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Mary Lee Gannon

 Mary Lee Gannon

The Life/Career

Reinvention Coach

From Welfare to CEO of organizations with up to

$26 million in assets

  

Mary Lee Gannon is a Life/Career Reinvention Coach, strategic planning consultant and president of 
StartingOverNow.com - a coaching and consulting firm that helps people reinvent themselves, their organizations and their businesses. 
She is a graduate of the Duquesne University Professional Coaching Program and an alumnus of the 2010 Harvard Medical School and McLean Hospital Coaching in Medicine & Leadership Conference. 

 

Mary Lee's personal turnaround came as a stay-at-home mother with four children under seven-years-old who endured a divorce that took she and the children from the country club life to public assistance from where she earned success to support her family.

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Clients are from throughout the US and are individuals in transition because of divorce, career change, empty nest, relocation, or leaders at small to mid-size corporations or non-profits who seek a new direction. What keeps them up at night is not having a vision or strategy to move them forward. They see the future very much like the present +/- 10% and know what that has cost them in growth, income and fulfillment. They are working hard but not smart because there is a lack of vision, goals, accountability or good work/life balance in place to produce exceptional results. So bureaucracy, personal agendas and cynicism have grabbed hold when what they want is rekindled passion to be their best or create the best product or service in their industry at a rate of high performers who are fulfilled by a lifestyle friendly business.

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Mary Lee Ganon is Recognized 

Michelle Wright of WTAE-TV, Mary Lee Gannon and Beth Caldwell of PPW - Women of Integrity Award 

Mary Lee Gannon is awarded the 2012
"Woman of Integrity" award by Pittsburgh
Professional Women on December 1st at Le Mont.  Awardees are women of distinction who have balanced career and civic responsibility, who share their success by mentoring others and
supporting their communities.  Pictured
here with Michelle Wright of WTAE-TV
and Beth Caldwell of PPW.

The Book 

Cover to Starting Over Book
Starting Over

Mary Lee's personal turnaround came as a stay-at-home mother, with four children under seven-years-old, who endured a divorce that took she and the children from the country club life to public assistance. From there, within a short time, she worked to the level of CEO, directing three hospital foundations over the last 16 years each with assets of up to $26 million.  

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On a recent flight to Ft. Lauderdale a woman with a two-year-old could not get the tantruming child to stay in a seat belt. The woman was given five minutes from the crew to remedy the situation before the plane would have to return to the gate to let them off. She told the screaming and kicking child things like, "Mommy would like you to sit in your seat belt." "Oh look out the window is that a birdie? He would like you to sit in your seat belt." "Look how good Mommy is sitting in her seat belt." (This is a true story - no lie.) Forty-five minutes later the crew finally took her back to the gate whereby she was saying to the child, "Mommy is going to take us off the plane now. Good job letting Mommy help you put on your sweater." Moral of this story? One lesson could be: Make sure your kid doesn't date that kid in 15 years.

 

Another lesson could be this: Boundaries help us maneuver through life with a code of honor that serves as a roadmap to peace. If you find that others have little respect for boundaries around you the best thing you can do is first analyze how you respect the boundaries of others.

 

If you have no boundaries with others (break into conversations, don't respect others' opinions, put your expectations above those of others, are overtly disruptive to get what you want), chances are you will have a difficult time when others do this to you and the cycle will continue. If you have been surrounded by people with poor boundaries you may not have had the opportunity to develop healthy boundaries for yourself.

 

Defining Better Boundaries

 

1. Know what healthy boundaries are. The barometer? If you feel good around that person, you have healthy boundaries around you and they respect them. If you don't, you have to make the change. Not them. And MAYBE they will change. But more likely you will find healthier people to spend time with.

 

2. Understand where you fit in the Drama Triangle and what you will change. Are you a Victim, a Persecutor or a Rescuer.

 

3. Know when and how to say, "No." In personal and professional situations people often have a difficult time saying, "No." If what you are being asked to do is something that will be important for you to know or be able to do in three years, then it may be a good thing. If not, then find a way to walk away without appearing negative. "That sounds like an important component of the project but I am focused right now on this aspect that needs to be completed." Or "I can tell that this is important to you but I am not in a position to assist. (X person) has a stake in the success of that.  Have you asked them to help?"

 

4. Know when and how to ask for what you want. This is simple - if you need or want something and someone else is in a position to help you, ask yourself how helping you can benefit both of you. Friends help friends because they have a strong mutual friendship which cuts both ways. The same is true for romantic relationships. Are you a good friend? Is the ratio of what you ask for and what you give equal?

 

In the Drama Triangle I mostly fit what role: Victim, a Persecutor or a Rescuer?

 

This has cost me: _____________________________________________

 

__________________________________________________________

 

What will you change to step outside of that role? ______________________

 

___________________________________________________________

 

What can you remember that will give you strength? ____________________

 

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Mary Lee gives executive coaching tips in MONEY MAGAZINE.

 

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Mary Lee Gannon is the president of StartingOverNow.com - Transforming People and Organizations with Goals-to-Results. With more than 16 years of experience as a CEO of organizations with up to $26 million in assets, Mary Lee coaches individuals and organizations with a Goals-Accountability-Results system. Read testimonials from her clients.  She is a graduate of The Duquesne University Professional Coaching Program and an alumnus of the 2010 Harvard Medical School and McLean Hospital Coaching in Medicine & Leadership Conference. Her personal turnaround came as a stay-at-home mother with four children under seven-years-old who endured a divorce that took she and the children from the country club life to public assistance from where she rose to the level of CEO to support her family.  Areas of Specialty: Strategic Planning / Board Development /  Executive Coaching / Healthcare / Public Relations / Meeting Facilitation / Leadership / Productivity / Life/Career Transition.  Her book "Starting Over - 25 Rules for When You've Bottomed Out" is available in bookstores and from online booksellers.  

  

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