The Fine Art of Virtual Hugging

There are only four kinds of people in the world.

Those who have been caregivers.

Those who are currently caregivers.

Those who will be caregivers, and those who will need a caregiver.

Former First Lady Rosalynn Carter in the book Helping Yourself Help Others.

There is a world of difference between those of us who are (or were) family caregivers and those who have not yet joined our ranks. Note Former First Lady Rosalynn Carter’s prophetic statement above.

I feel one main difference between being a caregiver and not being a caregiver so many times is having received the proverbial telephone call received out of the blue—the call that informs us of a loved one’s accident, a wandering episode or even from the physician with the dreaded test results. We are suddenly thrust through a caregiver’s version of the “Alice in Wonderland Looking Glass” where we found ourselves unceremoniously dropped into a world of never-before felt stresses, bizarre acronyms for nearly everything, and too few sure answers to the most important questions about our loved one’s well-being.