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 Hilchos Kriyas Shema 73 (page 212)
 מתחילת סימן עג עד תחילת סימן עד

Until What Age May a Child Sleep with His/Her Parents?
Maintaining a Pure Mind When Reciting Kriyas Shema
When is it Forbidden to Think Torah Thoughts?

Until what age may a child sleep with his/her parents?
The halacha permits two men or ladies to sleep together under one cover without wearing clothing, even if their bodies are touching. Likewise, it is permissible for a father to sleep with his minor daughter and a mother with her minor son. The age that it is no longer permissible for them to sleep together varies from child to child - see Shulchan Aruch, Even HaEzer 21:7. A girl is always forbidden to sleep with her father from the age of eleven, and a boy with his mother from the age of twelve.
( סעיף א ו־ג, ס"ק יא וביה"ל ד"ה שנים; וראה פתחי תשובה אה"ע כג, ו)

Maintaining a pure mind when reciting kriyas Shema
When reciting a davar sh'bekedusha (berachos, Shema, tefilla or Torah) it is important to clear one's mind from foreign thoughts and, the more so, from impure thoughts. It is forbidden for a person to recite Shema or other devarim sh'bekedusha while lying under a cover with someone else if both are undressed and they are facing each other. There is an opinion that permits this if the two bodies are not touching.
( סעיף א, ס"ק א-ד, וביה"ל ד"ה שנים וד"ה ממתניהם; ביאורים ומוספים דרשו, 1)

When is it forbidden to think Torah thoughts?
The issur of saying devarim sh'bekedusha when in contact with someone else's undressed body applies only to actual speaking, but it is generally permissible to think about a davar sh'bekedusha or divrei Torah in situations where one is liable to have impure thoughts. Someone who listens to a beracha with the intention to be yotzei, however, is considered as if he is reciting it himself [and the issur would apply to him in such situations]. It is forbidden to think Torah thoughts in a restroom.
( ביה"ל ד"ה ממתניהם; ביאורים ומוספים דרשו, 11)

  • A funeral should not be held in the morning before the chevra kadisha and most members of the community recite Shema. It is likewise forbidden to begin a funeral, whether by day or by night, close to the time for reciting Shema, unless the funeral can be completed prior to the onset of zman kriyas Shema.
  • The Torah requires that a dead body must be buried on the day of its passing, as it says "he shall be buried on that day." Not burying on the same day is a violation of the lav "do not leave the corpse overnight."
  • Accompanying the body of a deceased person to its final resting place is considered a great kindness. According to some poskim, the mitzva is fulfilled after walking four amos, but it is preferable to walk for a full mil (a distance close to a mile).

  • Reciting Torah in front of a revealed ervah

  • The issur of reciting Torah in front of a revealed ervah

  • Covering one's 'heart' with a hand


PLEASE NOTE:  The information in this email is for learning purposes only. Please review the Mishna Berura and Biurim U'Musafim before making a halachic decision. Hebrew words are occasionally transliterated to enable a smoother reading of the text. Common Ashkenazi pronunciation is generally used in these cases.