Family truly matters.  They are our foundation, from birth.  They are our support system.  They are our community.  In some shape or form, each member gives and sacrifices for one another. Whether it is a mother carrying and growing a child for 9 months, followed by eternal love and support, or a sister or brother helping a sibling learn to tie his shoes.  Our family is there to provide a helping hand, a conversation or a tough lesson learned.  Again.....family truly matters....

When our families grow up into functioning adults, family get-togethers  and holidays can sometimes be difficult.  We are fully independent, have our own lives and yet sometimes everyone falls back into their childhood roles.  One plays the dominator, another one is the people pleaser, someone else is the blamer and maybe one doesn't even show up at all. 
 
And, to keep the peace (or so we think), we decide to go along with it and just deal with the situation,  internally.  Even if we only see them two or three times a year, if we are in a stressful family situation, we most likely have figured out the "dealing with it" in reality, creates more stress.  The holidays certainly don't feel like a vacation and they end up being more stressful than tight deadlines at work or an overwhelming pile of debt.

Many of my clients have shared with me that they no longer just want to just "deal with it" and would like to address the issue(s) directly.  How about you?  If so, I have shared a few tips below, to assist in having those "hard" conversations with loved ones.
  1. Have the conversation privately.
  2. Keep your emotions at bay; be logical and express how you felt due to a circumstance or situation rather than reacting.
  3. Do not name call, judge or accuse.  Seek to understand their perspective and motivations.
  4. Let's be honest; some holidays have the wine pouring.  If alcohol is involved, remain silent until it's cleared from everyone's system.
  5. Prior to the conversation, write and re-write a letter to them at least three times.  Do not give the letter to the other party; throw it out.
  6. Last and most importantly, remember their humanness.  Our mom's and dad's are not just a mom and dad.  They are people and they do make mistakes.  Our older and/or young siblings are not just siblings that tormented us or were our closest friend; they are people trying to live their lives the best way they know how with the current information they have.
  To be honest, the other person in the conversation may not be ready to hear what you would
like to share.  Please give them time and space to react, be angry or to fight.  And, if they choose to be closed indefinitely, spend time remembering what you truly love about them.  Spend time on focusing on good memories.  This may not be the resolution that you were hoping for, and I will guarantee it will make it easier to visit home and spend time with the ones you love. 

Bottom line:    In the end, our family is our family.  Through it all and under it all, we do love them.  Our family dynamics transform as we transition into adults and still, the family matters.  They will always and forever be a part of us and we a part of them.  They are the original unit and the basic training grounds of our life.  They contributed to who we are and we to them.  Finding gratitude in this, will create peace within you and in turn, that peaceful feeling will be brought into the world. 

Sending you Much Love, Light & Peace, Joanie
TO BOOST COURAGE 
Essential Oil Blend 

Oil Blend:
  Blend 3 drops fennel, 4 drops thyme, 1 drop black pepper, and 1 drop ginger with 1 tablespoon fractionated coconut oil.
Application: Apply to bones behind the ears and the backs of the knees.
Affirmation: I am joyous and full of courage.  I look to the future, live in the present, and let go of the past.
 
Fennel: The Oil of Responsibility
Encourages an individual to live in integrity with themselves, despite the judgment of others.  It encourages the soul to take full ownership and responsibility for its choices.
 
Thyme:  The Oil of Releasing & Forgiving
Helps empty the soul of all negativity, leaving the heart wide open.  In this state of openness, an individual begins to feel tolerance and patience for others.
 
Black Pepper:  The Oil of Unmasking
Helps reveal the masks and facades used to hide aspects of the Self.  Invites individuals to "get real" by digging deep within the less understood parts of the Self.  It gives an individual strength to overcome the challenges and issues they carry inside and invites them to live in integrity with the Self.
 
Ginger:  The Oil of Empowerment
  Powerfull persuades individuals to be fully present and participate in life.   Addresses deep patterns of victim mentality.  Empowers individuals in taking complete responsibility for their life circumstances.  

One of the most vital things you must know about essential oils is not all essential oils are created equally. In fact, most of them are worthless to your health and often synthetic. When buying essential oils make sure they are certified pure therapeutic grade. If you want to order the brand I trust and personally use  feel free to email me
coachjoanie@joanieyanusas.com

**THE ADVICE ON THIS PAGE IS NOT INTENDED TO REPLACE PROFESSIONAL MEDICAL HELP. THESE STATEMENTS ARE FOR EDUCATIONAL PURPOSES ONLY, THEY ARE NOT MEANT TO DIAGNOSE, TREAT, CURE OR PREVENT ANY ILLNESS OR DISEASE. THIS INFORMATION IS OFFERED AS A WAY TO USE ESSENTIAL OILS TO ASSIST THE BODY IN ITS OWN NATURAL PROCESSES OF REACHING BALANCE AND HOMEOSTASIS. 
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