Early Fall Greetings !
Here at Always There Home Care, we are grateful you are slowing down to read our newsletter, which is full of items that relate to home care, home health care, aging & eldercare, as well as some useful tips for daily living.
Please enjoy in the spirit of community and cooperation in which this newsletter was sent.
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Please take some time to watch our video!
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Regina McNamara RN, MSN President & Kelly McNamara, Chief Operating Officer
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Photos in top banner: Darcey watches and waits as her friend finishes her ice cream; Michelle and new doll play dress up!; Newest addition to family - Cru new baby boy First grandnephew, Joins sisters Phoenix and Zoë;
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FEATURE ARTICLE
How to Tell Your Loved One It Is Alzheimer’s Disease
By Daniel Paris, MSW
There are a number of takes on telling the person with Alzheimer’s disease (AD) the truth. I would propose a couple of things to keep in mind:
- Ask yourself how much your loved one will understand of the explanation. Sometimes they can understand and retain a lot of the information (you have a disease of the brain, etc...); sometimes all they can understand is that they have “some memory loss;” sometimes they are unable to get any of it. Remember, the cognitive impairments of AD affect not only their ability to comprehend information, but also their ability to communicate.
- Often someone with Alzheimer’s knows something is wrong, they just can’t figure out what. Are they stupid or going crazy, they may wonder. Finding out there is something wrong that is a legitimate disease beyond their control can actually be comforting at times in this light.
- There are some people who will never accept what you tell them due to denial, resistance, the disease, etc. Complicating this can be a host of personality or cultural traits pre-AD. There are times when telling the person can do more harm than good. Because of this, you can’t force them to understand if they are unable or unwilling.
- This is an individual decision; you should think about the type of person your loved one is, and how the Alzheimer’s disease has impaired them. You can always try beginning the conversation and see how it goes. If they become very upset and if it doesn’t work, there is a good chance they will not remember the conversation.
- Finally, if you are certain your loved one should know, be ready to repeat yourself numerous times as they will probably not remember what you said.
Many thanks to the wonderful website Today’s Caregiver. ■
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Photo left to right: Nora and Ryan (Regina’s grandchildren) on their first day of school; Lucas and Matthew (Our Graphic Designer’s son and husband) at their back to school ice cream social and on their first day of school; Mishelle LOVES playing inside and outside at school!; Brother RJ loves nothing more than hanging with MOM !
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KUDOS from KELLY
Our Everyday Heroes
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Nadine Meredith: Nadine has been with us for a few years and has always been flexible and willing to take on new clients. In the past month she was caregiver to an elderly Italian man who spoke primarily Italian.
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Keliomayra Saaverdra: Keliomayra is relatively new to us, originally hired as an office assistant helping us with PPE distribution, organization of office supplies and equipment, and even cleaning.
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Back to “Normal”?
No Thanks. By Alan Weiss
There are a lot of people I hear talking about “returning to normal.” The media are talking about businesses returning to “pre-pandemic levels.” Yet, there are obvious and profound changes that have occurred and have gained traction, such as remote meetings, take-out (high end) food, and career reevaluations.
My parents had a “system” of using envelopes to save for the rent, the car loan, and groceries (the envelopes were almost always empty). Our lives are not sacullated, not compartmentalized into self-sustaining containers. To exactly what “normal” are we trying to return?
Here’s the scoop, intelligence from the abyss we faced: We’ve learned some things that we ought to retain, such as entertainment at home is better than dirty, noisy theaters, and that we don’t need to assemble 400 people in a convention so that they can lie to each other about how well they’re doing. We’ve learned about some things that we ought to jettison permanently, such as polarization, which even the pandemic couldn’t overcome, and obsessive competition, which should give way to more collaboration (hoarding is simply stupid). And we’ve learned there’s a need to acquire some things many of us didn’t possess sufficiently, such as financial reserves, latitude of action, and support networks.
You want to return to normal? That’s a rallying cry for complacency. If this isn’t a time for reflection, prudent risk-taking, and innovation, I don’t know what is. If you can’t do this independently, get help. Because there will be another microbe, another calamity, another abyss. You can be prepared and on the high ground, or “back to normal” and in the quicksand.
