Couples' Newsletter February 2018
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Happy Love Month!
It's time for romance! And, not just because it's almost Valentine's Day. In Proverbs 5: 18-19, King Solomon says, "Rejoice in the wife of your youth....
May you always be captivated by her love" (NLT). Captivated means to be attracted to, to hold the attention of, to be fascinated or delighted with, or to be taken captive by....WOW! We've heard this before...the thing you did to get him is the same thing you need to do to keep him. Solomon fell in love with a woman who knew what to do to keep his attention...she took care of her hair and nails; she put on clothes instead of sweats; she cooked delicious meals; she wore his favorite perfume; and, she sat beside him and listened to his dreams and aspirations.
She was on point! If we read Song of Solomon we will find that it really wasn't the way she looked, smelled, or cooked that captivated him,
it was how she treated him.
Ruth Stafford Peale, wife of Norman Vincent Peale, understood the importance of captivating her man. She said, "No job, no hobby,
no activity on earth can compare with the drama and the exhilarating experience of
living with a man and loving him and doing your best to understand his infinitely complex mechanism and helping to make it hum and sing and soar the way it was designed to." Solomon's lady and Ruth are with me. Ladies, are you with me?
In the last LoveNote2 we talked about the husband's responsibility in the marriage and in this issue we are focused on the wife. In
Building Your Marriage to Last, Dennis and Barbara Rainey remind us that the wife has three responsibilities: 1) to make her marriage a priority, 2) to love her husband unselfishly, and 3) to submit to her husband. A captivating wife understands that
her relationship with her husband is second only to her relationship to God. And, she loves her husband unselfishly, which means that
she puts her husband's needs above her own (Philippians 2:3-4- Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility
value others above yourselves, not looking to your own interests but each of you to the interests of the others".) Lastly,
she submits. Submission is a challenging topic for millennials, but
the Word hasn't changed; Ephesians 5:22, says, "
Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands
as you do to the Lord". This is all about perspective, attitude, and willingness to make right choices. You have to want to be loving, kind, respectful, fun, sexy.....
CAPTIVATING! I want to be captivating and I'm asking all wives reading this to join me in the quest to be captivating. Paul wrote in Titus 2:4, that older women should "
teach the young women to be sober,
to love their husbands, to love their children..."
The lesson for young wives and the reminder for seasoned wives includes practical ideas, listed below, that I hope you will implement in 2018. Let's become or continue being
captivating wives:
- Pray for him every morning- with him or alone. Ask God to protect him, cover him, show him favor, heal him, calm his fears, give him courage, etc. He needs you to intercede on his behalf. Minister to him; share scriptures with him when he is struggling.
- Get 'dolled up' and invite him on a date. He'll be excited that you did this 'for him'.
- Make him your priority- find out what he wants to do before calling your girlfriends or your family members to see what they want to do.
- Take care of yourself- eat right, exercise, and do whatever you need to do to build your confidence and make yourself feel better, so that you can confidently meet his needs. You don't have to be skinny to be attractive. Try a new hairstyle; buy a new dress; or, try a different lip color. And, focus on your growth in the Lord rather than focusing on his growth.
- Affirm him- say encouraging words; give him compliments; make him feel good about himself, regardless of his age, size, or disability. Make a list of his strengths and be intentional about acknowledging them. Show him that you appreciate him; say, "Thank you".
- Have fun with him! In the book, His Needs, Her Needs, Willard F. Harley says that recreational fun is second only to sex for a man. Buy tickets to the game and go with him. Find fun activities to do that you will both enjoy.
- Surprise him- plan a surprise weekend away; be spontaneous- say "yes" to things he asks you to do that you would usually say "no" to. Take lunch to him at his job.
- Show him affection- gifts, kisses, hugs, cards, favorite candy bar, favorite meal; write him a love note; call him during the day, just to say "I love you"; send him 'flirty' texts.
- Initiate sex- instead of only initiating 1 out of 5 times, increase it to 2 or 3 times out of 5, that you ask for or initiate sex. Pinch his butt...show him that you still find him attractive.
- Create a home environment that is peaceful and stress free. Find things to laugh about; watch comedy movies/shows together.
- Tell him to buy the toy that he's been wanting-put some of the things you want on hold and help him save money to get the thing he wants.
- Respect him- Let him be the man of the house. You can share your thoughts and opinions, but let him be the captain of the team. If he feels emasculated by your leadership, he'll withdraw. Refer to him; find out how he wants things done and follow through on his requests.
