The Saddest Night
I am writing this on Maundy Thursday. DCPC is preparing to host a new Holy Week experience for children called “The Saddest Night Ever.” As you might imagine, it focuses on Jesus’ arrest, trial, suffering, sentencing, and crucifixion. The children will gather with parents in Lingle Chapel where they will hear the story again of Holy Week. The story will be shared in child-friendly and appropriate ways. It sounds like a very special service.
Our culture often hurries through emotions of sadness and grief. And when we don’t hurry through them individually, we might pretend that we aren’t having them because we don’t want to talk about it. We just “put on a happy face.” We bulk up our happy Instagram or Facebook posts. We rush on past the sadness to try and get to the positive. But honestly – that kind of sweeping things under the rug isn’t healthy for us and isn’t a healthy model for our children. What is healthy is our honest display of emotion, sitting with the sadness of loss, and sharing our story, our experience, and our feeling about it within our family and our community.
Our children don’t like to talk with me when they are upset. I get that…but I don’t like it. Honestly, it is hard for me to share my feelings when I am sad or frustrated or scared. But that is the healthier thing to do. During Holy Week we ride an emotional roller-coaster from the lowest low to the highest high. The story only really makes sense if we remain present for every part of it. So – I encourage you to sit for a while with the story of Jesus passion and crucifixion this week. Be angry, frustrated, sad, confused, scared, guilty, numb, or whatever else comes to you. And know that God is with you in all of that…all the way to the empty tomb and the glorious resurrection.
One of my favorite verses from the Bible is Psalm 30:5b – “weeping may endure through the night…but shouts of joy come in the morning.” Our shouts will be all the more joyful when we allow ourselves to properly grieve.
To God be the Glory!