Chapel Rock Family Ministry Weekend Update for February 14, 2021
Sunday Morning: The Vine/Merge
(for students in 6-12th Grades meeting at 9:15a in ED02)
"They just don't really see me, or think what I'm feeling is valid."

"We just don't talk about this stuff."

"I just get so angry and fired up when..."

The above statements are all things students have said in the past two weekends of our series on feelings called Moods. I (Nick) can probably count on one hand the times when students have stopped to express deep appreciation for tackling a particular topic that we hit in youth ministry. One student in particular took the time this past week to express the following; "I just want to say thank you for doing this series, because it's not something that gets talked about about much, and it's really helpful to think through from a biblical perspective." I'm so grateful for the Lord's timing. I'm also praising God for the way that the Holy Spirit to continually meet each of us in the place in which we're able to listen to the receive the challenges that the Lord has for on this discipleship journey.

This season has been difficult for so many reasons; but you already know and feel that. Many of us (students and adults) have been feeling all sorts of feelings related to change, grief, loss, frustration, anger, loneliness, fear, and so much more. Part of our series has been acknowledging the amazing ways that God has made us; created with the capacity to feel, think, love, and experience all that life brings our way. The other part of this series has been talking about knowing what to do with those feelings. The weekly reminder has been holding in tension our capacity to feel, with the fact that although we feel deeply, our feelings don't have to control us. That's good news for folks that need hope in the midst of what can be some pretty overwhelming circumstances. This week we continue our journey looking specifically at fear, and how even though fear is a reality (sometimes it's a really good thing), it doesn't have to paralyze us. Jesus actually had a lot to say and model to his early followers in regard to what to do with their fear. This week we'll journey with the disciples to feel what they experienced in some pretty trying circumstances. As we do our eyes will be on Jesus and what he has to say to us in the midst of our fears. For a sneak peak, check out Matthew 8:23-27, and 1 Peter 5:7.


Fear doesn't have to be the boss of you.

Mark 7:20-23, Matthew 11:28 
Emotions don't have to be the boss of you.

WEEK TWO [February 7]
James 3:13-16, James 4:1
Anger doesn't have to be the boss of you.

WEEK THREE [February 14]
Matthew 8:23-27, 1 Peter 5:7
Fear doesn't have to be the boss of you.

WEEK FOUR [February 21]
Romans 8:1-11
Guilt doesn't have to be the boss of you.
Resources for Small Group Leaders (Grades 6-12):

Because of Jesus, FEAR doesn't have to be the boss of you.

Then he got into the boat and his disciples followed him. Suddenly a furious storm came up on the lake, so that the waves swept over the boat. But Jesus was sleeping. The disciples went and woke him, saying, “Lord, save us! We’re going to drown!”
He replied, “You of little faith, why are you so afraid?” Then he got up and rebuked the winds and the waves, and it was completely calm.
The men were amazed and asked, “What kind of man is this? Even the winds and the waves obey him!” (Matthew 8:23-27 NIV).

Cast all your anxiety on him because he cares for you (1 Peter 5:7 NIV)

Create meaningful conversations. Adjust the questions/options as needed, and don’t feel like you need to answer all of them.

Scatter the provided emoji cards on the floor in the middle of your group and ask your students to select one card to represent how they’re feeling today. They’ll then go around the group and explain why they picked that card.

Put the provided “Feelings Wheel” in the center of your group to use as a conversation aid. Lead a discussion about what words can be used to describe “fear.” Ask a few students to read the “fear” words from the Feelings Wheel out loud and follow by asking the group if they’ve ever felt or used these words before.

  • What’s one example of something a middle schooler might be afraid of? 
  • When it comes to fear, which is the response you usually have: flight, fight, freeze.
  • What’s one thing that might be causing fear in your life right now?

  • What is something that scared you when you were a little kid that you aren’t scared of now? 
  • Would you say you have more: fear for the future or hope for the future? 
  • What are you most hopeful or excited about in the future? What scares you most about the future? 
  • Read Matthew 10:28-31. This passage points out that God is a personal God who is always with us. Does knowing that God is with you in every situation change the way you look at fear? 
  • Have you ever felt like you could go to God with your fear and anxiety? Why or why not? 
  • What is one thing in your life currently that scares you the most? 
  • How can this group help you cast your fears on to God and over your fear? 

