St. Bernadette Parish
Dear Parents,

In this fourth and final candidate session of Fall 2020, after discussing so much about a personal commitment to follow Jesus, we underscored the importance of community in that life of discipleship.

Main Points:
  • Aristotle said there are 3 types of friends: Friends of Utility (usefulness), Friends of Pleasure (enjoyment) and Friends of Virtue. The third type are friends that are concerned for your good.
  • Having a mentor is like a coach for following Jesus. They can teach you but also work beside you to reach goals and find new places to grow. (Mentors include Confirmation Sponsors, but those are not the only faith mentors in your child's life.)
  • Accountability is essential to discipleship: To be accountable means to own up to an expectation or a standard we are trying to reach. We take account of where we are in meeting that standard. To do this with another person keeps us honest.

“The 5 S’s of Accountability” help us have specific goals to work on in our life with Christ:
  • Service
  • Praying with Scripture
  • Sacraments
  • Overcoming Sin
  • Sharing Jesus with Others

View the video we watched during tonight's session here: The Invitation Session 4: You Are Not Alone

In the time between now and the January 4th deadline:
  • Candidates should complete their Discipleship Plan 1.0 Form (their plan for responding to the kerygma in their life, using the 5 S's above, during the Advent & Christmas seasons (November through early January).
  • Sponsors should complete the Sponsor Covenant Form, if they have not already done so.
  • Both online forms are linked on the Confirmation 2021 page on our website:


  • ASK: Who are the people in your life that bring out the best in you? (Parents, share your thoughts on this as well.)

  • SHARE: Who are your "friends of virtue," and how do they keep you accountable? Recall 5 S’s of Accountability. Are there any that you think we can work on as a family?

  • DISCUSS: How are you responding to the kerygma in your Discipleship Plan 1.0? What questions do you have about your Discipleship Plan? How can our family support you in that plan?

  • PRAY: Read through the theme scripture from tonight (below), slowly, listening for what God is saying to you through the passage. Perhaps use the lectio divina method to guide you:

“Iron is sharpened by iron;
one person sharpens another.”
(Proverbs 27:17)

NEXT Candidate Session
Wednesday, Jan. 18th
7:00-8:30 pm

(Reminder: There are no gathered Confirmation sessions in December. Beginning in January, sessions will occur once monthly on the 2nd Wednesday, allowing more time for independent work with sponsors. More information about that non-gathered sponsor component will be shared at the beginning of the year.)

To access the entire year's Confirmation calendar,
click the button below to go to the Confirmation 2021 page:

Don't Forget: The Sponsor Covenant Form is Available!

Direct your sponsor to go to
and scroll to "Sponsor Corner" to access the Google Form.
***Sponsors must complete the form no later than January 4th, 2021.

A sponsor for Confirmation:
  • may not be one of your parents
  • must be a Confirmed Catholic man or woman, age 16 or older
  • must be an practicing member of a Catholic parish
  • should be available to meet with you regularly
  • should be someone you respect and admire in faith

Whom to consider as a sponsor...
  • One (or both) of your godparents
  • A close aunt, uncle, older cousin
  • A close friend's mother or father
  • A former or current teacher, catechist, adult leader, or peer minister

Need help identifying a sponsor? We can help!

Our next Mass & Mercy Night is December 20th!
  • ALL Confirmation families are invited to participate in Mass & Mercy Nights, even those not required to participate in Sunday evening faith formation!

Payment Methods Reminder:

You can always send a check for payment to:
801 Stevenson Road, Severn, MD 21144

Checks should be made payable to "St. Bernadette Parish" and should include the child's/children's name(s) & program(s) in the memo line.

Online payment portal for Confirmation ($150) is now live:

Those also paying for Faith Formation can access
online payment for that program ($50 per child) here:

Or you can use Venmo: @STB801

Donations to help cover the cost for those unable to pay, or to allow us to spring for resources or technology we might otherwise forgo, are also always welcome. Interested? Let's talk!

Come, Holy Spirit!

Ms. Rena