No mariner ever enters a more uncharted sea than does the average human being being born into the twentieth century. Our ancestors thought they knew their way from birth through all eternity. We are puzzled about the day after tomorrow. ~ Walter Lippman
Let us not look back in anger, nor forward in fear, but around in awareness. ~ James Thurber ■
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REGINA'S REFLECTIONS
Modern Healthcare
Do Not Go in Alone... We are Your Advocates
The elderly man in the hospital bed was our client but our focus was on his daughter, a bright health care professional, trying her best to usher her father through the confusing maze of the U.S. health care system. He had been admitted for treatment of pneumonia, acquired during a rehab stay in a nearby nursing home…his third such episode in three weeks. The young doctor, having briefly examined him, pronounced him able to return to the nursing home.
The daughter, sleep deprived, confused and frustrated looked to me for support. “He wants to go home with care “I said. The doctor, reflexively replied: “He needs care he can only receive in a nursing home” He listed them… oxygen, frequent monitoring, possibly IV antibiotics, respiratory treatments, safety and prevention of re-infection.
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The Four R's of Coping By Helen Hunter, ACSW, LSW
1. REORGANIZE Reorganize your life. What do you need to focus on at this time? By reorganizing your life, you can better structure your needs and the needs of others.
2. RETHINK Rethink your priorities. What is most important to you?
By taking a good look at what is
most important in your life, you
can focus and channel your
energy in that area.
3. RELAX Find relaxation in exercise, hobbies, meditation. What is the best way that you can find peace? By finding a method of relaxation, you can recharge your energy so that you will be better able to face daily challenges.
4. RELEASE Let go! What can you let other people do? By taking a good look at what others can do, you can ask for and accept assistance. ■
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Photo left: Nora, Ryan and Kelly playing a game together.
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Photos Above: Proud granddad Bonnie’s cousin David with daughter Brianna and baby Harper; Marissa’s sister Shannon with daughter Charlie, GREAT dancer! ; Tom with his grand nieces Maggie and Claire preparing pancakes at Cape cod family party; Zoe and Phoenix grandneices and their new brother CRU ! With his lovely mom Katie; Basil and Alyssa with their girls Willa and Charlotte, Regina’s grandnieces.
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OBSERVATIONS FROM AL NIXON
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IWhen one door closes and another door opens, you are probably in prison.
- To me, “drink responsibly” means don’t spill it.
- Age 60 might be the new 40, but 9:00 pm is the new midnight.
- It’s the start of a brand-new day, and I’m off like a herd of turtles.
- The older I get, the earlier it gets late.
- When I say, “The other day,” I could be referring to any time between yesterday and 15 years ago.
- I remember being able to get up without making sound effects.
- I had my patience tested. I’m negative.
- Remember, if you lose a sock in the dryer, it comes back as a Tupperware lid that doesn’t fit any of your containers.
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WHY GOD CREATED DOGS Pets are a reminder to balance joy and grief. A fond farewell to the world’s greatest dog. By: Karl Rove
Just after 10 a.m. on Saturday, Sept. 4, Little Bit Rove, the world’s greatest dog, passed from this life to the next. She apparently had an arrhythmia from birth and Bit’s loving heart gave out. She’d have been three in November.
My wife Karen and I had been without a dog since our border collie Nan died in August 2015. On Christmas 2019, Karen decided it was time. Her gift was a promise: I could pick out a dog from a nearby hunting preserve.
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PROVIDERS WE LOVE
We are privileged to have received referrals from and be able to coordinate care with many Assisted Living facilities, rehab facilities, and Medicare Home Care and Hospice agencies. Our growth is in large part due to the trust the staff in these organizations have put in our caregivers. We are likewise impressed with them and we are committed to referring to them on a regular basis
- Seabury Active Living Retirement Community, and Seabury at Home, Bloomfield
- Seasons Hospice and Palliative Care, Middlebury CT
- Masonicare Home Health and Hospice - Danielson, Derby, East Hartford, Mystic, Norwalk and Wallingford
- McLean Home Health and Hospice
- Hudson Valley Hospice and Palliative Care Poughkeepsie, NY and Kingston NY
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800.348.0485 ~ We are Always There
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