The Newsletter of 
JUNE   2015


"My father gave me the greatest gift anyone could give another person, he believed in me."

~ Jim Valvano
My father died in 1991. For many years after his passing, I would send flowers to his grave site, thanking him for being such an amazing father. These days, I write him letters or write poems telling him how much I miss him and what everyone in the family is doing.

If you love someone who has passed away, it's important that you honor them in a way which would make them proud and/or happy. I honor my dad by being kind, passionate and generous. That's the kind of person he was. I also honor my father by helping others in need and by being positive. I think of my father nearly every day, always reminded of his words of wisdom and how he taught me by example how to be a survivor and a seeker. 

My only regret is that my children never had a chance to know their grandfather well. He died at the age of 71, which by today's standards is quite young. I try to keep my father alive by sharing his life stories and ways of doing things. Each year on his birthday, I honor him by making his favorite meal-meatloaf, mashed potatoes and vanilla pudding. 

Being a storyteller is one way to keep the family legacy alive, and that's why writers have such poignant roles in society. Even if you are not a writer, this month, to honor your father, whether he is alive or has passed away, consider writing him a letter. 

If you weren't lucky enough to know your father, then consider writing a letter to the man you think your father might be. You can also write to another important male role model in your life--a brother, uncle, friend, colleague, employee or employer. Whether the letter is mailed or not is less important than writing it. The important thing is that we keep in touch with our inner voice and feelings through the written word.



Lunette is a masterful first book by poet Pamela Davis. It's my hope that we get to hear a lot more from her in the future. Davis has a wonderful command of poetic form and the English language. "Lunette," as Davis defines the word, is a little moon or satellite, or, from a more morbid perspective, the circular hole in a guillotine that holds the victim's head.  


The book's morbidity transcends the title and offers a glimpse into the sensibility of this mortician's daughter. The poet's offerings weave back and forth from darkness to light, always being mindful and giving readers a glimpse into wonderfully varied scenarios. Whether she's writing about Doris Day, artists, mortuaries, Baudelaire, bicycles, the assassination of JFK, mothers, brothers or fathers, Davis brings many characters and powerful images into her poems, which in one way or another have been prominent in her life. Each poem is written in a different and varied form, forbidding the reader to become bored by the mundane. 


It is best to read this collection slowly and swim around inside all the images and metaphors, which remain vivid long after the book is finished and put down to rest. Reading Lunette is like sitting with a dear friend in front of a roaring fire, sipping a warm cup of tea, and sharing glimpses of the narrator's life. It offers us the opportunity to ponder and reflect on the poet's life while doing the same for our own.  Highly recommended for men and women alike!



This month, for a creative spark, I suggest you crack open one or both of these classic books, Goddesess in Everywoman and Gods in Everyman both authored by Jean Shinoda Bolen, MD. Since my birthday last month, Gods and Goddesses have become a theme in my life. My recent rereading of the former book instilled a huge creative spark in me. It is difficult to explain why or how without diving into one or both of these books and seeing for yourself. Simply stated, the books peaked my curiosity and made me ponder many thoughts on men and women, our individual characteristics and the powerful forces that influence what we do, as well as our connection with the opposite sex. 


My recent blog on Psychology Today also shares an additional perspective. One or both of these books may also be considered a good Father's day gift suggestion.  



"Breast Cancer Survivor Advocates for Writing to Foster Healing." NewsBlaze. May 31, 2015.  


June 19, 2015. "Creative Transcendence:  Writing for Transformation and Empowerment." Feeding The Soul. Eurotas Conference. (European Association of Transpersonal Psychologists). Combined presentation and workshop. 

June 23, 2015. "Narrative Approaches to Transpersonal Research."Eurotas Conference. First Transpersonal Research Colloquium. Milan, Italy. Panel on Narrative Research.

July 15, 2015. "Writing for Transformation." Healing in America. Ojai, CA. 6-8 pm.m 
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Whether your father is alive or deceased, write a letter to him telling him all you are grateful for.

Creatively yours,

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