Close in prayer, asking God to help your few not only face their fears, but also invite Him into them.
Sunday Evenings: Crux 6/7/8 & High School Small Groups
(for students in 6-12th Grades)
Regularly Scheduled Sunday Evenings (NOT Meeting 2/14/21):
Sunday evenings gatherings, whether at Crux or in Small Groups provide great opportunities for students to connect with God and with one another on a deeper level. Multiple age focused gatherings meet students where they're at, and help them grow in wholeness in Christ. Crux 6/7/8 and High School Small groups meet most Sunday evenings throughout the semester (see calendar below) from 5:30-7p.

This weekend we're not meeting because Valentines Day happens to fall on a Sunday this year. We're on break to give our leaders and families the opportunity to be together and spend time as a couple and/or family.

Coming Up This Semester: Angels & Demons
High school students will have an opportunity to join in on a special series presented by Fred Rodkey on Angels and Demons coming up 2/21. 2/28. 3/7, 3/14, 4/11, and 4/18. During this series High School small groups will meet for lunch at 12:30p (in Fellowship Hall) with teaching/conversation at 1p. This is in lieu of the regular evening meeting times that will not be happening on the above weeks. We do need a head count for lunch, so please communicate with your small group leader, and make sure you (or your parents) let us know if you are planning on attending.

Crux 6/7/8
Location: Chapel Rock Christian Church in the Family Life Center (Gym)
Enter through Door 6.
2020 N. Girls School Rd.
Indianapolis, IN 46214
Time: 5:30-7p
Leaders: Nick Wilkes, Kenny Reinhardt

Freshman Small Group
Location: Home of Jason & Kelly Berkholz
1668 Beacon Pointe Blvd.
Brownsburg, IN 46112
Time: 5:30-7p
Leaders: Jason & Kelly Berkholz & Robert Miller

Sophomore/Junior/Senior Small Group
Location: Room WC111 [Enter Through Door 1] at
Chapel Rock Christian Church located at 2020 N. Girls School Rd.
Indianapolis, IN 46214
Time: 5:30-7p
Leaders: Mike & Katie Beam, and Doug & Carolyn Lish, John Hicks
Student Ministry Calendar: Winter 2021
High School Calendar
(Grades 9-12 Winter 2021)

February 14 The Vine / No Evening Activities
February 17 Jam Night
February 21 The Vine/Small Groups
February 28 The Vine/Small Groups

March 3 Jam Night
March 7 The Vine/Small Groups
March 14 The Vine/Small Groups
March 17 Jam Night
March 21 The Vine/Small Groups
March 28 The Vine/Small Groups

Save The Date:
July 5-10, 2021: CIY Move @ Holland, MI

Middle School Calendar (Grades 6-8 Winter 2021)

February 14 Merge / No Evening Activities
February 17 Jam Night
February 21 Merge/Crux 6/7/8
February 28 Merge/Crux 6/7/8

March 3 Jam Night
March 7 Merge/Crux 6/7/8
March 14 Merge/Crux 6/7/8
March 17 Jam Night
March 21 Merge/Crux 6/7/8
March 28 Merge/Crux 6/7/8

Save The Date:
June 10-14, 2021: CIY Mix @ Country Lake
June 27-July 3, 2021: Mission Indy @ Fairfax
Jam Night: 1st & 3rd Wednesdays (Middle School & High School Students)
A great way for students to jump in on helping lead worship at The Vine/Merge on Sunday mornings is to join us for Jam Night on the 1st and 3rd Wednesdays of the month. Jam Night is the time and place where students grow in learning about leading worship, work on songs together, and help plan for upcoming times of worship and special events. Upcoming dates are listed below:

February 17 Jam Night 6-8p

March 3 Jam Night 6-8p
March 17 Jam Night 6-8p
[Grades 9-12]
Located on college campuses across the nation, MOVE provides a program for 30,000 high school students every summer. Students are challenged through intense, interactive worship, dynamic preaching, small group study and community building.

