Bernice Addo: Dr. P is a uniquely admired, loved and revered client of Always There Home Care. This 95-year-old retired cardiologist is fortunate to live out his years in his beautiful home in Farmington, as a member of Seabury At Home program.

 For nearly five years. Dr. P. has been the recipient of a unique and special love by his full-time caregiver Bernice. In addition to her usual tasks, Bernice also observes and assesses him carefully for any impending medical issues.

Though his lovely home has many breathtaking views of the Farmington valley and Hartford, Bernice and Dr. P are most often busy with local road trips. With Bernice driving and Dr. P navigating, they enjoy lunches out, trips to the grocery store, ice cream parlors, and other local sites. They take walks in his lovely neighborhood and on nearby Hill stead museum grounds.

Anonymous writes: My mother has been in a memory care center for 2-½ years. She has recently started kissing a fellow resident even though she still recognizes my dad when he comes to visit. Most recently, she has now been found in this other man’s bed twice. My dad and my sister are using humor to deal with the situation but I am heartbroken. I do realize that it is the disease and not my mom making these choices. How do you deal with these situations?

The first, and most important thing that we need to deal with is the issue of CONSENT. Consent is a really challenging thing to measure when people have dementia. Honestly, due to the fact that we don’t know exactly what is going on in the brain of someone with dementia (does she think that he is her husband? etc.) all we can ask ourselves is this: does she seem happy and willing to consent? Does the man in this relationship seem happy and willing to engage with this woman? If the answer is, “Yes, both parties seem happy,” then we can generally agree that the relationship is consensual.

Please all caregivers…. Enlighten me on this one simple question……

How in the world do you manage to:

For a mere THREE DAYS, Tom, I and Darcey cared for a 3-year-old while her mom and dad were busy having a baby. Due to Covid precautions, my friend Angie and her husband Ray, remained in the hospital for 3 days.

WHEN INSULTS HAD CLASS... and lacked "political correctness"

A member of Parliament to Disraeli: “Sir, you will either die on the gallows or of some unspeakable disease.

“That depends, Sir,” said Disraeli, “whether I embrace your policies or your mistress.”

“He had delusions of adequacy.” - Walter Kerr

“He has all the virtues I dislike and none of the vices I admire.” - Winston Churchill

“I have never killed a man, but I have read many obituaries with great pleasure.” - Clarence Darrow

“He has never been known to use a word that might send a reader to the dictionary.” - William Faulkner (about Ernest Hemingway)

“Thank you for sending me a copy of your book; I’ll waste no time reading it.” - Moses Hadas

We are privileged to have received referrals from and be able to coordinate care with many Assisted Living facilities, rehab facilities, and Medicare Home Care and Hospice agencies. Our growth is in large part due to the trust the staff in these organizations have put in our caregivers. We are likewise impressed with them and we are committed to referring to them on a regular basis