Blue Christmas
Rev. Dr. Sarah Griffith Lund
Lately the skies in central Indiana look like puddles of muddy water. This makes for excellent bird watching, especially when the crisp red feathers of a male cardinal flash by, landing on a bare tree branch outside my window. What is good for creation, the seasons of spring, summer, fall, and winter, representing cycles of birth, death, and rebirth, can be challenging for our mental health. Like the changing weather, our moods fluctuate.
As winter approaches, highlighted by the spiritual seasons of Advent and Christmas, so do the seasonal effects on our moods and mental health. Our faith tells us there is good news to anticipate, celebrate, and share with the world. Christ the savior is born! The Prince of Peace is with us. Our hearts want to, as the hymn verse says, “repeat the sounding joy!”
Yet, all is not silent and bright. There is shouting on the internet and there is dullness in the spirit of people afraid of the future. We are tired, anxious, and scared. The changes coming with the new administration will impact all of us. We just don’t yet know how. Amid our joy, there is also grief. We anticipate the losses to come.
Currently there is a mental health crisis unfolding, with high rates of depression and anxiety impacting children, teens, and young adults. According to the National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI), one in five people are currently experiencing mental health symptoms and depression is the most common form of disability in the world. People in the pews are impacted by the epidemic of loneliness.
Blue Christmas is the name for an invitation to gather in the spirit of Christ during a season that is filled with heavy burdens. It is an offering of sacred space and community to be authentic about what we worry about during this holy season. Blue Christmas names the truth that many of us experience this season as stressful, overwhelming, and sad.
Blue Christmas helps us name our realities in a way that honors our dignity and worth as children of God. Being intentional to create spaces to acknowledge all our moods, feelings, and emotions out loud in the church helps reduce the stigma, shame, loneliness, and isolation that often is associated with not being in a festive mood to celebrate.
Does your faith community have a Blue Christmas worship service, community event, or prayer space? Often provided during the season of Advent, Blue Christmas can occur any day leading up to Christmas. Blue Christmas can be a worship service in the sanctuary with candlelight, or a zoom worship service with time for people to check-in, followed by a time of prayer.
Blue Christmas can also be a theme for a small group, such as a women’s fellowship or youth group gathering. Or Blue Christmas can be a prayer station that is assembled in the sanctuary or narthex where people can write down their worries and put them in a blue prayer box. The gift of Blue Christmas is that the concept can be adapted to best fit your community’s spiritual and emotional needs.
At the heart of Blue Christmas is the witness to the presence of God’s love in every season, including the seasons of life filled with despair, depression, anxiety, and hopelessness. The observance of Blue Christmas is a time to break the silence about our mental health experiences, and to share stories about what it is like to navigate our Christian faith during times of emotional difficulty and mental health symptoms. As we share our stories with one another, we help end the stigma associated with mental health symptoms. We can also share local support resources, such as support groups (NAMI or 12 Step) and local counseling services. We can share about the national, free and confidential text/call/chat hotline 988 for emotional support.
Blue Christmas inspires hope because in naming these realities, we realize we are not alone. We are in the company of the faithful. We are in the company of Jesus, who promises to be with us always. Our faith communities are uniquely positioned to create communities of compassion, care, and belonging that can help make Christmas a little less blue and lonely. As a community of faith, God invites us to come together as one and to love one another.
Be encouraged, friends, as you take simple steps to create spaces in your faith community for God’s love to wrap around all those who may look happy, merry, and bright on the outside, but are hurting on the inside. As the red cardinal sweeps through the gray Indiana sky, I am reminded once again of the Holy Spirit’s presence in my life, even on the grayest of days. I remember that I am not alone. I remember that I am loved.
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