Share the Care, Inc

Share the Care, Inc.
Providing Services to Family Caregivers
since 1986

February 2020

407.423.5311 (phone)

A Few Words from Mary Ellen
Hello Dear Caregivers,

We are well on our way to spring here in lovely Florida. Unfortunately, some places (like my home state of Michigan) are seeing the coldest weather of the year. I've spent some time up there recently and in between complaining about the cold and blowing my nose I had some thoughts about why weather can alter our moods.

First, there is the sunshine factor. Point of fact, people are happier when the sun is shining. Clouds, rain, cold and snow all get in the way of the sun. A gloomy day does not inspire one to get out and do. In fact, it makes you want to pull those covers up over your head and go back to sleep. Bad weather can force you to stay inside and limit your exposure to both other people and to the things you enjoy. In my case, shopping, eating out, meeting up with friends all are made more difficult by inclement weather (especially snow).

So then I thought, dealing with bad weather is sort of like caregiving...There are good days and bad days. On the good (sunny days) it is easy to see why you chose to be a caregiver. The one you love and care for is content. They are able to express (if only in their unique way) their appreciation for the care you give. On the sunny days of caregiving you may have a nice conversation and be reminded of the bond you have always had with this person you love. You may even feel validated and inspired to keep going. Hurray for the good weather days!

Unfortunately, many caregivers also face the gloomy days. Things aren't even close to easy on these days. Maybe you don't feel appreciated or even recognized by this person you care for. Maybe you aren't able to see the traits in them that you loved and admired. Possibly there are days when you wish you could go back to bed and let someone else do this very difficult job...

I know a lot of people up north who, unlike me, wear the weather well. They equip themselves to best react when the weather turns bad. Coats, boots, gloves, snow tires get these hearty folks out of the house and into the world. Winter is just another season and they find things to do in spite of the weather. Skiing, snow shoeing, skating, snow ball fights, making snow angels and on and on... I have relatives who even claim that winter is their favorite season!

Caregivers can also gear up for different kinds of weather. Ask for help, take some time off, go to support group, look for the things you can do for yourself, regardless of the weather. Sometimes your sunshine is other people who understand. Figure out the things that help you not only get out of bed, but enjoy the day. Even though none of us can actually control the weather, in small ways, we can control the way it affects us. So...let's get out the gear and always remember that, no matter what the time of year, spring is right around the corner!
Mary Ellen

Share the Care Activity Suggestions

Looking for age appropriate activities for your loved one with dementia may be a challenge. Although your loved one may enjoy coloring or singing old nursery rhymes, we must ensure these activities are conducted in a dignified, age appropriate way. Here are some examples of how you can adapt activities that are often considered "childish" to ensure they are age appropriate.
  1. Art Pages designed for adults: Playing with color and being creative through painting can help an individual to engage with a process.
  2. Puzzles (Jigsaw, word search books): Choose puzzles which contain a wide variation in color, with reasonably large pieces. It also leads to an enormous sense of achievement.
  3. Tablets or electronic games: Playing games on a tablet can be very instinctive to pick up, as well as ensuring there are no fiddly pieces to drop or lose. Solitaire, Bejewelled, Candy Crush Saga are all ideas to try.
  4. Card Games: Depending on how an individual is displaying memory loss and confusion, some card games are more suitable than others. Choose larger cards and stick to age-old games which are likely familiar to the individual from the past, such as Bridge and Solitaire. You can also buy card holders if the individual is struggling to hold the cards in a fan themselves, enabling them to retain their independence in the game for as long as possible.
  5. Board Games: There are a wide variety of board games which are ideal for those suffering with dementia. Games such as, Checkers, Quirkle, Reminiscence and Name 5 are good to start with.
  6. Scrapbooking: Scrapbooking allows an individual to bring together small items and papers from their past. The result is like a journal which can be used to prompt memories and facilitate discussion around topics which feel secure and more remembered.
  7. Free printable activities: word searches, matching, trivia.
Some other items that may be used for those with more of a cognitive disability are: Life Like Pet and Doll therapy and Sensory or fidget mats/aprons.   

It is vital when dealing with any stage of memory impairment or cognitive disability to stimulate the mind while also offering security and reassurance. Doing many of these activities provide a safe structure to someone who may easily be confused or overwhelmed. Take their lead on how much hands-on help they need and encourage them to try. 

STC Client using a
fidget mat
Adult Day Care Center Updates
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In This Issue
STC Activity Suggestions
Adult Day Care Center Updates
Caregiver Support Group

2nd Friday of each month
1:30 - 3:00 pm
STC College Park Center & Administration Building
1524 Formosa Ave., 
Winter Park, FL

RSVP or call for information 407-423-5311

Respite for your loved one is available at the College Park Center during the meeting with advanced notice.
Caregiving with Faith
Tuesday, March 31, 2020
10:00 AM - 2:30 PM
Resurrection Catholic Church in Lakeland

Recommended for faith communities interested in ministering to family caregivers, and lay people and caregivers interested in starting caregiver support programs in their faith communities.

Open to all Faiths

Click here to download the flyer.

Call 407-423-5311 to register. This workshop is free but pre-registration is required.
February at STC Adult Day Centers

Celebrating Black History Month at Winter Garden

Valentine's Day at Conway

Activity Resources

Below are links/websites to purchase some of the items listed in the
STC Activity Suggestions article:


Adult Coloring Book: Stress Relieving Designs Animals, Mandalas, Flowers, Paisley Patterns and So Much More  

Fire 7 Tablet (7" display, 32 GB)


Yellow Mountain Imports Panorama Wooden Playing Card Holders - Set of 4

Mega Screen Solitaire


Activity Apron - Excellent for Alzheimer Patients

Share the Care in our Community

Share the Care CEO Mary Ellen Philbin and United Global Outreach CEO Timothy McKinney