- Apologize- Say," I'm sorry" when you are wrong and ask for forgiveness.
- Defend him- don't let other people disrespect him.
- Forgive him for his failures and wrong choices.
It's going to be a great love month for you, Fellas....a great year!
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Ladies- love is not what you say, it's what you do. Let's treat our husbands like kings!
Let's be captivating!
We look forward to hearing your praise reports.
In Love,
Paula and Sherman Newman
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Couples' Word Search
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Couples' Who Inspire Us!
Click on the link below to view couples' collages in our Google Photo album, of couples who inspire us to continue Couples' Ministry:
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It's Valentine's- Time for Romance!
Mt. Level Baptist Church will enjoy a Valentine's Dinner on Sunday,
February 11, 2018
at 2:30 p.m. at the Washington Duke Inn & Golf Club,
in Durham, NC. $75.00/per couple. There will be live jazz, a wonderful dinner,
for tickets.
Please see:
Valentine's Day 2018 Events in Raleigh, Durham, Chapel Hill
Go-To Guide for Eating Out on Valentine's Day Weekend,
Bull Voyage: Valentine's Day Events Roundup,
Durham, NC Valentine's Day Eventbrite Events,
Valentine's Events in the Triangle,
See OpenTable for Dinner Reservations,
A Few Area Florists
Nicole's Florist- no website; (919) 598-8869
Chocolatiers
Godiva Chocolatier (Southpoint Mall- Durham; Crabtree Valley Mall- Raleigh)
Rocky Mountain Chocolate Factory (Brier Creek Commons)
Jewelsmith, Inc. (Erwin Square/Main Street- Durham)
Jared The Galleria (Renaissance Center-Durham)
Kay Jewelers (Northgate Mall and Southpoint Malls))
Swarovski (Southpoint Mall and Crabtree Valley Mall)
Reeds Jewelers (Southpoint, Crabtree, and Triangle Town Malls)
Pandora (Southpoint Mall and Crabtree Valley Mall)
Zales (Southpoint Mall)
Claire's (Southpoint, Crabtree Valley, and Triangle Town Malls)
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Valentine's Gift Ideas
Valentine Gift Ideas for Men
Watch; GPS Smartwatch; Fitbit Hot Sauce Gift Basket
Cologne Bose Quiet Comfort Headphones
Sports paraphernalia Quadcopter Drone
Shoes/Boots Virtual Reality Headset
Bose wireless speakers Wallet
Embroidered Duffle Bag Golf Club Head Cover
Amazon Fire Stick Indoor Putting Green with Ball Return
Amazon Echo Luxury Massaging Cushion
Engraved Cuff Links Race a Ferrari, SkyDive, etc.
Valentine Gift Ideas for Women
Jewelry (necklace, earrings, bracelet) Hair Salon gift certificate
Flowers Nail Salon gift certificate
Gift Cards- Clothing/Outlet Stores Spa gift certificate
Massager Oil Painting by MyDaVinci.com
Cologne iRobot Vacuum
Jewelry Box Personalized Wine Glass
Lingerie Ugg Women's Slippers
Chocolates Bluetooth Shower Speakers
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Marriage Retreat Highlights
We enjoyed co-facilitating the Mt. Level Baptist Church's "Reclaiming Our Time" Marriage Retreat in Savannah, Georgia, January 26-28, 2018.
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See Highlights below:
Improving our marriages.
Relaxing on a Savannah Riverboat Dinner Cruise with our sweethearts and our new friends.
The Newmans offer tips for "Reclaiming Our Time" in marriages.