Join us in Holland Michigan this year for CVIY Move the week of July 5-10, 2021. Registration requires a $50 deposit. The early-bird rate is $284 through March 23rd, after which the price increases to $334.

CIY MIX 2021
[Grades 6-8]
MIX is a four-day summer event specifically designed for students in sixth, seventh and eighth grades. It is intentionally crafted in ways that will engage middle school students through tactile, interactive and fun activities coupled with Bible-based teaching and small group interaction.

Join us for CIY Mix, July 10-14, 2021 at Country Lake Camp in Underwood, IN. Registration requires a $50 deposit. The early-bird rate is $294 through March 23rd, after which the price increases to $344.

[Grades 6-12]
Be a part of serving our extended community as Mission Indy leads us to help impact the Fairfax neighborhood this summer. Mission Indy's mission is to equip Christians to serve others, and participants will walk away from this experience equipped. You'll be equipped to love and serve your neighbors in your own neighborhood and community in deeper ways than you ever have before.

This student mission trip is open to both middle school (entering grades 6-8) and high school (entering grades 9-12) students. Cost in full is $280 per person, but offsetting scholarships are available (through the generous donations of the Chapel Rock church body) and will be included for participants based upon the size of our team. Last year this offset the participant cost in full.
Sunday Morning Kids Programming: (for Birth through Grade 5)

Early Childhood and Elementary Ministry are continuing to offer programming for birth through 5th grade on Sundays during both services. Grades 1-5 meet in the Family Room at 9:15a and 11a. KidRock is offered in an identical format for both services. The younger ages (Birth through Kindergarten) meet in the classrooms specified below:

Early Childhood:
Nursery [Age: birth through stable walker]: Room WC 107
Puppies: [Age: Stable Walkers]: Room WC106 (9:15a) Room WC108 (11:00a)
Giraffe [Birthdate Range 8/1/17-7/31/18]: Room ED10
Elephant [Birthdate Range 8/1/16-7/31/17]: Room ED09
Kangaroos [Birthdate Range 8/1/15-7/31/16]: Room ED12
Kindergarten: Kindergarten Room ED11

Based upon the current Governor's mandate children age 8 and up are required to wear a face mask. Children between ages 2-8 are requested to wear a mask, but not required. All volunteers will be wearing masks. Hand sanitizer will be available and extra physical distancing will be in place when possible. Please keep children with any symptom of COVID or who are high risk at home.

If you are willing to help serve in either Early Childhood or Elementary Ministry, please contact either Sherry Schwab ( or Daniel Brown at (
[Grades 3, 4, 5, 6]
Camp Allendale’s registration begins on March 3 at 6:00pm. It is important that you register as quickly as possible ON MARCH 3rd at 6p as the spots fill up extremely fast. The dates are June 20-25 and the cost is $380. When registration is open, you can sign up at the following link:

This year, our Kids pastor, Daniel Brown will be accompanying our students to Camp Allendale. Each event is specially designed to help young people connect with God in His Creation, through worship, study and adventure, guided by skilled and caring adults.

Please join us for this FREE event Friday, February 26 from 6:00 - 8:00 pm. Our new Kids Pastor, Daniel Brown would like to take this opportunity to meet our CR families and share his vision for this ministry. Dinner will be served and childcare will be provided (all ages welcome).

Digital Experiences for Pre K, Elementary Age Students.

Join with ourWeekly video presentations that compliment our current First Look (Pre-School) and 252 Kids (Elementary) curriculum.

Weekly Video Resources:
Week of February 14, 2021 are found here.
House Church Kit:

Go beyond the screen by checking out our House Church kit available at This kit is designed exclusively to help you prepare to join us online for the Sunday morning service streamed at 9:00a and 11a on Sundays.

The House Church kit includes scripture readings related to the message of the week, along with discussion questions for you and your family to dig into together. It's a great way to make the most of the opportunities that we have to engage with one another in this season.

The discussion questions found in the House Church Kit that go along with each week's sermon are a great way for middle school and high school students that are normally in the rhythm of engaging in discussion groups at Merge/The Vine, to engage in a conversation about the sermon as a family.

The house church kit will be uploaded/updated on Saturday of each week for the following day's message/sermon.

To watch on the church online platform visit: or on YouTube on your smart TV by clicking here.