 6-8th at 7:30 p.m. at Charlie Goodnights, Raleigh, NC, http://www.goodnightscomedy.com/
- Jill Scott, Tuesday, July 10th at 7:30 p.m. at DPAC, Durham, NC, https://www.dpacnc.com/events/all
- The Color Purple- July 10- 15th at 7:30 p.m. at the Belk Theater at Blumenthal Performing Arts Center, Charlotte, NC, www.blumenthalarts.org
- Carolina Cobras vs. Lehigh Valley Seahawks (Arena Football)- July 14th at 7:00 p.m. at the Greensboro Coliseum, Greensboro, NC, http://www.greensborocoliseum.com/events
- Gate City Blues Festival featuring Lenny Williams, Latimore, Tucka, etc.- July 20th at 7:00 p.m. at White Oak Amphitheater, Greensboro, NC, https://www.eventticketscenter.com/white-oak-amphitheatre-greensboro-tickets/45245/e?gclid=CjwKCAjwpIjZBRBsEiwA0TN1r1l7uYg8-cE8ZsemtCeOZOe0Wc5g1Z0a0r_z3jiw7QfR8Vhhizud9RoCGIYQAvD_BwE
- Dave Matthews Band, July 20th at 8:00 p.m. at Coastal Credit Union/Walnut Creek Amphitheater, Raleigh, NC, http://amphitheatreraleigh.com/walnutcreek/?gclid=CjwKCAjwpIjZBRBsEiwA0TN1rwuUuydaFMzC84uKKtHw6NWPXhiJ5VtkLUDWLqZ8bXhVeICB8dGL3hoCHE0QAvD_BwE
- Annual Beach Party- July 21st at 7:30 p.m. at Koka Booth Amphitheatre, Cary, NC, http://boothamphitheatre.com/events/
- Big Three Comedy Tour: King Keraun, Donnivin Jordan, and D’Lai- July 25th at 7:00 p.m. at Charlie Goodnights, Raleigh, NC, http://www.goodnightscomedy.com/
- The Miseducation of Lauryn Hill 20th Anniversary Tour- July 26th at 6:30 p.m. at the Red Hat Amphitheater, Raleigh, NC, http://www.redhatamphitheater.com/event-calendar
- Beer, Bourbon & BBQ Festival on July 27-28th at 6:00 p.m. at Koka Booth Amphitheatre, Cary, NC, http://boothamphitheatre.com/events/
- Janet Jackson: State of the World Tour, Wednesday, August 1st, 8:00 p.m., Coastal Credit Union Music Park at Walnut Creek, Raleigh, NC, http://walnutcreekamphitheatre.com/tickets/
- Corey Holcomb- August 3-5th at 7:30 p.m. at Charlie Goodnights, Raleigh, NC, http://www.goodnightscomedy.com/
- Clint Coley- August 10-11th at 8:00 p.m. at Charlie Goodnights, Raleigh, NC, http://www.goodnightscomedy.com/
- Pentatonix, Saturday, August 11th at 8:00 p.m. at Walnut Creek Amphitheater, Raleigh, NC, http://walnutcreekamphitheatre.com/tickets/
- Black August in the Park, Sunday, August 12th at 3:00 p.m.- 8:00 p.m., at 501 Foster Street, Durham, NC, http://www.blackaugustinthepark.com/
- Wiz Khalifa and Rae Sremmurd: Dazed and Blazed Tour, August 12th at 6:00 p.m. at Walnut Creek Amphitheater, Raleigh, NC, http://amphitheatreraleigh.com/walnutcreek/?gclid=CjwKCAjwpIjZBRBsEiwA0TN1rwuUuydaFMzC84uKKtHw6NWPXhiJ5VtkLUDWLqZ8bXhVeICB8dGL3hoCHE0QAvD_BwE
- A Wrinkle in Time (Movies by Moonlight)- August 17th at 8:30 p.m. at Koka Booth Amphitheatre, Cary, NC, http://boothamphitheatre.com/events/
- Black Violin- August 18th at 7:30 p.m. at Koka Booth Amphitheatre, Cary, NC, http://boothamphitheatre.com/events/
- Cirque du Soleil Crystal, Wednesday, August 15th -Sunday, August 26th, at the PNC Arena, Raleigh, NC, https://www.thepncarena.com/events
- The Lion King- August 22- September 9 at 7:30 p.m. at Belk Theater at Blumenthal Performing Arts Center, Charlotte, NC, , www.blumenthalarts.org
- Masters of the Mic: Slick Rick/Doug E. Fresh/Mr. Cheeks/Naughty by Nature/Eric B. & Rakem/Blackstreet- August 24th at 5:00 p.m. at Koka Booth Amphitheatre, Cary, NC, http://boothamphitheatre.com/events/
- Adele Givens- August 24-26th at 7:30 p.m. at Charlie Goodnights, Raleigh, NC, http://www.goodnightscomedy.com/
- Yvonne Orji- September 7-9th at 7:30 p.m. at Charlie Goodnights, Raleigh, NC, http://www.goodnightscomedy.com/
- 4u: A Symphonic Celebration of Prince- September 13th at 7:30 p.m. at the Red Hat Amphitheater, Raleigh, NC, http://www.redhatamphitheater.com/
- Ira Knight Presents: 2 Plays 1 Night, Frederick Douglass + Love Letters- September 22nd at 8:00 p.m. at Full Frame Theater, Blackwell Street, Durham, NC, https://www.eventbrite.com/e/ira-knight-presents-2-plays-1-night-frederick-douglass-love-letters-tickets-46710502370
- Art of Cool Festival 2018: 5th Anniversary (featuring Nas, Erykah Badu, Maxwell, Meshell N’Degeocello, Dwele, Sango, Damien Escobar, 9th Wonder (featuring Spinderella), etc.), September 28-29th at Durham Downtown venues, https://www.eventbrite.com/e/art-of-cool-festival-2018-5th-anniversary-edition-tickets-34070337296
- Billy Joel- October 13th at 8:00 p.m. at BB&T Field at Wake Forest University, Winston-Salem, NC, http://fieldwinstonsalem.com/bbt/events.php?search_text=billy+joel+winston+salem&gclid=CjwKCAjwpIjZBRBsEiwA0TN1r-9ACGNIGDG4n9jgCTUwgG_wZhVv1yhCX_xZ1ZFJMZ0CEWPF9jxPYxoCjF8QAvD_BwE
- Hamilton, Tuesday, November 6- Sunday, December 7th at DPAC, Durham, NC, https://www.dpacnc.com/events/all
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