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Date Night Ideas
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Ryan Davis at Charlie Goodnights, February 1-3rd, Raleigh, NC
- Carolina Ballet presents Romeo and Juliet, Saturday, Feb. 3rd at 2 p.m. at Duke Energy Center for the Performing Arts
- Carolina Hurricanes vs. San Jose Sharks, Sunday, Feb. 4th at 1:00 p.m. at PNC Area
- The Temptations and The Four Tops, Wednesday, Feb. 7th at 7:30 p.m. at Durham Performing Arts Center (DPAC)
- Tim Meadows at Charlie Goodnights, February 8-11th , Raleigh, NC
- Lalah Hathaway, Friday, Feb. 9th at 8:00 p.m. at Cone Denim Entertainment in Greensboro, NC
- Harlem Globetrotters, Sunday, Feb. 11th at 3:00 p.m. at PNC Arena
- Love to Laugh Comedy Tour Starring Arnez J, Kountry Wayne, and Cocoa Brown on Wednesday, Feb. 14th at 7:30 p.m. at DPAC
- Fetty Wap- The FMF Tour, Saturday, Feb. 17th at 7:00 p.m. at the House of Blues Myrtle Beach, SC
- World's Toughest Rodeo, Saturday, Feb. 17th at 7:30 p.m. at PNC Arena
- Fences at The Barn Dinner Theatre in Greensboro, NC, Feb. 17th - March 25th
- Carolina Hurricanes vs. New Jersey Devils, Sunday, Feb. 18th at 5:00 p.m. at PNC Arena
- NC A&T State University vs. North Carolina State University- Baseball, Tuesday, Feb. 20th at 3:00 p.m., Doak Field at Dail Park in Raleigh, NC
- George Lopez at Charlie Goodnights, February 22nd, Raleigh, NC
- Jerron "Blind Boy" Paxton, Friday, Feb. 23rd at 7:30 p.m. at Duke Energy Center for the Performing Arts
- Rain: A Tribute to the Beatles (Touring), Friday, Feb. 23rd at 8:00 p.m. at DPAC and Saturday, Feb. 24th at 2:00 p.m. at DPAC
- K. Michelle, Friday, Feb. 23rd at 8:00 p.m. at The Ritz in Raleigh, NC
- K. Michelle, Saturday, Feb. 24th at 7:00 p.m. at House of Blues Myrtle Beach, SC
- George Clinton, Saturday, Feb. 24th at 8:30 p.m. at The Ritz in Raleigh, NC
- Bull City Food and Beer Experience, Sunday, Feb. 25th at 4:00 p.m. at DPAC
- Fetty Wap- The FMF Tour, Sunday, Feb. 25th at 8:00 p.m. at The Ritz
- 2018 AAC Women's Basketball Tournament, Wednesday, Feb. 28th - Sunday, March 4th at the Greensboro Coliseum
- Dance Theatre of Harlem, Wednesday, Feb. 28th at 8:00 p.m. at the Carolina Theatre
- Adele Givens at Charlie Goodnights, March 2-4th, Raleigh, NC
- The Phantom of the Opera (Touring), Saturday, March 3rd at 2:00 p.m. and 8:00 p.m. at DPAC
- FERG presents Mad Man Tour, Saturday, March 3rd at 7:00 p.m. at House of Blues Myrtle Beach, SC
- Gregory Porter, Sunday, March 4th at 8:00 p.m. at the Carolina Theatre
- Jeezy- The Cold Summer Tour, Wednesday, March 7th at 8:00 p.m. at The Ritz in Raleigh, NC
- Jeezy- The Cold Summer Tour, Thursday, March 8th at 7:00 p.m. at The Ritz in Raleigh, NC
- Monster Jam, Sunday, March 11th at 1:00 p.m. at PNC Arena
- The Wizard of Oz (Touring), Tuesday, March 13th at 7:30 p.m. at Duke Energy Center for Performing Arts
- Blame It On Bianca, Tuesday, March 13th at 8:00 p.m. at the Carolina Theatre
- Luenell at Charlie Goodnights, March 15-18th, Raleigh, NC
- Jerry Seinfeld, Thursday, March 15th at 7:00 p.m. at DPAC
- Raleigh's 90's Block Party, Friday, March 16th at 8:00 p.m. at PNC Arena
- Katt Williams, Saturday, March 17th at 8:00 p.m. at the Greensboro Coliseum
- Patti LaBelle, Friday, March 23rd at 8:00 p.m. at DPAC
- Harlem Globetrotters, Sunday, March 25th at 3:00 p.m. at the Greensboro Coliseum
- The Victor Wooten Trio, Friday, March 30th at 8:00 p.m. at Duke Energy Center for Performing Arts
- The Color Purple (Touring), Tuesday, April 3rd at 7:30 p.m. and Wednesday, April 4th at 7:30 p.m.; Saturday, April 7th at 2:00 p.m. and 8:00 p.m.; and, Sunday, April 8th at 1:00 p.m. and 6:30 p.m. at DPAC
Additional Things to Do
The Dinner Detective: America's Largest Interactive Murder Mystery Dinner Show- Chapel Hill, NC-
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