December 2019


"It's the most wonderful time of the year," goes one of the familiar songs you may have been hearing on the radio since Halloween. For some of us, the month of December does feel like the most wonderful time of the year, but for others, it's a mixture of complicated emotions.

The reality is that, as adults, we can start to lose the holiday magic we felt as children - whether we're traveling to in-laws' for big family gatherings, hosting Christmas in cramped quarters, struggling financially, grieving a loss, or dealing with difficult relationships. And in the midst of the twinkly lights, jolly Santas, and non-stop cheery Christmas music, we can forget the reality of the first Christmas: Mary and Joseph were poor travelers, Jesus was born in a stable, and the first people who visited them were strangers! There was no neighborhood potluck or family gift exchange or traditional holiday decorating.

We are reminded of what Servant of God Dorothy Day once wrote, "I'm so glad that Jesus was born in a stable. Because my soul is so much like a stable. It is poor and in unsatisfactory condition because of guilt, falsehoods, inadequacies, and sin. Yet I believe that if Jesus can be born in a stable, maybe He can also be born in me."

God did not come into the world only for the rich and powerful, the well-liked and perfectly put-together; He came for all of us, no matter our health or happiness or status. He came 2000 years ago, and He is with us even now, asking to make His home in our hearts.

Whether you're already dragging your feet through Advent, navigating heavy emotions and trials, or just longing for a little bit of calm and quiet, we pray that you find peace in the Child Jesus and joy in your loved ones this season.

The Marriage & Family Ministry Staff
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