Five Ways to Build a Positive Relationship with Children
Children start building relationships while they are still infants. A strong and positive relationship between a child, their parents and others they spend time with is a critical component to a child's social and emotional growth. Positive relationships help children feel secure, which in turn enhances their  ability to explore their environment and make new discoveries.

These five tips will help you build and strengthen those positive relationships .
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Foster Supportive Relationships. The most important attachment for a child is a trusting relationship with their parent. Children who feel safe and supported at any age develop a positive self-esteem and have an easier time dealing with life situations, such as interacting with peers in the classroom when they start school .
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Understand Challenging Behaviors. Children of every age react to their environment. If you see changes in behavior, ask yourself:  Has there been a major change in my child's life that may be making them upset? Are they bored or overstimulated? Taking a look at their environment and making appropriate changes may help reduce inappropriate behaviors .
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Every Child is Unique.  As your child grows, you will start to recognize their unique likes and dislikes. Toys and games that your older child enjoyed, may not be interesting to your younger child. Taking the time to watch and interact with each child will help you see how they learn best and the types of interactions they prefer.
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Share Warmth and Love. Some children respond to a hug while others want to be alone. Keep in mind that the ways children receive and show warmth may change. An infant may want to be picked and cuddled when they cry where as a toddler may be soothed by a calm, pleasant voice or warm touch.
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Build Bonds Outside the Immediate Family. Building trusting relationships with care providers and others outside the immediate family circle is important for a child. You, as a parent, can have conversations with these other adults to discuss the important role they play in your child's life and share information about things that work and don't work for your child

Q.  My toddler screams and acts out when other children are around. She gets very upset if another child wants to play with her toys or books. When we host play groups there are several children of different ages playing with her toys. How can I help my child build positive relationships with those around her ?
A. Children will respond differently in situations that are stressful or out of their comfort level. It may be that your child is overstimulated by having so many friends over at once. It can be hard for them to understand the idea of sharing toys especially when they feel they don't have control over what is going on. Try hosting one friend at a time. Sit with the children as they play to see how your child reacts. Taking some time to work on skills like sharing may help her feel more comfortable .

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