The Season of Sharing:
Helping Little Ones Learn to
Give and Take
As the holidays approach, we’re surrounded by messages about giving, kindness, and togetherness — making this the perfect time to help young children learn the true meaning of sharing.
For toddlers and preschoolers, sharing doesn’t always come naturally. It’s a skill that develops over time as children learn about empathy, patience, and taking turns. Rather than expecting instant generosity, we can guide them through everyday opportunities to practice.
For young children, the idea of sharing can feel confusing or abstract — it often sounds like they’re being asked to give something up. Using the term “taking turns” is usually more concrete and easier for toddlers to understand. It helps them see that everyone gets a chance and that their turn will come again, making the experience feel fair and predictable.
Start small — passing a toy back and forth, taking turns stirring cookie dough, or letting a friend choose the next song. Praise moments of cooperation (“You waited for your turn — that was kind!”) and model giving by sharing your own things. Reading books about friendship, kindness, or teamwork can also make these lessons come alive.
When conflicts happen — and they will — treat them as teachable moments. Calmly name the problem (“You both want the truck”) and suggest a solution (“Let’s set a timer so you each get a turn”). This helps children see that sharing doesn’t mean losing — it means working together.
By weaving these simple lessons into daily routines, we help children build empathy, self-control, and generosity — gifts that last long after the holiday season ends.
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