We attract what we think. When we think something often enough we begin to say it as well. Then it becomes inevitable that what we say starts to actually happen. Make sure what you say is what you want. And don't say what you don't want.
Think of the last time you complained about something. Did it seem as if what you were complaining about kept showing up? Did you ever hear yourself saying, "Why does this bad stuff always keep happening to me" only to find that your bad luck continued? When you want to lose weight do you find yourself perseverating on being "fat?"
Do you ever hear yourself pointing out negative behavior in a child or a friend? "Your room is a mess." "You're making a bad choice again." "If you don't work harder you'll never get anywhere." They hear, "You're a mess." "You have bad judgment." And "You're lazy and will end up a looser."
The next time that you feel as if you are the victim of a negative situation say, "Now it's time for good things to come my way." Or when you feel a craving to eat something that has more calories than necessary say to yourself, "I am thin." And I bet you will pass on the indulgence.
Tell others, "Your bedroom will be beautiful and you'll find the things you need so easily after it is organized." "How would you apply your good judgment to tackle this problem?" And "I can see you someday as a leader in business with the skills to get anything done that you wish."
Say what you want and it will happen. Start now!
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Mary Lee Gannon is the president of StartingOverNow.com - Transforming People and Organizations with Goals-to-Results. With more than 16 years of experience as a CEO of organizations with up to $26 million in assets, Mary Lee coaches executives and organizations with a Goals-Accountability-Results system. Read testimonials from her clients. She is a graduate of The Duquesne University Professional Coaching Program and an alumnus of the 2010 Harvard Medical School and McLean Hospital Coaching in Medicine & Leadership Conference. Her personal turnaround came as a stay-at-home mother with four children under seven-years-old who endured a divorce that took she and the children from the country club life to public assistance from where she rose to the level of CEO to support her family. Areas of Specialty: Strategic Planning / Board Development / Executive Coaching / Healthcare / Public Relations / Meeting Facilitation / Leadership / Productivity / Life/Career Transition. Her book "Starting Over - 25 Rules for When You've Bottomed Out" is available in bookstores and from online booksellers.
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