A lot of my clients lately have been suffering from severe imposter syndrome, or what I like to call "career dysmorphia." They don't think they have anything to offer or are big failures (or think they have failed way more than succeeded), but when I speak to them and review their history, they present me with evidence to the exact contrary!

When I wrote today's PGG over seven years ago, I honestly can't remember what the specific anguish was all about. This is a good sign! It means I truly "dropped" whatever it was, and I also realized I haven't had to use that tool much since, as I have grown and evolved in how I talk to, view and treat myself. Yes, I have plenty of other things I'm still working on and healing, but that's not a main one. (There are, however, some deeper levels about forgiveness and the lies we believe about ourselves that I've been excavating and will write or speak about at some point....)

The bottom line is that I have a better relationship with myself; it is ever-evolving and a work in progress that I am genuinely OK with. And this generally ends up being a lot of the work I do with folks because how we relate to ourselves affects every area of our lives: career, family, friends, partners, money, health. So take some time over the next couple weeks to observe how you feel about and behave toward yourself mentally, emotionally and physically and make an effort to create more harmony, healing and balance WITHIN before you expect similar change in any external situation.

Today's PGG Video of the week gives an example of how you talk to yourself can block you from moving forward; or watch this one with an example of how your internal dialog shows up externally. This Instagram post reminds you to smile and life will smile back, and click on this post to see how my calling out a client's BS set him free.

If you're looking for something a little more in-depth about my thoughts on personal growth, communication and healing, check out this podcast style interview with Rick Young of What's in Your Hand Radio Show.

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P.S. Need a some extra support to help navigate your career and life at this time? For info about working with me check out the website for my individual coaching services.

And in case you missed these, you can read my PGGs that specifically address the current crisis: Quality Control: How to make the best of these times of quarantine and questioning, How to cope with (and benefit from) what you can’t see during the time of corona, United We Stand and Anatomy of Awareness. You can also check out The Pain of Being, which talks about the George Floyd/BLM protests. Feel free to share those links (or any others) with anyone who could benefit.
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Drop It Like It's Hot
Originally published on August 13, 2013

If you’re anything like me, many of my clients, and millions of humans, you are often your own worst enemy and harshest critic. Perhaps you set imaginary limits and keep yourself from experiencing all that life has to offer, holding back for “rational” reasons or because of subconscious thoughts based on irrational fears and silly untruths.

Since I can’t clone myself (yet!?), I, too, sometimes need an outside brain to get a little perspective and see things I can’t quite perceive within myself. And because the majority of my work as a coach is listening, sometimes I, like all humans, just need to talk and be heard.

Therefore, I am ever-grateful for my closest friends and unofficial therapists who support me in various ways and set me straight (whether they know it or not) with additional insights and tools I need to become unblocked, make adjustments and move forward.

Because I spend an extraordinary amount of quality time with myself and practice what I preach/write, one thing I most definitely am is self-aware. So when I get to a point when I gain even more awareness of things I probably should have been aware of in the first place, I can get into a cycle of beating myself up for not being aware enough! As my holistic healer friend Noga Kreiman says, “Ah, the problems of being a conscious person!”

Along with a new awareness I recently gained came feelings of ickiness, shame, stupidity, and all-around disgust for allowing things not to have clicked for me in a certain way up until this point. This did not feel good, but in a twisted way felt right, because I was punishing myself, which seemed appropriate for the transgression against yours truly. Oh, how the ego loves that!

As I always say, your time and energy are your most precious resources. And punishing yourself or beating yourself up is a waste of those valuable commodities and serves no purpose (except that it can greatly adversely affect your health!) So what do you do?

I normally have a few tools in my toolbox to process such a spell, but thanks to Noga, I was introduced to a new one: Pretend the feeling is like holding a pen in your hand, and just drop it. DONE. GONE. ARRIVEDERCI.  Since I have developed quite the strong muscle for being in the present and monitoring my thoughts, I simply needed to transfer this skill to eliminating useless, unproductive, and destructive emotions!  And guess what? It works.

So for this week’s PGG, I really just wanted to share that. And for all of you out there who could use a little more awareness yourself, need someone to talk to (with x-ray vision and supersonic hearing) who can offer you some insights and tools or simply need a little help developing your own presence muscle, give me a buzz. I will be there to meet you wherever you are at in da funky club of life!

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