Dr. Neimeyer answers a question from a daughter whose father died of cancer and Alzheimers, and is having trouble handling it:
"...I do not understand this. My father was always the key person in my life, always gentle and loving and wise.  So it makes sense that I would grieve him.  But I am concerned that I hardly feel my grief, just a kind of tension, and it does not seem healthy to continue in this state.  Can you help me understand myself and what is happening?..."
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Robert A. Neimeyer, Ph.D.
... is one of the foremost authorities on bereavement and grief. We are honored to host  a weekly question and answer column authored by Dr. Neimeyer.
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